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When success has taught you to keep raising the bar, a bigger goal can feel like the obvious answer.
In the second half of life, more difficulty does not always create more direction. The better question may be what you want the next ten or twenty years to be organized around.
A short reflection on success, midlife and what comes after achievement.
When success has taught you to keep raising the bar, a bigger goal can feel like the obvious answer.
In the second half of life, more difficulty does not always create more direction. The better question may be what you want the next ten or twenty years to be organized around.
A short reflection on success, midlife and what comes after achievement.










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[TRANSCRIPT]:
…but I jumped into some Fortune 500’s, I was climbing the ladder as they say – to who knows where.
I was working days, nights and weekends-we both were. I was burning the candle at both ends, I had gained 85 pounds, which is what? about 35 kilograms? …and there was a small part of
the job that I loved, but I told myself that all of this was to sacrifice. You’re supposed to sacrifice to get anything good. I actually believed this, and I know a lot of people still believe that… that’s the way to get anything good is to sacrifice. And you know, do this hard work, and do things you don’t like because that’s just the way it is, right?
And so I was doing that, and I wasn’t enjoying my life. I wasn’t enjoying the things I was doing, and then one day, I got a wakeup call.
One day, I got a phone call – I was getting my second cup of coffee 8 a.m. in the morning, and my father called and he was in hysterics, and he’s never in hysterics…and my brother had shot himself. And that was the worst experience of my life, and it was the best thing that ever happened to me, because it woke me up.
It made me ask “What am I doing? Why am I doing this stuff?” And so it definitely wasn’t an overnight change. In fact, it was about a good two years of going to therapy, hiring a coach, getting a personal trainer, getting back in shape – doing all these things to better myself, and when all of the “shoulds” went away, when all the “shoulds” went away of what you should be and should do, you know, culture and
family and all these influences that are yelling in our ears of what we should become, it was obvious I was a coach. Why I Coach](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/xf9voeDj_n0/mqdefault.jpg)