Uploaded May 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
Overgiving is a threat response, not a love language. Learn the brain science behind the fawn response, oxytocin, and why giving too much erodes connection. Take my FREE 3-min Brain Quiz to master focus & build resilience: drmarks.co/BrainQuiz-yt
Catch the rest of the Science of Love Series
youtube.com/playlist?list=PLazcP3-djRZ1Hzg2wUaHYJyyE3cp63Cog
Chapters
0:00 – When giving becomes anxiety, not love
0:28 – The hidden cost of constant over giving
0:58 – What over giving actually is (not generosity)
1:28 – Why it feels hard to stop
1:56 – A threat response disguised as care
2:28 – The nervous system behind over giving
3:04 – Attachment vs caregiving systems
4:01 – When caregiving gets hijacked by threat
4:30 – The fawn response in relationships
4:49 – How early conditioning wires “giving = safety”
5:38 – Oxytocin and the relief loop
6:30 – Why calm can feel uncomfortable
7:01 – Signs of over giving in daily life
8:14 – The real cost: burnout, imbalance, identity loss
8:59 – Healthy giving vs over giving
9:32 – The key question to ask yourself
10:03 – The “then vs now” anchor
11:36 – The receiving test experiment
12:23 – What your anxiety is actually telling you
13:13 – Retraining the brain for safety in calm
13:44 – The real takeaway: protection, not love
14:16 – Next: how this links to love bombing
Disclaimer: All of the information on this channel is for educational purposes and not intended to be specific/personal medical advice from me to you. Watching the videos or getting answers to comments/question, does not establish a doctor-patient relationship. If you have your own doctor, perhaps these videos can help prepare you for your discussion with your doctor.
Overgiving is a threat response, not a love language. Learn the brain science behind the fawn response, oxytocin, and why giving too much erodes connection. Take my FREE 3-min Brain Quiz to master focus & build resilience: drmarks.co/BrainQuiz-yt
Catch the rest of the Science of Love Series
youtube.com/playlist?list=PLazcP3-djRZ1Hzg2wUaHYJyyE3cp63Cog
Chapters
0:00 – When giving becomes anxiety, not love
0:28 – The hidden cost of constant over giving
0:58 – What over giving actually is (not generosity)
1:28 – Why it feels hard to stop
1:56 – A threat response disguised as care
2:28 – The nervous system behind over giving
3:04 – Attachment vs caregiving systems
4:01 – When caregiving gets hijacked by threat
4:30 – The fawn response in relationships
4:49 – How early conditioning wires “giving = safety”
5:38 – Oxytocin and the relief loop
6:30 – Why calm can feel uncomfortable
7:01 – Signs of over giving in daily life
8:14 – The real cost: burnout, imbalance, identity loss
8:59 – Healthy giving vs over giving
9:32 – The key question to ask yourself
10:03 – The “then vs now” anchor
11:36 – The receiving test experiment
12:23 – What your anxiety is actually telling you
13:13 – Retraining the brain for safety in calm
13:44 – The real takeaway: protection, not love
14:16 – Next: how this links to love bombing
Disclaimer: All of the information on this channel is for educational purposes and not intended to be specific/personal medical advice from me to you. Watching the videos or getting answers to comments/question, does not establish a doctor-patient relationship. If you have your own doctor, perhaps these videos can help prepare you for your discussion with your doctor.
