Uploaded August 2020 | Updated September 2026, 3 hours ago
Financial abuse and rage characterized this Christian marriage. In Part 1, Shirley Fessel, author of the women’s workbook “Redemption from Biblical Battering” shares her own story of being married to a violent church leader who confiscated her paychecks for 10 years and refused to let her buy basic clothing. Find out how she and three children under 12 years old escaped (with no money), gained financial stability, and built a new joy-filled life.
Part 2—youtu.be/ioY3QWQNNXw — Shirley talks about the importance of anger, and harnessing that energy to move away from danger. She discussed the "7 Levels of Confusion" that abuse victims go through before they can finally leave. And she tells us her secret of rejecting the voices in your head that say you’re a second-class Christian and disqualified from serving God after a divorce.
Part 3— youtu.be/ZPpDvGLZyl0 — In this video, we find out how Shirley rebuilt her financial stability from scratch. We discovered how she presented the situation to her children (in a positive way) and how she dealt with creditors who harassed her—and what she would do differently. She went on to buy her own home and rebuild her self-respect as a Daughter of the King
Shirley's Story
PART 1: youtu.be/dB20TR3nXUA
PART 2: youtu.be/ioY3QWQNNXw
PART 3: youtu.be/ZPpDvGLZyl0
Her website and contact form: ShirleyFessel.com
HOST
Gretchen Baskerville is a Christian divorce recovery leader and researcher. For more than 20 years, she has worked with Christian women and men going through difficult, life-saving divorces, listening with compassion to those who have suffered from domestic violence, betrayal, infidelity, and emotional abuse. She helps heartbroken people find strength and courage and healing.
Her book, "The Life-Saving Divorce" is about the 40% of divorces that are for very serious reasons. She will give you optimism about your children's future (nearly 8 in 10 children turn out fine after divorce, according to top researchers); and will help you understand emotional abuse, "gaslighting," the abuse cycle, and tips for surviving high-conflict divorces.
What's a Life-Saving Divorce? A Life-Saving Divorce is a divorce for the serious reasons: a pattern of chronic emotional abuse, infidelity, domestic violence, sexual immorality, felony behavior, neglect, substance abuse, etc.
How to Get the Book, "The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships"
Paperback Book/Kindle via Amazon: amzn.to/3CCBsnr As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Follow Gretchen Baskerville:
Subscribe to Gretchen's You Tube channel: youtube.com/channel/UCRgtUNfTlYIRDt8iOK6XPKQ
Facebook: facebook.com/gretchen.baskerville
Twitter: twitter.com/GGBaskerville
Instagram: instagram.com/gretchenbaskerville
Other helpful links
Website and Blog: LifeSavingDivorce.com
Divorce Story Interviews: LifeSavingDivorce.com/interviews
Life-Saving Divorce Email Signup: LifeSavingDivorce.com/courage
Financial abuse and rage characterized this Christian marriage. In Part 1, Shirley Fessel, author of the women’s workbook “Redemption from Biblical Battering” shares her own story of being married to a violent church leader who confiscated her paychecks for 10 years and refused to let her buy basic clothing. Find out how she and three children under 12 years old escaped (with no money), gained financial stability, and built a new joy-filled life.
Part 2—youtu.be/ioY3QWQNNXw — Shirley talks about the importance of anger, and harnessing that energy to move away from danger. She discussed the "7 Levels of Confusion" that abuse victims go through before they can finally leave. And she tells us her secret of rejecting the voices in your head that say you’re a second-class Christian and disqualified from serving God after a divorce.
Part 3— youtu.be/ZPpDvGLZyl0 — In this video, we find out how Shirley rebuilt her financial stability from scratch. We discovered how she presented the situation to her children (in a positive way) and how she dealt with creditors who harassed her—and what she would do differently. She went on to buy her own home and rebuild her self-respect as a Daughter of the King
Shirley's Story
PART 1: youtu.be/dB20TR3nXUA
PART 2: youtu.be/ioY3QWQNNXw
PART 3: youtu.be/ZPpDvGLZyl0
Her website and contact form: ShirleyFessel.com
HOST
Gretchen Baskerville is a Christian divorce recovery leader and researcher. For more than 20 years, she has worked with Christian women and men going through difficult, life-saving divorces, listening with compassion to those who have suffered from domestic violence, betrayal, infidelity, and emotional abuse. She helps heartbroken people find strength and courage and healing.
Her book, "The Life-Saving Divorce" is about the 40% of divorces that are for very serious reasons. She will give you optimism about your children's future (nearly 8 in 10 children turn out fine after divorce, according to top researchers); and will help you understand emotional abuse, "gaslighting," the abuse cycle, and tips for surviving high-conflict divorces.
What's a Life-Saving Divorce? A Life-Saving Divorce is a divorce for the serious reasons: a pattern of chronic emotional abuse, infidelity, domestic violence, sexual immorality, felony behavior, neglect, substance abuse, etc.
How to Get the Book, "The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships"
Paperback Book/Kindle via Amazon: amzn.to/3CCBsnr As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Follow Gretchen Baskerville:
Subscribe to Gretchen's You Tube channel: youtube.com/channel/UCRgtUNfTlYIRDt8iOK6XPKQ
Facebook: facebook.com/gretchen.baskerville
Twitter: twitter.com/GGBaskerville
Instagram: instagram.com/gretchenbaskerville
Other helpful links
Website and Blog: LifeSavingDivorce.com
Divorce Story Interviews: LifeSavingDivorce.com/interviews
Life-Saving Divorce Email Signup: LifeSavingDivorce.com/courage
