Uploaded September 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 hours ago
A big goal gives you more than something to achieve. It gives your days structure.
So what happens when the goal is finished?
I call this meaning grief: the loss of the structure that once organized your time, decisions and priorities.
Freedom creates more possibilities. It also leaves more of the choosing to you.
A big goal gives you more than something to achieve. It gives your days structure.
So what happens when the goal is finished?
I call this meaning grief: the loss of the structure that once organized your time, decisions and priorities.
Freedom creates more possibilities. It also leaves more of the choosing to you.







![Do nice guys really finish last? Heres what science says.
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Video:
A look at empirical data on how givers fare vs. others in job performance, work quality, and career advancement.
This short talk is based on organizational psychologist Adam Grants research published in academic journals and his book Give and Take.
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[TRANSCRIPT]:
Do nice guys actually finish last?
According to Adam Grants book Give and Take, nice guys do finish last.
Men and women who identify more as givers, they actually under perform.
They do less quality work.
The ironic part?
The givers were also at the top.
The question is, whats the difference?
Whats the difference between the givers who are the high achievers doing the best work, getting promoted the most, versus the givers that are down at the bottom?
The difference is the ones at the top are less agreeable.
Theyre not people pleasers.
They have boundaries.
While its definitely not a bad thing to be a giver, you have to be a giver with boundaries.
You have to stop people-pleasing.
The classic plight of the giver is that they give to themselves last. Do nice guys really finish last? Heres what science says.](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/pPwPnn_2xYQ/mqdefault.jpg)


