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Here are the four reasons why you might not be ready for coaching. There are many reasons why people wouldn't be ready for life coaching. Maybe you want to read a few books or take some online courses to see if you can't give it a go on your own to to make the personal changes that you want to make. Maybe the timing's bad--maybe you're going through something really difficult and you want to get on the other side of it, so that you can clean off your plate and focus on yourself and invest in yourself and take that time.
In this list, I want you to recognize whether any of these thought patterns are thought patterns that you have that aren't going to be helping you get to where you want to be, and if you see a few of these in the people around you, you may want to question whether they're helpful people to be in your life in the first place.
Number one is Victimhood Thinking.
{from South Park: Bigger, Longer & Uncut (Paramount Pictures, 1999)} "Should we blame the government? Or blame society? Or should we blame the images on TV? Blame Canada, Blame Canada!"
Victimhood Thinking means that you're blaming other people and circumstances for the things that aren't going well in your life. "It's my parents fault for how they raised me, " or "It's my ex's fault
about my financial situation."
You have to learn to point that finger back at yourself in order to start taking responsibility and make those big changes that you want in your life.
Number two is Acting Tough.
{from Pulp Fiction (Miramax Films, 1994)} "What country are you from?" "What?" "'What' ain't no country I've ever heard of - do they speak English in 'What'?"
Any successful coaching engagement is going to require you to get uncomfortable. It's going to require you to be vulnerable. It's time to stop covering up the soft spots. Those things that are going on in your head that are giving you that heavy feeling in your chest or your throat or that knot in your
stomach...they're not going to go away on their own.
Lashing out or beating yourself up aren't the right actions to take to get you to where you want to be.
Number three is Absolutist Thinking.
{from Star Wars Episode III: Revenge of the Sith (20th Century Fox, 2005)} "Only a Sith deals in absolutes."
It's very easy to categorize everyone and everything in the world being good or bad or black or white,
but in reality the world is a million different shades of grey. Opening yourself up to the possibility
that the things you see from your perspective might not be the way things really are in the world--
that's the first step toward living the life you really want.
Number four is believing in and swearing by New-Agey nonsense.
{from Stephen King's It (ABC Mini-Series, 1990)} "Do you know what a placebo is, Eddie?"
If you think healing crystals are going to help you to get to where you want to be, then I've got news for you: if a Kardashian is selling it, it's probably not a good idea and i would really really question its
effectiveness.
So those are the four reasons why you probably aren't ready for life coaching.
Now, if you saw all of these and you're thinking this:
{from The Big Lebowski (Universal Pictures, 1998)}"Yeah well, you know that's just like
your opinion man."
If that's what you're thinking, then you're probably not ready for coaching.
If you found this video helpful please subscribe, and if you want to get unstuck, find the clarity and tools that you need to live a life that you really love, why don't you go ahead and take the first step book a free trial session with me now?
I very much look forward to our conversation.
Book your FREE trial session with Paul at bit.ly/trialsession
Learn more about Life, Executive and Business Coaching by going to confidecoaching.com
Background Music Credit: Old Bossa by Twin Musicom is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution license (creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)
Artist: twinmusicom.org
Here are the four reasons why you might not be ready for coaching. There are many reasons why people wouldn't be ready for life coaching. Maybe you want to read a few books or take some online courses to see if you can't give it a go on your own to to make the personal changes that you want to make. Maybe the timing's bad--maybe you're going through something really difficult and you want to get on the other side of it, so that you can clean off your plate and focus on yourself and invest in yourself and take that time.
In this list, I want you to recognize whether any of these thought patterns are thought patterns that you have that aren't going to be helping you get to where you want to be, and if you see a few of these in the people around you, you may want to question whether they're helpful people to be in your life in the first place.
Number one is Victimhood Thinking.
{from South Park: Bigger, Longer & Uncut (Paramount Pictures, 1999)} "Should we blame the government? Or blame society? Or should we blame the images on TV? Blame Canada, Blame Canada!"
Victimhood Thinking means that you're blaming other people and circumstances for the things that aren't going well in your life. "It's my parents fault for how they raised me, " or "It's my ex's fault
about my financial situation."
You have to learn to point that finger back at yourself in order to start taking responsibility and make those big changes that you want in your life.
Number two is Acting Tough.
{from Pulp Fiction (Miramax Films, 1994)} "What country are you from?" "What?" "'What' ain't no country I've ever heard of - do they speak English in 'What'?"
Any successful coaching engagement is going to require you to get uncomfortable. It's going to require you to be vulnerable. It's time to stop covering up the soft spots. Those things that are going on in your head that are giving you that heavy feeling in your chest or your throat or that knot in your
stomach...they're not going to go away on their own.
Lashing out or beating yourself up aren't the right actions to take to get you to where you want to be.
Number three is Absolutist Thinking.
{from Star Wars Episode III: Revenge of the Sith (20th Century Fox, 2005)} "Only a Sith deals in absolutes."
It's very easy to categorize everyone and everything in the world being good or bad or black or white,
but in reality the world is a million different shades of grey. Opening yourself up to the possibility
that the things you see from your perspective might not be the way things really are in the world--
that's the first step toward living the life you really want.
Number four is believing in and swearing by New-Agey nonsense.
{from Stephen King's It (ABC Mini-Series, 1990)} "Do you know what a placebo is, Eddie?"
If you think healing crystals are going to help you to get to where you want to be, then I've got news for you: if a Kardashian is selling it, it's probably not a good idea and i would really really question its
effectiveness.
So those are the four reasons why you probably aren't ready for life coaching.
Now, if you saw all of these and you're thinking this:
{from The Big Lebowski (Universal Pictures, 1998)}"Yeah well, you know that's just like
your opinion man."
If that's what you're thinking, then you're probably not ready for coaching.
If you found this video helpful please subscribe, and if you want to get unstuck, find the clarity and tools that you need to live a life that you really love, why don't you go ahead and take the first step book a free trial session with me now?
I very much look forward to our conversation.
