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We talk a lot about the ideals of marriage in church.
But almost never the minimum standard. đź’”
What's the line no spouse should cross? And why are we so afraid to draw it?
Watch the full video at youtube.com/watch?v=z2bAfawE-ZM&t=1s
#lifesavingdivorce #biblicalmarriage #domesticabuseawareness
We talk a lot about the ideals of marriage in church.
But almost never the minimum standard. đź’”
What's the line no spouse should cross? And why are we so afraid to draw it?
Watch the full video at youtube.com/watch?v=z2bAfawE-ZM&t=1s
#lifesavingdivorce #biblicalmarriage #domesticabuseawareness






![Arent Most Divorces Frivolous? No | The Life-Saving Divorce
NEW 2-MIN VIDEO: I was told the vast majority of divorces were frivolous Hollywood-style divorces. But are they really? No, about half of divorces in the U.S. are for very serious reasons. Heres my evidence. Four key studies done in the past 20 years show this.
Here are the four significant surveys.
Survey 1 – In this first survey, the participants had divorced over age 40. Of these, 50% of divorcees mentioned the most significant reason was one of the serious reasons: adultery, sexual immorality, domestic violence, chronic emotional abuse, or abandonment (neglect of duty). [1]
Survey 2 – In this survey of participants age 20- 55, about 42% of divorcees mentioned at least one of the reasons above as the issue that caused the divorce. [2]
Survey 3 – In this study, divorcees could select more than one major contributor to their divorce: 58% of divorcees mentioned infidelity; 30% mentioned domestic violence. (They did not offer drug/alcohol abuse as a choice.) [3]
Survey 4 – In this study, too, participants could select more than one factor in their divorce. Infidelity was a major contributor in 59.6% of divorces, substance abuse in 34.6%, and domestic violence in 23.5%. When asked for the “final straw,” nearly 6 in 10 mentioned either infidelity, domestic violence, or substance abuse. [4]
1] Xenia P. Montenegro, “The Divorce Experience: A Study of Divorce at Midlife and Beyond,” AARP the Magazine (May 2004),
[2] Paul R. Amato and Denise Previti, “People’s Reasons for Divorcing,” Journal of Family Issues 24, no. 5 (July 2003): 602-626.
[3] C. Johnson, S. Stanley, and N. Glenn, et al., “Marriage in Oklahoma: 2001 Oklahoma Baseline Statewide Survey,” (2002): 15.
[4] Shelby B. Scott, Galena K. Rhoades, and Scott M. Stanley, et al., “Reasons for Divorce and Recollections of Premarital Intervention: Implications for Improving Relationship Education,” Couple and Family Psychology: Research and Practice 2, no. 2. (2003): 131-145.
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Gretchen Baskerville is a Christian divorce recovery leader and researcher. For more than 20 years, she has worked with Christian women and men going through difficult, life-saving divorces, listening with compassion to those who have suffered from domestic violence, betrayal, infidelity, and emotional abuse. She helps heartbroken people find strength and courage and healing.
Her book, The Life-Saving Divorce is about the one-half of U.S. divorces that are for very serious reasons. She will give you optimism about your childrens future (nearly 8 in 10 children turn out fine after divorce, according to top researchers); and will help you understand emotional abuse, gaslighting, the abuse cycle, and tips for surviving high-conflict divorces.
FOR A DISCUSSION ON THE TOPIC OF divorce for serious reasons, read Chapter 2 in The Life-Saving Divorce book.
Whats a Life-Saving Divorce? A Life-Saving Divorce is a divorce for the serious reasons: a pattern of chronic emotional abuse, infidelity, domestic violence, sexual immorality, felony behavior, neglect, substance abuse, etc.
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