Uploaded October 2025 | Updated September 2026, 1 week ago
Many people have been surprised at how I’ve been able to win others from sometimes outright antagonistic backgrounds over.
Well, I have a bit of a background in communication, and I've learned it's not about debating—it's about connecting. I don't want to win an argument; I want to win an ally. The video shares a few of the key techniques I use to win people over.
First, a crucial note: The emotional burden of this work—of patiently winning allies—should fall primarily on non-marginalized people. It's intensive emotional labor, and those most targeted by harmful ideologies have already done more than enough. We are FORCED to do this emotional labor. To be an ally is to shoulder this responsibility too.
Your approach also has to be strategic. Some conversations are for intentional, gentle seed-planting, finding common ground to build upon. Others, depending on the context, might call for a more combative stance to shut down harmful rhetoric. Each has its place, and knowing the difference is key.
These methods take practice, but they work. What's one technique you’ve used effectively? Share it with others in the comments so we can all learn!
#CommunicationTips #PoliticalDiscourse #EmotionalLabor #Persuasion #Allyship
Many people have been surprised at how I’ve been able to win others from sometimes outright antagonistic backgrounds over.
Well, I have a bit of a background in communication, and I've learned it's not about debating—it's about connecting. I don't want to win an argument; I want to win an ally. The video shares a few of the key techniques I use to win people over.
First, a crucial note: The emotional burden of this work—of patiently winning allies—should fall primarily on non-marginalized people. It's intensive emotional labor, and those most targeted by harmful ideologies have already done more than enough. We are FORCED to do this emotional labor. To be an ally is to shoulder this responsibility too.
Your approach also has to be strategic. Some conversations are for intentional, gentle seed-planting, finding common ground to build upon. Others, depending on the context, might call for a more combative stance to shut down harmful rhetoric. Each has its place, and knowing the difference is key.
These methods take practice, but they work. What's one technique you’ve used effectively? Share it with others in the comments so we can all learn!
#CommunicationTips #PoliticalDiscourse #EmotionalLabor #Persuasion #Allyship
