Uploaded July 2026 | Updated September 2026, 3 weeks ago
This is a song about betrayal. I’m sure we’ve all felt let down or that someone has betrayed our trust at some point and, as I want my songs to be universal, I did not want these lyrics to be more specific or dark.
But for you who subscribe (thank you for your continued support by the way. It means very much to me) or have stumbled upon this page, this song was inspired by a very disturbing recent case in the Uk which mirrors the infamous Pelicot case, where a French woman had been drugged by her husband for many years and he had also invited strangers to abuse his wife.
In the Uk case the husband’s identity has not been revealed to protect his wife but he and 13 other men are to stand trial this September in connection with the case.
I read this news story a couple of days ago. It’s Sunday 28th now and I’m uploading it but probably won’t make it public for a day or two.
I usually just write when I feel like writing a song, but sometimes I just have to, this one was a “have to”.
This song is my imagining of what these women may feel upon reflecting on a life, on a love, that was a lie.
To have lived with a man and not known him at all, nor what he was doing, or capable of doing, and the betrayal of one’s trust in such a way would be horrendous and heartbreaking.
intro em for a few bars
(em) Every time they speak of you
the feeling floods me like (am) before
like a (em) sea after a quake
with waves that crash and break
on (am) shore
(d) pieces of the past,
in faded photographs of (am) you
(d) stare back at me now
like someone that I never (am) knew
who were (em) you (em a few bars)
(em) You hid your game so well
but every player has a (am) tell
a (em) silent giveaway that betrays
the things you cannot (am) say
(d) the things you tried to hide
were the ones that you (am) denied
(d) but behind a thin disguise
the truth still played within your (am) eyes
who were (em) you
(am) I read the signs all wrong, (d) all along (em a few bars)
(am) who were you
(d) why did you pretend to be
(em) what you are not
am, d, em, am, em, em
(em) Every time they speak of you
the feeling floods me like (am) before
(em) like a sea after a quake
with waves that crash and break
on (am) shore
(d) pieces of the past,
in faded photographs of (am) you
(d) stare back at me now
like someone that I never (am) knew
who were (em) you (em)
This is a song about betrayal. I’m sure we’ve all felt let down or that someone has betrayed our trust at some point and, as I want my songs to be universal, I did not want these lyrics to be more specific or dark.
But for you who subscribe (thank you for your continued support by the way. It means very much to me) or have stumbled upon this page, this song was inspired by a very disturbing recent case in the Uk which mirrors the infamous Pelicot case, where a French woman had been drugged by her husband for many years and he had also invited strangers to abuse his wife.
In the Uk case the husband’s identity has not been revealed to protect his wife but he and 13 other men are to stand trial this September in connection with the case.
I read this news story a couple of days ago. It’s Sunday 28th now and I’m uploading it but probably won’t make it public for a day or two.
I usually just write when I feel like writing a song, but sometimes I just have to, this one was a “have to”.
This song is my imagining of what these women may feel upon reflecting on a life, on a love, that was a lie.
To have lived with a man and not known him at all, nor what he was doing, or capable of doing, and the betrayal of one’s trust in such a way would be horrendous and heartbreaking.
intro em for a few bars
(em) Every time they speak of you
the feeling floods me like (am) before
like a (em) sea after a quake
with waves that crash and break
on (am) shore
(d) pieces of the past,
in faded photographs of (am) you
(d) stare back at me now
like someone that I never (am) knew
who were (em) you (em a few bars)
(em) You hid your game so well
but every player has a (am) tell
a (em) silent giveaway that betrays
the things you cannot (am) say
(d) the things you tried to hide
were the ones that you (am) denied
(d) but behind a thin disguise
the truth still played within your (am) eyes
who were (em) you
(am) I read the signs all wrong, (d) all along (em a few bars)
(am) who were you
(d) why did you pretend to be
(em) what you are not
am, d, em, am, em, em
(em) Every time they speak of you
the feeling floods me like (am) before
(em) like a sea after a quake
with waves that crash and break
on (am) shore
(d) pieces of the past,
in faded photographs of (am) you
(d) stare back at me now
like someone that I never (am) knew
who were (em) you (em)





![where are you now - an original song
I am hoping to record this song in the next week or two but wanted to share it now. On the surface, it is just a love song about the disconnect within a relationship and when it finds its way onto spotify etc, perhaps that’s all that a listener will take from it. However, here I can tell you that the inspiration for this song is dementia and for those families touched by that the lyrics might resonate a little deeper.
It is dementia action week May19- 25 and, as I doubt the recorded version will be available by then, I have decided to post this now.
lyrics and melody written by Harriet Barbir May 2025
Where are You Now?
c, dm, am
you don’t know I miss you,
you just don’t understand
c, dm, am
even when i’m here beside you
even when i take your hand
f. g
it’s like a door i can’t push through
(f) to reach the other side of you (g7)
(c) where (em) are you (am) now
where can (f) i find you
where can i find you (g) (g7)
(c) where is the (em) love you’ve (am) buried
can i (f) remind you, can i remind you (g)
your eyes they look right through me
It’s like you never knew me
it’s hard to see who i adored be
disappearing right before me
(c) where (em) are you (am) now
where can (f) i find you
where can i find you (g) (g7)
- [ ] (c) where is the (em) love you’ve (am) buried
can i (f) remind you, can i remind you (g) where are you now - an original song](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/qnDLZEOFECY/mqdefault.jpg)




