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The Chronic Philanderer | Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
On this week's episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel: He's been cheating on her for years, and she's had enough. Now she wants to know: is he in or is he out?
Chapters
00:00 Introduction: A Marriage in Crisis
01:46 The Husband's Double Life
04:41 Exploring the Root Causes
11:46 The Impact on Family Dynamics
18:14 The Struggle for Control and Resolution
22:58 Understanding the Root of Emotional Turmoil
24:11 The Impact of Family Dynamics
24:46 Navigating Personal Insecurities
25:17 The Struggle with Infidelity
26:28 Confronting Emotional Pain
28:13 The Weight of Past Losses
31:22 The Complexity of Parental Roles
33:36 The Path to Healing and Reconciliation
35:35 The Importance of Honest Communication
37:54 Reflecting on Personal Growth
43:16 Final Thoughts and Resources
About Where Should We Begin?:
Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others.
About Esther Perel:
Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.
The Chronic Philanderer | Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
On this week's episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel: He's been cheating on her for years, and she's had enough. Now she wants to know: is he in or is he out?
Chapters
00:00 Introduction: A Marriage in Crisis
01:46 The Husband's Double Life
04:41 Exploring the Root Causes
11:46 The Impact on Family Dynamics
18:14 The Struggle for Control and Resolution
22:58 Understanding the Root of Emotional Turmoil
24:11 The Impact of Family Dynamics
24:46 Navigating Personal Insecurities
25:17 The Struggle with Infidelity
26:28 Confronting Emotional Pain
28:13 The Weight of Past Losses
31:22 The Complexity of Parental Roles
33:36 The Path to Healing and Reconciliation
35:35 The Importance of Honest Communication
37:54 Reflecting on Personal Growth
43:16 Final Thoughts and Resources
About Where Should We Begin?:
Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others.
About Esther Perel:
Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.
