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Sarah K. Ramsey talks about how to find happiness after a toxic marriage and divorce. Sarah is host of the Toxic Person Proof Podcast — a podcast to help you avoid destructive people when you start dating again. And I love her insights on putting your life back together after divorce, and how to create a positive healthy life for yourself and your kids.
What many people don’t know is that Sarah is a pastor’s daughter. Sarah helps divorced women to move forward in life, embracing it with both hands!
03:20 - Is it possible to be happy after a divorce? Yes, yes, YES! And what does it look like to be happy after divorce?
06:15 – How to identify toxic people who are amazing at image management and blame shifting.
09:50 - What is the problem with making marriage an idol? We were told that our suffering brings people to Christ. But it doesn’t. When was the last time you heard someone say that they were attracted to Christ by seeing a wife being abused?
12:50 – Jesus didn’t allow himself to be abused during his life/ministry. He walked away; he spoke up; he was critical of his attackers, the hypocritical religious leaders. Not until the last 3 days of his life, did he sacrifice his life.
14:20 – Most children from toxic homes are grateful for a life-saving divorce, NOT destroyed by it. Many of them supported the divorce, because it saved their nurturing parent from the destructive one. Divorce brought peace and health to the home. It ended the lying, deception, rage, and fear in at least one parent’s household. Don’t believe the lie that divorce universally destroys children. lifesavingdivorce.com/abuse-is-worse-than-divorce
16:45 - What are some strategies to finding yourself after a divorce?
19:10 – Why might it be God’s hidden blessing for you if your abusive/cheating husband dumps you and leaves.
21:10 – Dating again and protecting your kids from people who bring turmoil, drama, and chaos into your life.
24:10 – Don’t lower your standards when you start dating again. Prioritize peace, calm, and rest in your home. A loving step-parent is a good example to the children. A bad step-parent is bad for the kids. Or you can have a happy home as a single parent.
26:20 – How to deal with criticism from pastors, church leaders, and friends in your fellowship. In the end, it is your decision to divorce or stay. You cannot fight City Hall. You don’t need your pastor’s approval.
“I was not put on this planet to help people become better sinners.”
31:20 – The people-pleasing trap.
36:30 – How to live well.
Sarah’s contact information:
Use the contact form at www.sarahkramsey.com.
Listen to the Toxic Person Proof podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/toxic-person-proof/id1518667023
Sarah’s video on how to know if your spouse has really changed and the holiness-over-happiness myth. youtu.be/RQSqEHxVMzw
Sarah’s interview with domestic violence expert Lundy Bancroft: lifesavingdivorce.com/lundy
ABOUT
Gretchen Baskerville is a Christian divorce recovery leader and researcher. For more than 20 years, she has worked with Christian women and men going through difficult, life-saving divorces, listening with compassion to those who have suffered from domestic violence, betrayal, infidelity, and emotional abuse. She helps heartbroken people find strength and courage and healing.
Her book, "The Life-Saving Divorce" is about the one-half of U.S. divorces that are for very serious reasons. She will give you optimism about your children's future (nearly 8 in 10 children turn out fine after divorce, according to top researchers); and will help you understand emotional abuse, "gaslighting," the abuse cycle, and tips for surviving high-conflict divorces.
FOR A DISCUSSION ON THE TOPIC OF FINDING HAPPINESS AND MOVING ON IN LIFE, read Chapter 10 in The Life-Saving Divorce book.
What's a Life-Saving Divorce? A Life-Saving Divorce is a divorce for the serious reasons: a pattern of sexual immorality, physical abuse, chronic emotional abuse, domestic violence, felony behavior, life-destroying addictions, or abandonment/neglect.
How to Get the Book, "The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships"
Paperback Book/Kindle via Amazon: amzn.to/3CCBsnr As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Follow Gretchen Baskerville:
Subscribe to Gretchen's You Tube channel: youtube.com/channel/UCRgtUNfTlYIRDt8iOK6XPKQ
Facebook: facebook.com/gretchen.baskerville
Twitter: twitter.com/GGBaskerville
Instagram: instagram.com/gretchenbaskerville
Other helpful links
Website: LifeSavingDivorce.com
Top 50 Blog Posts by Topic: lifesavingdivorce.com/popular
Life-Saving Divorce Email Signup: LifeSavingDivorce.com/courage
Sarah K. Ramsey talks about how to find happiness after a toxic marriage and divorce. Sarah is host of the Toxic Person Proof Podcast — a podcast to help you avoid destructive people when you start dating again. And I love her insights on putting your life back together after divorce, and how to create a positive healthy life for yourself and your kids.
What many people don’t know is that Sarah is a pastor’s daughter. Sarah helps divorced women to move forward in life, embracing it with both hands!
03:20 - Is it possible to be happy after a divorce? Yes, yes, YES! And what does it look like to be happy after divorce?
06:15 – How to identify toxic people who are amazing at image management and blame shifting.
09:50 - What is the problem with making marriage an idol? We were told that our suffering brings people to Christ. But it doesn’t. When was the last time you heard someone say that they were attracted to Christ by seeing a wife being abused?
12:50 – Jesus didn’t allow himself to be abused during his life/ministry. He walked away; he spoke up; he was critical of his attackers, the hypocritical religious leaders. Not until the last 3 days of his life, did he sacrifice his life.
14:20 – Most children from toxic homes are grateful for a life-saving divorce, NOT destroyed by it. Many of them supported the divorce, because it saved their nurturing parent from the destructive one. Divorce brought peace and health to the home. It ended the lying, deception, rage, and fear in at least one parent’s household. Don’t believe the lie that divorce universally destroys children. lifesavingdivorce.com/abuse-is-worse-than-divorce
16:45 - What are some strategies to finding yourself after a divorce?
19:10 – Why might it be God’s hidden blessing for you if your abusive/cheating husband dumps you and leaves.
21:10 – Dating again and protecting your kids from people who bring turmoil, drama, and chaos into your life.
24:10 – Don’t lower your standards when you start dating again. Prioritize peace, calm, and rest in your home. A loving step-parent is a good example to the children. A bad step-parent is bad for the kids. Or you can have a happy home as a single parent.
26:20 – How to deal with criticism from pastors, church leaders, and friends in your fellowship. In the end, it is your decision to divorce or stay. You cannot fight City Hall. You don’t need your pastor’s approval.
“I was not put on this planet to help people become better sinners.”
31:20 – The people-pleasing trap.
36:30 – How to live well.
Sarah’s contact information:
Use the contact form at www.sarahkramsey.com.
Listen to the Toxic Person Proof podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/toxic-person-proof/id1518667023
Sarah’s video on how to know if your spouse has really changed and the holiness-over-happiness myth. youtu.be/RQSqEHxVMzw
Sarah’s interview with domestic violence expert Lundy Bancroft: lifesavingdivorce.com/lundy
ABOUT
Gretchen Baskerville is a Christian divorce recovery leader and researcher. For more than 20 years, she has worked with Christian women and men going through difficult, life-saving divorces, listening with compassion to those who have suffered from domestic violence, betrayal, infidelity, and emotional abuse. She helps heartbroken people find strength and courage and healing.
Her book, "The Life-Saving Divorce" is about the one-half of U.S. divorces that are for very serious reasons. She will give you optimism about your children's future (nearly 8 in 10 children turn out fine after divorce, according to top researchers); and will help you understand emotional abuse, "gaslighting," the abuse cycle, and tips for surviving high-conflict divorces.
FOR A DISCUSSION ON THE TOPIC OF FINDING HAPPINESS AND MOVING ON IN LIFE, read Chapter 10 in The Life-Saving Divorce book.
What's a Life-Saving Divorce? A Life-Saving Divorce is a divorce for the serious reasons: a pattern of sexual immorality, physical abuse, chronic emotional abuse, domestic violence, felony behavior, life-destroying addictions, or abandonment/neglect.
How to Get the Book, "The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships"
Paperback Book/Kindle via Amazon: amzn.to/3CCBsnr As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Follow Gretchen Baskerville:
Subscribe to Gretchen's You Tube channel: youtube.com/channel/UCRgtUNfTlYIRDt8iOK6XPKQ
Facebook: facebook.com/gretchen.baskerville
Twitter: twitter.com/GGBaskerville
Instagram: instagram.com/gretchenbaskerville
Other helpful links
Website: LifeSavingDivorce.com
Top 50 Blog Posts by Topic: lifesavingdivorce.com/popular
Life-Saving Divorce Email Signup: LifeSavingDivorce.com/courage
