Uploaded February 2023 | Updated September 2026, 22 hours ago
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Video:
A look at empirical data on how "givers" fare vs. others in job performance, work quality, and career advancement.
This short talk is based on organizational psychologist Adam Grant's research published in academic journals and his book "Give and Take."
If you want to have more balance and continue to be a giver with boundaries vs. a giver who gives too much of him/herself away, book a time with me for a free consultation: bit.ly/trialsession
[TRANSCRIPT]:
Do nice guys actually finish last?
According to Adam Grant's book Give and Take, nice guys do finish last.
Men and women who identify more as givers, they actually under perform.
They do less quality work.
The ironic part?
The givers were also at the top.
The question is, what's the difference?
What's the difference between the givers who are the high achievers doing the best work, getting promoted the most, versus the givers that are down at the bottom?
The difference is the ones at the top are less agreeable.
They're not people pleasers.
They have boundaries.
While it's definitely not a bad thing to be a giver, you have to be a giver with boundaries.
You have to stop people-pleasing.
The classic plight of the giver is that they give to themselves last.
Visit Paul's website at confidecoaching.com
Video:
A look at empirical data on how "givers" fare vs. others in job performance, work quality, and career advancement.
This short talk is based on organizational psychologist Adam Grant's research published in academic journals and his book "Give and Take."
If you want to have more balance and continue to be a giver with boundaries vs. a giver who gives too much of him/herself away, book a time with me for a free consultation: bit.ly/trialsession
[TRANSCRIPT]:
Do nice guys actually finish last?
According to Adam Grant's book Give and Take, nice guys do finish last.
Men and women who identify more as givers, they actually under perform.
They do less quality work.
The ironic part?
The givers were also at the top.
The question is, what's the difference?
What's the difference between the givers who are the high achievers doing the best work, getting promoted the most, versus the givers that are down at the bottom?
The difference is the ones at the top are less agreeable.
They're not people pleasers.
They have boundaries.
While it's definitely not a bad thing to be a giver, you have to be a giver with boundaries.
You have to stop people-pleasing.
The classic plight of the giver is that they give to themselves last.
