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This is a short clip from a 20-minute from "The Courageous Battle of Lucy Chapman: Escaping an Abusive Marriage in 1903" - youtu.be/T5NsoZWdYfU?si=4ZZgTmphs-0gMjUk
This episode narrates the remarkable story of Lucy Chapman, who, against all odds, secured a divorce from her alcoholic runaway husband who gambled away the rent and grocery money in 1903, a time when divorce laws were heavily biased against victims—and empowered the marriage-destroyers, by setting up the institution of marriage as all important.
Lucy's journey from a struggling farm family to finding freedom and success is a tale of resilience and perseverance. The video explores the oppressive nature of old divorce laws and celebrates the transformative impact of no-fault divorce legislation, which has saved countless lives by empowering victims to escape abusive relationships.
00:00 The Remarkable Story of Lucy Chapman
00:23 Lucy's Early Life and Marriage
01:56 The Struggles Begin
03:31 The Harsh Realities of Old Divorce Laws
04:58 Lucy's Fight for Freedom
11:56 The Impact of No-Fault Divorce
17:45 Lucy's New Beginning
18:46 George's Downward Spiral
19:32 The Legacy of Lucy's Courage
Find out why we much protect our current option to file for no-fault divorces.
This is a short clip from a 20-minute from "The Courageous Battle of Lucy Chapman: Escaping an Abusive Marriage in 1903" - youtu.be/T5NsoZWdYfU?si=4ZZgTmphs-0gMjUk
This episode narrates the remarkable story of Lucy Chapman, who, against all odds, secured a divorce from her alcoholic runaway husband who gambled away the rent and grocery money in 1903, a time when divorce laws were heavily biased against victims—and empowered the marriage-destroyers, by setting up the institution of marriage as all important.
Lucy's journey from a struggling farm family to finding freedom and success is a tale of resilience and perseverance. The video explores the oppressive nature of old divorce laws and celebrates the transformative impact of no-fault divorce legislation, which has saved countless lives by empowering victims to escape abusive relationships.
00:00 The Remarkable Story of Lucy Chapman
00:23 Lucy's Early Life and Marriage
01:56 The Struggles Begin
03:31 The Harsh Realities of Old Divorce Laws
04:58 Lucy's Fight for Freedom
11:56 The Impact of No-Fault Divorce
17:45 Lucy's New Beginning
18:46 George's Downward Spiral
19:32 The Legacy of Lucy's Courage
Find out why we much protect our current option to file for no-fault divorces.



![Lundy Bancroft: Why Moms Are Losing Custody of Their Kids to Abusers, and What YOU Can Do
Interview with Lundy Bancroft, the bestselling author of “Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men” about his new novel, IN CUSTODY.
Per Lundys website, the book is: Part humor, part romance, and part suspense, Lundy Bancrofts In Custody is the story of a young journalist who sets out to discover why a mother and her daughter have gone missing and finds herself digging into the dark world of family court corruption. In Custody is available in paperback & Kindle editions: (Amazon affiliate link: https://amzn.to/3AD1LtP)
Key Quote: We now have a [long] history of custody courts chronically refusing to protect children and refusing to look at the evidence. The custody courts are fond of saying, “Well, its just his word against hers” and “we didnt have any evidence that he was abusing the children,” and thats usually not true, usually thats the courts’ excuse for refusing to look at the evidence.
HIGHLIGHTS:
(For more information, go to http://www.InCustodyTheNovel.com/resources)
04:50 – Courts aren’t always doing a good job protecting kids, so sometimes the mother wants to take things into her own hands and flee with the child. IN CUSTODY tells the tale of a mother who escapes by means of an underground network. Do these exist?
06:20 – Why are mothers losing custody of their children in court? Why are courts stripping custody from mothers and granting 50/50 custody to violent men?
06:40 – History: Back in the 1970s and 1980s child support enforcement laws had an unintended consequence. Stricter collection of child support created a backlash. (It might have been better to let abusers walk away.)
07:30 – So-called “Father’s Rights” organizations sprang up. They were not interested in the legitimate concerns of fathers. They fought to throw out disclosures of violence and sexual abuse made by the mother, by the children, and by doctors and therapists. They started attracting abusers to their organizations, even recruiting them. They are mainly interested in owning and controlling their children, not in spending quality time with them (15:00).
However, Lundy also discusses mothers who abuse children (29:30).
8:48 – In the 1970s-80s, laws changed to give women the right to live without being subjected to abuse. No-fault divorce laws were designed to help abused women to get away. The pent-up demand spiked the divorce rate up for 20 years. Then it dropped.
09:26 – Even though the new laws saved lives (reduced the suicide rate of women, domestic violence rate by and against women and men, and the homicide rate of women killed by intimates — http://www.lifesavingdivorce.com/divorcesaveslives) the family law courts have not wanted to change. They dismiss disclosures of domestic violence, even from children.
11:45 – Family Court is getting worse. It is enabling domestic violence. It is even forbidding mothers to protect their children.
TIPS: See more at http://www.lifesavingdivorce.com/incustody
12:30 – Mothers need to organize the way that the Fathers Rights groups have. Merely passing laws isn’t enough. Mothers need to protest, picket, speak out in communities, and get on the news. They need to recruit just as abusive men have.
15:25 – Moms feel isolated. They need support and to know they are not alone. Mothers need to join organizations and get educated. See link to 11 organizations: Resources on Family Court Corruption & Reform at the bottom of this page: http://www.lifesavingdivorce.com/incustody
18:00 – Know the telltale signs of “Father’s Rights” talking points.
31:44 – In the worst-case scenarios, mothers have been known to take their children and run. It’s best to do this before the divorce or temporary custody order is filed.
35:20 – There are networks that help mothers who have credible evidence to run and hide.
39:00 – Get educated on the cases where the courts betrayed mothers even when there was substantial evidence of abuse by the father. For a list go to http://www.lifesavingdivorce.com/incustody.
OTHER TOPICS
21:55 – Yes, it is possible to combat Father’s Rights ideology and win in court in some cases, but in others, the mother may have no choice. She usually doesn’t have the time or money to appeal in court.
26:30 – Some custody evaluators lie and don’t even talk with the children.
29:25 – There are mothers who are abusive to children. Sometimes the husband can be the victim of a narcissistic wife.
40:00 – Pros and cons of going to criminal court.
41:40 – Most kids side with their nurturing parent. But some side with the abuser. Bancroft has 3 new blog posts on this. For links, go to http://www.lifesavingdivorce.com/incustody
Book by Gretchen Baskerville, The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships
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