Uploaded February 2026 | Updated September 2026, 1 week ago
In this episode of The Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, I’m joined by Diana Swillinger and accredited financial counselor and tax genius Dee Carter.
Whether you’re DIY-ing your taxes or outsourcing to someone, this one’s for you.
📒 Read the full show notes at flyingfreenow.com/dcw33
Related Resources:
📚Feel like a hot mess after divorce? Get my FREE 5-Day Workshop (flyingfreenow.com/five-day-workshop/) that will teach you a mind-shift tool to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.
🚀 Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence in their relationships, emotional management, decision making, and self-development. Join us for live classes, coaching, Bible study, and book studies every month. Plus access to a huge library of education and coaching resources. Only $59/month.
📨 Get in touch with today’s guest, Dee Carter: mdcarter1205@gmail.com
🎙️ Check out the Renew Your Mind Podcast (dianaswillinger.com/renew-your-mind-podcast/) with Diana Swillinger
Today’s Guest: Dee Carter
Dee is an Accredited Financial Counselor (AFC). She has 15 years of experience as a tax professional where she educates, guides, and supports her clients through their tax preparation, planning and responding to the IRS, if necessary. She empowers women through education in personal finance and helps them build financial confidence through creating and achieving financial goals.
#divorcedchristianwoman #rebuildingafterdivorce #selfdevelopment #christianwomen #taxes
In this episode of The Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, I’m joined by Diana Swillinger and accredited financial counselor and tax genius Dee Carter.
Whether you’re DIY-ing your taxes or outsourcing to someone, this one’s for you.
📒 Read the full show notes at flyingfreenow.com/dcw33
Related Resources:
📚Feel like a hot mess after divorce? Get my FREE 5-Day Workshop (flyingfreenow.com/five-day-workshop/) that will teach you a mind-shift tool to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.
🚀 Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence in their relationships, emotional management, decision making, and self-development. Join us for live classes, coaching, Bible study, and book studies every month. Plus access to a huge library of education and coaching resources. Only $59/month.
📨 Get in touch with today’s guest, Dee Carter: mdcarter1205@gmail.com
🎙️ Check out the Renew Your Mind Podcast (dianaswillinger.com/renew-your-mind-podcast/) with Diana Swillinger
Today’s Guest: Dee Carter
Dee is an Accredited Financial Counselor (AFC). She has 15 years of experience as a tax professional where she educates, guides, and supports her clients through their tax preparation, planning and responding to the IRS, if necessary. She empowers women through education in personal finance and helps them build financial confidence through creating and achieving financial goals.
#divorcedchristianwoman #rebuildingafterdivorce #selfdevelopment #christianwomen #taxes
![Why Your Empathy is a Superpower (and a TARGET!) - High Functioning Women Series Part Two [375]](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/tkjpyY3-qno/mqdefault.jpg "Why Your Empathy is a Superpower (and a TARGET!) - High Functioning Women Series Part Two [375]
This is Part Two of my series on high-functioning Christian women in destructive marriages. In Part One, we explored how the very qualities that make these women extraordinary are the same ones that make them exceptionally vulnerable. Today were going deeper into one of the most specific and targeted of those qualities: empathy.
If youve ever felt like your compassion is working against you, like the more you understand him, the more stuck you become, this episode will show you exactly whats happening underneath that cycle. And it will start to give you a way out.
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- Why does understanding his pain seem to pull you closer to danger instead of toward safety? The answer will reframe everything you thought you knew about your own compassion.
- Theres a biological metaphor in this episode that explains precisely how your God-given empathy gets hijacked, and once you see it, you cannot unsee it.
- What does a scapegoat have to do with your marriage? Natalie unpacks a family systems concept that might explain why you always end up holding everyone elses chaos.
- Theres a trap that was specifically designed to make every exit feel impossible. Natalie names it, and then shows you the crack in the wall.
- Whats the difference between empathy and enabling, and why does that distinction change everything about how you move forward? The answer might surprise you.
Get Today’s Free Resource:
📒 Take a free Emotional Abuse Assessment by going to emotionalabusequiz.com
I will also send you my weekly Hope Letters for Christian women in emotionally and spiritually abusive marriages.")
![Can AI Help Christian Women in Emotionally Abusive Marriages? [364]](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/u4CSs3uSRAI/mqdefault.jpg "Can AI Help Christian Women in Emotionally Abusive Marriages? [364]
What if an AI could help you organize your abuse evidence, understand your trauma, and save you thousands in legal fees?
Aimee Says isnt just another AI tool—its a specialized digital health platform that understands power and control dynamics, helps you document patterns of abuse, organizes your evidence for court, and keeps your data completely private and encrypted. Whether youre trying to understand whats happening in your marriage, preparing for custody battles, or just need someone to help you see the patterns you cant yet name, this tool could change everything.
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- Privacy matters: Unlike ChatGPT, Aimee Says doesnt use your data to train AI models, and your conversations are encrypted and completely private which is critical when youre dealing with abuse.
- Specialized training: Aimee is educated in power and control dynamics, trauma-informed care, family court systems, and the intersection of faith and abuse.
- Timeline and documentation: The paid version tracks everything you tell it, creates timelines of abuse, identifies patterns, and organizes evidence in ways that family court judges and attorneys actually want to see.
- Removes the emotion: Aimee takes your raw, emotional experiences and translates them into clean, professional documentation that wont trigger the allergic reaction judges have to trauma responses.
- You are the one rescuing you: The women who fare best are those who stop waiting for someone else to save them and use tools like this to take back control of their own stories.
Get Today’s Free Resource:
🧐 Are you wondering what is happening inside your own painful and confusing marriage? I wrote a book just for you called Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Get a free chapter by going to isitmebook.com
I will also send you my weekly Hope Letters for Christian women in emotionally and spiritually abusive marriages.
Anne Wintemute is the Co-Founder and CEO of Aimee Says, the AI companion for victims and survivors of domestic violence. She is a fierce champion for the rights of survivors and children, and systems that hold perpetrators accountable.
Prior to working with survivors, Anne founded and directed an elementary school that became a model for micro-schools across the United States. In her spare time, she enjoys urban homesteading with her partner and their blended family in Denver, Colorado.")
![What if “Biblical Womanhood” is Actually a Trauma Response? [380]](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/wBqGvG1CXVU/mqdefault.jpg "What if “Biblical Womanhood” is Actually a Trauma Response? [380]
Let’s talk about something called “the subjugation schema.” Its a clinical pattern that secular psychologists are actively trying to help women heal from, and the conservative Christian church has rebranded the exact same wound as godliness, biblical womanhood, and a high calling.
If youve spent your life apologizing for taking up space, smiling when you wanted to scream, or feeling guilty about basic human needs like rest, preferences, and an opinion of your own, this episode is going to feel like someone finally turned the lights on.
Key Takeaways:
- Meet Rachel and Megan: two composite women, two very different engines driving the exact same wound. Find out which one might be running you in the background right now without your permission
- The four specific ways the conservative Christian church installs this pattern in little girls and quietly reinforces it in grown women
- Why mutual submission, complementarianism, and servant leadership might be the same old subjugation wearing a friendlier nametag
- The story of Sapphira in Acts 5 that quietly dismantles the always submit to your husband theology youve been handed
- The one journal question at the end of the episode that might wake up the woman who has been hiding underneath your schema for decades
Get Today’s Free Resource:
🎁 I want to give you a free gift. It’s the audio version of my book, All the Scary Little Gods. It’s a spiritual memoir about healing from religious trauma and toxic programming. You can listen to it FREE by going to scarylittlegods.com
I will also send you my weekly Hope Letters for Christian women in emotionally and spiritually abusive marriages.")
![Do You Need Someone to Rescue You? [355]](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/wtJ3J0qaTWU/mqdefault.jpg "Do You Need Someone to Rescue You? [355]
✨ “What if you’ve been hoping to be saved... when you already are?” ✨
In today’s episode, I’m asking a question that might just blow the roof off your religious conditioning: What if salvation isn’t something you earn, but something that’s already been purchased and given to you?
I’m sharing a personal story that changed my life: the moment I sat in a hotel room, surrounded by 20 years of marriage journals, made a terrifying decision… and was met not with condemnation, but with overwhelming JOY and peace. The kind of joy religiosity never gave me.
🛑 If you’ve been:
- Staying in a toxic marriage because you think God said you had to…
- Working yourself to the bone to earn God’s approval…
- Terrified that one wrong move will send you slipping down the slippery slope of sin…
This one’s for YOU.
We’re talking:
✅ What the Bible really says about divorce (hint: God’s not a fan of abuse)
✅ Why performance-based faith is not the gospel
✅ The difference between knowing you’re saved... and actually believing it
⚡️ Get ready to breathe out fear and breathe in freedom.
🎁 Listen to my book, All the Scary Little Gods, FREE by going to scarylittlegods.com.
🎙️ Check out related Flying Free Podcast episodes: “Two Hotel Rooms: One Rescue Mission” (https://www.flyingfreenow.com/344-2/) and “Praying for a Miracle — When the Miracle Might Be You Walking Away” (https://www.flyingfreenow.com/337-2/).
📒 Read the full show notes at https://www.flyingfreenow.com/355
#ChristianDeconstruction #FlyingFree #ReligiousTraumaRecovery #SpiritualAbuse #FaithFreedom #WomenOfFaith #DivorceRecovery #NatalieHoffman")
![Navigating Discard, Revenge, and Unsupportive Friends [371]](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/xDsMerL0mUc/mqdefault.jpg "Navigating Discard, Revenge, and Unsupportive Friends [371]
In this episode we tackle three questions: What happens when the abuser is the one who leaves? How do you live with the fear of post-separation or post-divorce revenge? And what do you do when your friends just dont get it?
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- Why some abusers discard their victims (and what it reveals about your progress)
- The difference between fear you should listen to and fear that steals your peace
- What actually helps kids navigate their father leaving
- The one question to ask yourself when trying to help someone understand your experience
- Why chasing validation from people who dont get it creates unnecessary suffering
Get Today’s Free Resource:
📒 Take a free Emotional Abuse Assessment by going to emotionalabusequiz.com
I will also send you my weekly Hope Letters for Christian women in emotionally and spiritually abusive marriages.")
