Post-Partum Depression and the Relational Shifts Further Strain Mothers @estherperel

Uploaded August 2026 | Updated September 2026, 1 hour ago

An important conversation is happening online around Postpartum Depression. It is essential that women can secure focused medical and mental health resources; and that we remind them it is a modern phenomenon to expect a mother to handle everything herself; or to teach her that Motherhood is instinct and she’s doing it wrong if it doesn’t “come easily” to her. As we discuss resourcing mothers and parents, let us also consider how we can also support women relationally so they don’t feel there’s no one to turn to.

Post-Partum Depression and the Relational Shifts Further Strain Mothers

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Chapters 00:26 Are We at a Crossroads or Just Afraid to Let Go? 01:06 Can Living Together Apart Actually Deescalate Us? 02:11 Should We Try Again or Protect What’s Working? 02:55 Did Our Love Story Start on Shaky Ground? 03:44 Was It Ever About Fun or Something Deeper? 07:13 How Did Our Roles Get So Rigid So Fast? 09:34 Why Does Home Get the Leftovers? 12:59 When Did Jokes Turn Into Contempt? 16:17 Did the Pandemic Break Us or Expose Us? 18:45 Is This About Autonomy or Old Family Patterns? 21:43 Is Control Just Fear in Disguise? 24:05 Did We Come Out of Lockdown Wanting Opposite Lives? 25:06 Did We Lose Each Other During BLM and Isolation? 26:41 How Did We End Up Switching Roles Completely? 28:15 Am I Chasing Validation or Avoiding Myself? 30:15 Did We Turn Each Other Into a “Fun Machine”? 33:17 What Happens If We Truly Deescalate? 35:22 Can Live-In Separation Actually Work? 36:20 What If Differentiation Matters More Than Labels? 39:25 Can Music Teach Us How to Stay Ourselves Together? 42:15 Are We Rushing to Define Something That’s Working? 46:48 What Does Sex Mean When We’re Not “Together”? 48:43 What If We Let This Evolve Without Forcing It? 50:05 Could Uncertainty Actually Be the Medicine? 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