Uploaded April 2022 | Updated September 2026, 1 hour ago
Curiosity is a powerful tool in relationships. When we approach our partners with a curious mindset, we open up a world of understanding, empathy, and connection. Rather than reacting with anger or frustration, we can choose to be curious about their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. This allows us to see things from their perspective and gain a deeper understanding of their inner world. Curiosity helps us build trust and intimacy, and it encourages our partners to be open and vulnerable with us. By staying curious, we can avoid unnecessary conflicts and misunderstandings, and create a space for genuine communication and growth. So let's choose curiosity over anger, and watch as our relationships thrive and flourish.
For more information, check out Paul's website at confidecoaching.com
Video Transcript:
So you may have heard that phrase "don't get mad, get even." I have a different one, it's "don't get mad, get curious."
Why curiosity? Because when somebody's angry with you, there's something else that's happening, so if you're able to keep a tone of curiosity and ask that person what's really behind that. What are they afraid of? What are they concerned is going to happen?
Then it opens you up to a whole new type of conversation with that person and it and it maintains the relationship in a better state.
After you have this argument or after somebody says or does something that upsets you, then you get curious about yourself.
So, what's the story I'm telling myself? What's the what's the trigger that set me off that had me getting upset or angry?
Then take some time and journal about it and really ask yourself: "What is it that made me flinch? What is it that set me off in this situation?"
So "don't get mad get curious." See you next time
Curiosity is a powerful tool in relationships. When we approach our partners with a curious mindset, we open up a world of understanding, empathy, and connection. Rather than reacting with anger or frustration, we can choose to be curious about their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. This allows us to see things from their perspective and gain a deeper understanding of their inner world. Curiosity helps us build trust and intimacy, and it encourages our partners to be open and vulnerable with us. By staying curious, we can avoid unnecessary conflicts and misunderstandings, and create a space for genuine communication and growth. So let's choose curiosity over anger, and watch as our relationships thrive and flourish.
For more information, check out Paul's website at confidecoaching.com
Video Transcript:
So you may have heard that phrase "don't get mad, get even." I have a different one, it's "don't get mad, get curious."
Why curiosity? Because when somebody's angry with you, there's something else that's happening, so if you're able to keep a tone of curiosity and ask that person what's really behind that. What are they afraid of? What are they concerned is going to happen?
Then it opens you up to a whole new type of conversation with that person and it and it maintains the relationship in a better state.
After you have this argument or after somebody says or does something that upsets you, then you get curious about yourself.
So, what's the story I'm telling myself? What's the what's the trigger that set me off that had me getting upset or angry?
Then take some time and journal about it and really ask yourself: "What is it that made me flinch? What is it that set me off in this situation?"
So "don't get mad get curious." See you next time
