Uploaded January 2021 | Updated September 2026, 17 minutes ago
Here are the conclusions by the top family researchers. They all agree that while divorce is tough on kids, being brought up with abuse, tension, conflict, and/or criminality is likely far worse. This video answers parents' fears about their children's outcomes post-divorce.
This presentation gives information backed by research and debunks 7 myths about kids and divorce.
Myth 1—Divorce will destroy your kids
Myth 2—If you divorce, your kids will divorce, themselves, and they won't value marriage
Myth 3—It's always best to stay for the kids
Myth 4—If you divorce, your kids will suffer even more than they are now and it will never get better
Myth 5—If you remarry, your kids will likely be abused by your new husband or boyfriend
Myth 6—Divorce itself causes the child's problems, not the tension, abuse, addictions, betrayal, or criminal behavior in the home prior to the divorce.
Myth 7—Kids are likely to do drugs or alcohol — or have severe behavior problems in school—if you divorce
It has quotes from the top researchers in the field: Dr. Judith Wallerstein, Paul Amato, Andrew Cherlin, Mavis Hetherington, and others.
ABOUT
Gretchen Baskerville is a Christian divorce recovery leader and researcher. For more than 20 years, she has worked with Christian women and men going through difficult, life-saving divorces, listening with compassion to those who have suffered from domestic violence, betrayal, infidelity, and emotional abuse. She helps heartbroken people find strength and courage and healing.
Her book, "The Life-Saving Divorce" is about the one-half of U.S. divorces that are for very serious reasons. She will give you optimism about your children's future (nearly 8 in 10 children turn out fine after divorce, according to top researchers); and will help you understand emotional abuse, "gaslighting," the abuse cycle, and tips for surviving high-conflict divorces.
FOR A DISCUSSION ON THE TOPIC OF KIDS AND DIVORCE, read CHAPTER 7 in The Life-Saving Divorce book. Also, see the transcript of this presentation. lifesavingdivorce.com/kidspresentation
What's a Life-Saving Divorce? A Life-Saving Divorce is a divorce for the serious reasons: a pattern of chronic emotional abuse, infidelity, domestic violence, sexual immorality, felony behavior, neglect, substance abuse, etc.
How to Get the Book, "The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships"
Paperback Book/Kindle via Amazon: amzn.to/3CCBsnr As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Follow Gretchen Baskerville:
Subscribe to Gretchen's You Tube channel: youtube.com/channel/UCRgtUNfTlYIRDt8iOK6XPKQ
Facebook: facebook.com/gretchen.baskerville
Twitter: twitter.com/GGBaskerville
Other helpful links
Website and Blog: LifeSavingDivorce.com
Top 50 Blog Posts by Topic: lifesavingdivorce.com/popular
Life-Saving Divorce Email Signup: LifeSavingDivorce.com/courage
Here are the conclusions by the top family researchers. They all agree that while divorce is tough on kids, being brought up with abuse, tension, conflict, and/or criminality is likely far worse. This video answers parents' fears about their children's outcomes post-divorce.
This presentation gives information backed by research and debunks 7 myths about kids and divorce.
Myth 1—Divorce will destroy your kids
Myth 2—If you divorce, your kids will divorce, themselves, and they won't value marriage
Myth 3—It's always best to stay for the kids
Myth 4—If you divorce, your kids will suffer even more than they are now and it will never get better
Myth 5—If you remarry, your kids will likely be abused by your new husband or boyfriend
Myth 6—Divorce itself causes the child's problems, not the tension, abuse, addictions, betrayal, or criminal behavior in the home prior to the divorce.
Myth 7—Kids are likely to do drugs or alcohol — or have severe behavior problems in school—if you divorce
It has quotes from the top researchers in the field: Dr. Judith Wallerstein, Paul Amato, Andrew Cherlin, Mavis Hetherington, and others.
ABOUT
Gretchen Baskerville is a Christian divorce recovery leader and researcher. For more than 20 years, she has worked with Christian women and men going through difficult, life-saving divorces, listening with compassion to those who have suffered from domestic violence, betrayal, infidelity, and emotional abuse. She helps heartbroken people find strength and courage and healing.
Her book, "The Life-Saving Divorce" is about the one-half of U.S. divorces that are for very serious reasons. She will give you optimism about your children's future (nearly 8 in 10 children turn out fine after divorce, according to top researchers); and will help you understand emotional abuse, "gaslighting," the abuse cycle, and tips for surviving high-conflict divorces.
FOR A DISCUSSION ON THE TOPIC OF KIDS AND DIVORCE, read CHAPTER 7 in The Life-Saving Divorce book. Also, see the transcript of this presentation. lifesavingdivorce.com/kidspresentation
What's a Life-Saving Divorce? A Life-Saving Divorce is a divorce for the serious reasons: a pattern of chronic emotional abuse, infidelity, domestic violence, sexual immorality, felony behavior, neglect, substance abuse, etc.
How to Get the Book, "The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships"
Paperback Book/Kindle via Amazon: amzn.to/3CCBsnr As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Follow Gretchen Baskerville:
Subscribe to Gretchen's You Tube channel: youtube.com/channel/UCRgtUNfTlYIRDt8iOK6XPKQ
Facebook: facebook.com/gretchen.baskerville
Twitter: twitter.com/GGBaskerville
Other helpful links
Website and Blog: LifeSavingDivorce.com
Top 50 Blog Posts by Topic: lifesavingdivorce.com/popular
Life-Saving Divorce Email Signup: LifeSavingDivorce.com/courage
