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We all hear each other, but are we truly LISTENING?
Active listening is much more difficult to master than you would think. Most of us are stuck in the First Level of listening, which is just waiting for the other person to stop speaking so that we can have our say.
Beyond that, there’s the Second Level, where we try to empathize with the other person. This is where we put active effort to understand what they’re saying by putting it in the context of their life.
And ultimately, there’s the Third Level, where we don’t just listen to what’s being said but also try to decipher what’s NOT being said. We pay attention to nonverbal cues: tone, body language, and even silence. While it’s very difficult to be in this state of listening all the time, it unlocks deeper connections in all your relationships.
#communication #relationships #activelistening #empathy #nonverbalcues #bodylanguage #deeperconnections #communicationgoals #selfimprovement #relationshipskills
We all hear each other, but are we truly LISTENING?
Active listening is much more difficult to master than you would think. Most of us are stuck in the First Level of listening, which is just waiting for the other person to stop speaking so that we can have our say.
Beyond that, there’s the Second Level, where we try to empathize with the other person. This is where we put active effort to understand what they’re saying by putting it in the context of their life.
And ultimately, there’s the Third Level, where we don’t just listen to what’s being said but also try to decipher what’s NOT being said. We pay attention to nonverbal cues: tone, body language, and even silence. While it’s very difficult to be in this state of listening all the time, it unlocks deeper connections in all your relationships.
#communication #relationships #activelistening #empathy #nonverbalcues #bodylanguage #deeperconnections #communicationgoals #selfimprovement #relationshipskills




![Do nice guys really finish last? Heres what science says.
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Video:
A look at empirical data on how givers fare vs. others in job performance, work quality, and career advancement.
This short talk is based on organizational psychologist Adam Grants research published in academic journals and his book Give and Take.
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[TRANSCRIPT]:
Do nice guys actually finish last?
According to Adam Grants book Give and Take, nice guys do finish last.
Men and women who identify more as givers, they actually under perform.
They do less quality work.
The ironic part?
The givers were also at the top.
The question is, whats the difference?
Whats the difference between the givers who are the high achievers doing the best work, getting promoted the most, versus the givers that are down at the bottom?
The difference is the ones at the top are less agreeable.
Theyre not people pleasers.
They have boundaries.
While its definitely not a bad thing to be a giver, you have to be a giver with boundaries.
You have to stop people-pleasing.
The classic plight of the giver is that they give to themselves last. Do nice guys really finish last? Heres what science says.](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/pPwPnn_2xYQ/mqdefault.jpg)





