Uploaded December 2024 | Updated September 2026, 1 week ago
Why do New Year's resolutions usually fail by February? @RickHanson and I explore why traditional goal-setting falls short and offer a new approach to creating lasting change. We discuss how we can uncover our authentic wants and needs, move away from a punishment mindset, and use our new knowledge to find fulfillment. This episode will teach you how to get more out of any other New Year’s content you listen to.
In the episode we walk through a practical example of brain dumping “shoulds,” shifting the focus from means to ends, and working with internal resistance. We then end the episode with a role-play focused on working with someone who wants to find a more meaningful relationship.
Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
2:25 A sense of fulfillment, and other healthy ways of orienting to our goals
14:20 Cataloguing our “shoulds”, and being driven by a sense of enthusiasm
23:45 How Forrest has personally connected with his authentic wants
29:55 The “punishment part”
35:45 Practical techniques for identifying our values
41:50 A roleplay of how to find a meaningful relationship
51:30 Reviewing the roleplay
55:30 Knowing your why
1:00:20 Developing your personal psychology, and surrendering to the best within you
1:04:25 Recap
Rick’s Yearly Program: Rick’s Foundations of Well-Being 2.0 is a year-long, science-backed journey through developing 12 key inner strengths like mindfulness, motivation, and confidence. It’s currently on sale, and if you like Being Well we think you’ll love it. Follow the link here and use coupon code beingwell20 for an additional 20% off: RickHanson.com/FWB
Subscribe to Being Well on:
Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-well-with-dr-rick-hanson/id1120885936
Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1XY0fpdYNSEwXLVQ
Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.
I'm not a clinician, and what I say on this channel should not be taken as medical advice.
You can follow me here:
🎤 apple.co/38ufGG0
🌍 forresthanson.com
📸 instagram.com/f.hanson
Why do New Year's resolutions usually fail by February? @RickHanson and I explore why traditional goal-setting falls short and offer a new approach to creating lasting change. We discuss how we can uncover our authentic wants and needs, move away from a punishment mindset, and use our new knowledge to find fulfillment. This episode will teach you how to get more out of any other New Year’s content you listen to.
In the episode we walk through a practical example of brain dumping “shoulds,” shifting the focus from means to ends, and working with internal resistance. We then end the episode with a role-play focused on working with someone who wants to find a more meaningful relationship.
Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
2:25 A sense of fulfillment, and other healthy ways of orienting to our goals
14:20 Cataloguing our “shoulds”, and being driven by a sense of enthusiasm
23:45 How Forrest has personally connected with his authentic wants
29:55 The “punishment part”
35:45 Practical techniques for identifying our values
41:50 A roleplay of how to find a meaningful relationship
51:30 Reviewing the roleplay
55:30 Knowing your why
1:00:20 Developing your personal psychology, and surrendering to the best within you
1:04:25 Recap
Rick’s Yearly Program: Rick’s Foundations of Well-Being 2.0 is a year-long, science-backed journey through developing 12 key inner strengths like mindfulness, motivation, and confidence. It’s currently on sale, and if you like Being Well we think you’ll love it. Follow the link here and use coupon code beingwell20 for an additional 20% off: RickHanson.com/FWB
Subscribe to Being Well on:
Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-well-with-dr-rick-hanson/id1120885936
Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1XY0fpdYNSEwXLVQ
Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.
I'm not a clinician, and what I say on this channel should not be taken as medical advice.
You can follow me here:
🎤 apple.co/38ufGG0
🌍 forresthanson.com
📸 instagram.com/f.hanson
