Uploaded May 2026 | Updated September 2026, 1 week ago
Dr. Lindsay Gibson joins me to explore how we can reparent ourselves, recover from emotionally immature parenting, and develop greater emotional maturity. We discuss what emotional maturity actually is, the "good enough" parent, the voices we internalize, and how adults can begin to give themselves the internal security and emotional attunement they missed in childhood. Other topics include why feeling misunderstood is so painful, the lifelong dance between connection and autonomy, and the hidden costs of authoritarian parenting.
About our guest: Dr. Lindsay Gibson is a clinical psychologist and bestselling author of a number of books, including Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and her new book, How to Raise an Emotionally Mature Child.
Key Topics:
0:00 Intro & what emotional maturity looks like
7:45 Why our culture undervalues emotional maturity
13:13 The “good enough” parent
20:28 What happens to children with emotionally immature parents
27:42 [Sponsor] Shopify
28:57 Repair in adulthood
38:09 The importance of feeling understood
45:52 Mirroring: why it’s important and how to get better at it
51:16 Balancing connection and autonomy
55:52 The appropriate level of parental authority
1:07:00 Parenting mistakes to avoid
1:18:13 Recap
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Dr. Lindsay Gibson joins me to explore how we can reparent ourselves, recover from emotionally immature parenting, and develop greater emotional maturity. We discuss what emotional maturity actually is, the "good enough" parent, the voices we internalize, and how adults can begin to give themselves the internal security and emotional attunement they missed in childhood. Other topics include why feeling misunderstood is so painful, the lifelong dance between connection and autonomy, and the hidden costs of authoritarian parenting.
About our guest: Dr. Lindsay Gibson is a clinical psychologist and bestselling author of a number of books, including Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and her new book, How to Raise an Emotionally Mature Child.
Key Topics:
0:00 Intro & what emotional maturity looks like
7:45 Why our culture undervalues emotional maturity
13:13 The “good enough” parent
20:28 What happens to children with emotionally immature parents
27:42 [Sponsor] Shopify
28:57 Repair in adulthood
38:09 The importance of feeling understood
45:52 Mirroring: why it’s important and how to get better at it
51:16 Balancing connection and autonomy
55:52 The appropriate level of parental authority
1:07:00 Parenting mistakes to avoid
1:18:13 Recap
Sponsors:
Level up your bedding with Quince. Go to Quince.com/BEINGWELL for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns.
Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.
For a limited time, your gift will be matched, to help students and teachers who need our support. Go to DonorsChoose.org/BEINGWELL to find a classroom near you and have your gift matched today.
I'm not a clinician, and what I say on this channel should not be taken as medical advice.
Subscribe to Being Well on:
Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-well-with-dr-rick-hanson/id1120885936
Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1XY0fpdYNSEwXLVQ
Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.
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