Uploaded February 2025 | Updated September 2026, 1 week ago
Over the last six years I’ve had over a hundred conversations with world-class experts on psychology, mental health, and personal development, and I’ve read hundreds of books and studies to prepare for those conversations. In this video I give you a crash course in the most important lessons I’ve learned so far. This is what I wish I knew when I started.
Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
0:28 Change is possible, but change is hard
2:19 Focus on what you can control
3:50 The consistency principle
5:22 Punishing ourselves is a losing strategy
7:02 What are you pursuing?
8:41 The negativity bias
11:03 Why you don't have self-worth
12:59 Change the beliefs you have about yourself
16:29 Forming a coherent narrative
18:54 Set reasonable expectations
21:54 The middle path
22:49 Homeostasis and social pressure
24:44 How to get good at anything
27:15 Willpower, and avoiding willpower
27:57 Don’t know mind
29:56 The trap of self-awareness
31:02 Risking disappointment
32:44 The function of bad habits
34:34 Look for those who support you
35:47 Changing our models of relationship
38:18 Authenticity
40:09 Embrace good conflict
42:09 Contempt
43:47 Start by joining
46:09 Experiencing out
47:27 Joining with the defense
48:47 Moving toward to move away
50:09 Learning to trust yourself
Subscribe to Being Well on:
Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-well-with-dr-rick-hanson/id1120885936
Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1XY0fpdYNSEwXLVQ
Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.
I'm not a clinician, and what I say on this channel should not be taken as medical advice.
You can follow me here:
🎤 apple.co/38ufGG0
🌍 forresthanson.com
📸 instagram.com/f.hanson
Over the last six years I’ve had over a hundred conversations with world-class experts on psychology, mental health, and personal development, and I’ve read hundreds of books and studies to prepare for those conversations. In this video I give you a crash course in the most important lessons I’ve learned so far. This is what I wish I knew when I started.
Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
0:28 Change is possible, but change is hard
2:19 Focus on what you can control
3:50 The consistency principle
5:22 Punishing ourselves is a losing strategy
7:02 What are you pursuing?
8:41 The negativity bias
11:03 Why you don't have self-worth
12:59 Change the beliefs you have about yourself
16:29 Forming a coherent narrative
18:54 Set reasonable expectations
21:54 The middle path
22:49 Homeostasis and social pressure
24:44 How to get good at anything
27:15 Willpower, and avoiding willpower
27:57 Don’t know mind
29:56 The trap of self-awareness
31:02 Risking disappointment
32:44 The function of bad habits
34:34 Look for those who support you
35:47 Changing our models of relationship
38:18 Authenticity
40:09 Embrace good conflict
42:09 Contempt
43:47 Start by joining
46:09 Experiencing out
47:27 Joining with the defense
48:47 Moving toward to move away
50:09 Learning to trust yourself
Subscribe to Being Well on:
Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-well-with-dr-rick-hanson/id1120885936
Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1XY0fpdYNSEwXLVQ
Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.
I'm not a clinician, and what I say on this channel should not be taken as medical advice.
You can follow me here:
🎤 apple.co/38ufGG0
🌍 forresthanson.com
📸 instagram.com/f.hanson
