Uploaded October 2025 | Updated September 2026, 58 minutes ago
On this week's episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel: A couple sits down with Esther Perel to untangle trust, control, and intimacy after becoming parents. He feels weighed down by anxiety and responsibility; she struggles with ADHD, resistance to structure, and fears of falling short in her art career. Their love is strong, but everyday tensions spiral into power struggles. Esther challenges them to move beyond their labels and find a new connection.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction: The Dilemma of Communication
01:50 Meet the Couple: Struggles with Parenthood and Mental Health
03:35 The Impact of Neurodivergence on Relationships
04:19 Therapy Speak and Its Consequences
05:09 Current Emotional States and Parenting Challenges
12:18 The Importance of Trust and Communication
14:34 Power Struggles and Control Issues
27:08 Financial Pressures and Career Aspirations
31:44 Understanding the Challenge of Different Approaches
33:02 A Real-Life Example: Pool and Dinner Dilemma
37:14 The Underlying Issues: Personal Histories and Emotional Needs
40:26 Strategies for Better Communication and Support
46:05 The Importance of Playfulness and Rituals
51:37 Final Thoughts
About Where Should We Begin?:
Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others.
About Esther Perel:
Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.
On this week's episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel: A couple sits down with Esther Perel to untangle trust, control, and intimacy after becoming parents. He feels weighed down by anxiety and responsibility; she struggles with ADHD, resistance to structure, and fears of falling short in her art career. Their love is strong, but everyday tensions spiral into power struggles. Esther challenges them to move beyond their labels and find a new connection.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction: The Dilemma of Communication
01:50 Meet the Couple: Struggles with Parenthood and Mental Health
03:35 The Impact of Neurodivergence on Relationships
04:19 Therapy Speak and Its Consequences
05:09 Current Emotional States and Parenting Challenges
12:18 The Importance of Trust and Communication
14:34 Power Struggles and Control Issues
27:08 Financial Pressures and Career Aspirations
31:44 Understanding the Challenge of Different Approaches
33:02 A Real-Life Example: Pool and Dinner Dilemma
37:14 The Underlying Issues: Personal Histories and Emotional Needs
40:26 Strategies for Better Communication and Support
46:05 The Importance of Playfulness and Rituals
51:37 Final Thoughts
About Where Should We Begin?:
Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others.
About Esther Perel:
Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.
