Uploaded March 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
In today’s episode, I’m unpacking a specific (and often misunderstood) expression of this emotion: passive-aggressive anger.
We’ll explore what it looks like, why so many of us learned to express anger this way, and what you can do instead when those feelings come up.
If you’ve ever said “I’m fine” when you weren’t, used humor to mask hurt, or felt confused by mixed signals in a relationship, this will be an impactful episode for you!
🔑 Ready to build healthier relationships? Join: terricole.com/tcm
🌸 Up-level your impact and achieve your goals: terricole.com/flourish
📚 Boundary Boss Book: boundarybossbook.com
📚 Too Much Book: hfcbook.com
📚 Get my books:
Boundary Boss Book: amzn.to/44DZID9
The Boundary Boss Workbook: amzn.to/3Ra7CRU
Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency: hfcbook.com
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About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
In today’s episode, I’m unpacking a specific (and often misunderstood) expression of this emotion: passive-aggressive anger.
We’ll explore what it looks like, why so many of us learned to express anger this way, and what you can do instead when those feelings come up.
If you’ve ever said “I’m fine” when you weren’t, used humor to mask hurt, or felt confused by mixed signals in a relationship, this will be an impactful episode for you!
🔑 Ready to build healthier relationships? Join: terricole.com/tcm
🌸 Up-level your impact and achieve your goals: terricole.com/flourish
📚 Boundary Boss Book: boundarybossbook.com
📚 Too Much Book: hfcbook.com
📚 Get my books:
Boundary Boss Book: amzn.to/44DZID9
The Boundary Boss Workbook: amzn.to/3Ra7CRU
Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency: hfcbook.com
🪔 Meditate with me:
Insight Timer: https://insig.ht/cpKnbJB4KDb (I have a bunch of free meditations on here and love this app!)
Connect With Me
📸 Instagram: terricole.com/ig
📩 Newsletter: terricole.com/newsletter
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
