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I created Where Should We Begin? A Game of Stories because stories are the bridges that connect us to other humans. I later partnered with Culture Amp to create a second game for the workplace, designed to foster greater trust and collaboration. I also created courses on desire and conflict to help you build stronger, more connected relationships.

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The relationship between trust and betrayal

$I Gave Him an Ultimatum To Stop Hiding Our Relationship | Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel On this weeks episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel: A person gives their partner an ultimatum, and they fail to meet it. What happens then to the relationship? This couple comes to Esther with that question, wondering what future, if any, might be possible for them. A painful misalignment lies at the center of their polyamorous relationship. She wants to be an integrated part of his life, including his other partnerships; he wants to keep his relationships separate and invisible. Tired of feeling like a secret, she finally gave him an ultimatum: make me a visible part of your life. He wouldnt do it, and now they are left wondering if it will be possible to stay together. Chapters 00:00 Can Transparency and Secrecy Coexist? 02:32 Why Do They Keep Repeating the Same Breakup? 04:16 Are They Even Defining Poly the Same Way? 05:14 What Happens When Your Other Relationships Stay Hidden? 07:24 Can a Relationship Survive Without Full Access? 09:43 What Is Compartmentalization Protecting Him From? 10:45 Where Did His Need for Secrecy Begin? 14:24 When Does People Pleasing Become Avoidance? 16:53 The Smallest Thing She Wants From Him 18:59 Can Relationship Anarchy Become Self-Erasure? 21:26 What Happens When He Finally Starts Telling the Truth? 24:18 Is Secrecy Still Running His Life? 25:39 What Does It Do to You to Feel Like a Secret? 27:53 Why Can’t They Let Go of Something So Painful? 29:16 Can Empathy Make You Abandon Yourself? 31:53 What Is He Really Losing by Ending These Relationships? 35:47 Have They Both Been Hiding From the Truth? 39:48 Can Love Survive Without Shared Limits? 44:51 Is He Using “Poly” to Describe Something Else Entirely? 46:49 How Do You Leave Without Feeling Certain? 51:28 Could They Be Friends Instead? About Where Should We Begin?: Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. About Esther Perel: Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.$

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$My Hero Complex | Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel On this weeks episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel: When his ex calls in the middle of a crisis, he finds himself pulled back into a familiar role: the rescuer. Hes always been the one women confide in, the one who steps up, the one who proves hes a good man by making sure no one falls apart on his watch. It’s a hero complex he wears easily. If he’s needed, he feels powerful. If he’s not, he feels invisible. He’s the strong one, the reliable one, and yet he rarely asks for help himself. Can he be loved not just for what he gives, but for who he is? Chapters 00:00 Why Do I Want to Save People? 00:51 What Happens in a First Therapy Session? 01:33 Why Did My Ex Call Me in Crisis? 02:28 Did We Build Our Relationship on Shared Pain? 03:55 Was I Trying to Rescue Her? 09:32 Do People Need Me or Love Me? 13:49 Am I a Nurse More Than a Partner? 17:00 Why Am I Drawn to Broken People? 19:14 Where Does the Hero Complex Come From? 21:35 Why Is Vulnerability Harder Than Helping? 26:09 Can I Learn to Receive Instead of Rescue? 29:11 What Truth Am I Afraid to Tell Her? 31:22 What Happens When I Put Myself First? About Where Should We Begin?: Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. About Esther Perel: Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by subscribing to her Substack Entre Nous.$