Uploaded June 2020 | Updated September 2026, 2 hours ago
Panel: How to Handle Criticism When You Divorce (Part 2 of 2), featuring Gretchen Baskerville, Natalie Hoffman, and Gina Kaye.
Topics: Part 1
1) No matter how serious the problems are in our marriages, there’s always a critic who feels they must weigh in on our decision to divorce. Tell about your experience.
2) Emotionally, what do you tell yourself when someone attacks you?
3) Is there any way of getting ahead of the criticism? Any way you can educate family, friends, leaders in advance?
Part 2 of 2
4) How do you deal with false accusations? Best advice for those going through it. (Did you ever find that someone changed their mind later and sided with you? I did.)
GUESTS:
Natalie Hoffman has a fantastic blog: FlyingFreeNow.com. You can also sign up for her email list there. She has a 1-year course, called the Flying Free Sisterhood, and an optional track for divorced women: Flying Higher. To get signed up for the waiting list for next season, go to JoinFlyingFree.com.
Her book: "Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage" amzn.to/2Y0jMk3
Her workbook for journaling or group study: amzn.to/3d2gCRh
Gina Kaye is a health educator and has a soon-to-be-launched blog is ginakaye.info
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Gretchen Baskerville is the author of the Life-Saving Divorce, a handbook for men and women of faith who need to exit destructive marriages. She started leading Christian divorce recovery groups in 1998.
A "Life-Saving Divorce "is a divorce for the serious reasons: a pattern of chronic emotional abuse, infidelity, domestic violence, sexual immorality, felony behavior, neglect, substance abuse, etc.
How to Get the Book, "The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships"
Paperback Book/Kindle via Amazon: amzn.to/3CCBsnr As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Follow Gretchen Baskerville:
Facebook: facebook.com/gretchen.baskerville
Twitter: twitter.com/GGBaskerville
Instagram: instagram.com/gretchenbaskerville
Other helpful links
Website and Blog: LifeSavingDivorce.com
Divorce Story Interviews: LifeSavingDivorce.com/interviews
Life-Saving Divorce Email Signup: LifeSavingDivorce.com/courage
Panel: How to Handle Criticism When You Divorce (Part 2 of 2), featuring Gretchen Baskerville, Natalie Hoffman, and Gina Kaye.
Topics: Part 1
1) No matter how serious the problems are in our marriages, there’s always a critic who feels they must weigh in on our decision to divorce. Tell about your experience.
2) Emotionally, what do you tell yourself when someone attacks you?
3) Is there any way of getting ahead of the criticism? Any way you can educate family, friends, leaders in advance?
Part 2 of 2
4) How do you deal with false accusations? Best advice for those going through it. (Did you ever find that someone changed their mind later and sided with you? I did.)
GUESTS:
Natalie Hoffman has a fantastic blog: FlyingFreeNow.com. You can also sign up for her email list there. She has a 1-year course, called the Flying Free Sisterhood, and an optional track for divorced women: Flying Higher. To get signed up for the waiting list for next season, go to JoinFlyingFree.com.
Her book: "Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage" amzn.to/2Y0jMk3
Her workbook for journaling or group study: amzn.to/3d2gCRh
Gina Kaye is a health educator and has a soon-to-be-launched blog is ginakaye.info
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Gretchen Baskerville is the author of the Life-Saving Divorce, a handbook for men and women of faith who need to exit destructive marriages. She started leading Christian divorce recovery groups in 1998.
A "Life-Saving Divorce "is a divorce for the serious reasons: a pattern of chronic emotional abuse, infidelity, domestic violence, sexual immorality, felony behavior, neglect, substance abuse, etc.
How to Get the Book, "The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships"
Paperback Book/Kindle via Amazon: amzn.to/3CCBsnr As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Follow Gretchen Baskerville:
Facebook: facebook.com/gretchen.baskerville
Twitter: twitter.com/GGBaskerville
Instagram: instagram.com/gretchenbaskerville
Other helpful links
Website and Blog: LifeSavingDivorce.com
Divorce Story Interviews: LifeSavingDivorce.com/interviews
Life-Saving Divorce Email Signup: LifeSavingDivorce.com/courage
![Dynamics of Abuse with Bob Hamp MFT [Multi-Language]](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/Va0B3i7xXn0/mqdefault.jpg "Dynamics of Abuse with Bob Hamp MFT [Multi-Language]
Bob Hamp, MFT, is an expert on marital abuse in Christian relationships. He’s been a Christian therapist for more than 30 years. We talk today about both male and female victims and why they stay with someone who hurts them. There are 3 videos in this series. See links below:
Video #1: DYNAMICS OF ABUSE: The Mis-Assignment of Responsibility
Heres the problem: Victims of abuse don’t see themselves as victims. They see themselves as special helpers. Often abuse victims think they can “love their spouse out of his/her trap” or fill the hole in their heart. So that results in a terrible dynamic:
1. The abusers assigns responsibility to the victim to meet their demands or drives
2. An abuser makes the victim responsible for the abuser’s choices
3. The abuser tells the victim, “You are responsible for keeping the secret.”
4. Onlookers ask the victim what they did to cause it.
The victim has resources. The abuser has deficits. The abuser wants to give the deficits to the victim and take his/her resources.
When the victim finally puts an end to this, they are accused of being vindictive and “giving up too soon,” when in reality, they are finally handing the abuser/addict back his/her own responsibility.
Video 1) The Dynamics of Abuse
Video 2) How Do I Know If My Spouse Has Really Changed? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cz085lbGi-I
Video 3) My Church Says My Spouse Has Changed, But Has He Really? - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dEx-LRT-kYs
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ABOUT
Gretchen Baskerville is a Christian divorce recovery leader and researcher. For more than 20 years, she has worked with Christian women and men going through difficult, life-saving divorces, listening with compassion to those who have suffered from domestic violence, betrayal, infidelity, and emotional abuse. She helps heartbroken people find strength and courage and healing.
Her book, The Life-Saving Divorce is about the one-half of U.S. divorces that are for very serious reasons. She will give you optimism about your childrens future (nearly 8 in 10 children turn out fine after divorce, according to top researchers); and will help you understand emotional abuse, gaslighting, the abuse cycle, and tips for surviving high-conflict divorces.
FOR A DISCUSSION ON THE TOPIC OF ABUSE, read chapter 4 in The Life-Saving Divorce book, or go to www.lifesavingdivorce.com/130examples to understand overt and covert emotional, physical, spiritual, and sexual abuse and neglect.
Whats a Life-Saving Divorce? A Life-Saving Divorce is a divorce for the serious reasons: a pattern of chronic emotional abuse, infidelity, domestic violence, sexual immorality, felony behavior, neglect, substance abuse, etc.
Book, The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships
Paperback or eBook: https://amzn.to/3CCBsnr AUDIOBOOK: https://amzn.to/4f52Mh4
As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Follow Gretchen Baskerville:
Subscribe to Gretchens You Tube channel: / @lifesavingdivorce
Facebook: facebook.com/lifesavingdivorce
Twitter: / ggbaskerville
Other helpful links
Website and Blog: http://www.LifeSavingDivorce.com
Life-Saving Divorce Email Signup: http://www.LifeSavingDivorce.com/courage")
