Dene Logan Talks about Boy Moms Backstage at Esther Perel's Sessions Live 2025 @estherperel

Uploaded December 2025 | Updated September 2026, 3 minutes ago

From the vault: More BTS from Dene Logan--this time chatting about "boy moms"-- Backstage at Sessions Live 2025. I was so thrilled to be joined by Dene this past year, and right now when you go to the link in my bio, you can see the theme for the upcoming event 2026: Cultivating Aliveness: Desire & Its Disruptions and the upcoming event expert speakers as they are confirmed. Early bird tickets are still available!

Dene Logan Talks about Boy Moms Backstage at Esther Perels Sessions Live 2025

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$Constantly Proving Yourself as a High Achiever: Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel On this weeks episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel: He comes to Esther with a question about how to feel worthy without constantly having to prove himself. For him, it’s not just personal, it’s also racial. Defining himself on what he calls the “path of Black excellence,” achievement has become both a burden and a measure of identity. Together, they explore what it means to experience calm and worthiness, not through doing, but simply by being. Chapters 00:00 What Happens When Achievement Becomes the Air You Breathe? 00:50 How Do Early Expectations Shape the Story You Tell Yourself? 03:25 What Do You Hold Onto When Grief Reshapes Everything? 04:31 Who Are You When Your Professional and Personal Selves Don’t Match? 05:23 What Does “Black Excellence” Really Cost? 07:27 When Success Doesn’t Feel Like Success Anymore 14:20 How Do Relationships Mirror Your Sense of Worth? 16:31 What If Your Value Has Nothing to Do With Achievement? 23:45 How Do Your Relationships Change When You Question Your Worth? 25:01 Why Do We Keep Trying to Prove Ourselves? 25:20 What Shifts When You Finally Talk Honestly With Friends? 26:48 Is Capitalism Pushing You Into a Life You Don’t Want? 27:14 What Happens When Career Expectations Collide With Reality? 28:03 Are You Where You’re “Supposed” to Be in Life? 33:53 How Much of You Is You—and How Much Is Family and Community? 36:45 What If the Validation You’re Seeking Is Already Yours to Give? 42:09 How Do You Hold Life’s Contradictions Without Breaking? 44:33 What Stays With You After the Story Ends? About Where Should We Begin?: Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. About Esther Perel: Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com(https://bit.ly/3Zf1Ykk) or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram or subscribe to my Substack(https://bit.ly/4r7fYbO), Entre Nous, for bonus content..$ $The One Who Stays and the One Who Goes I Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel: They met in vet school and married just as they reached graduation. But now his work takes him around the world, forcing them to live apart for months at a time. He’s ready to start a family, but she’s hesitant: how can they think about children when they’re often separated by distance? As they wonder about their next phase of life, Esther helps them uncover what sits beneath the surface: the loneliness of the one who stays, the guilt of the one who goes, and the challenge of learning to stay connected across miles of separation. Chapters 00:00 What Happens When Two Futures Collide? 01:25 How Did Their Love Story Begin? 01:54 Can a Career Come Between Connection? 03:11 What If One Partner Wants a Child and the Other Isnt Sure? 04:43 How Do You Rebuild Trust When Words Stop Working? 06:17 What Happens When Two Paths Start to Diverge? 11:01 Can Love Survive Loneliness and Guilt? 17:21 How Do Our Families Shape the Way We Love? 23:24 The Snowblower That Started a Fight 25:08 A Snowy Morning—and Everything It Revealed 27:26 What Does Real Support Look Like? 28:48 Why Is Emotional Care So Hard to Give and Receive? 30:11 Can You Love Someone and Still Feel Resentful? 35:04 What Do Our Childhoods Teach Us About Love? 40:59 How Do You Balance Ambition and Intimacy? 47:58 What Future Are They Really Building Toward? 50:25 Where Do They Go From Here? About Where Should We Begin?: Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. About Esther Perel: Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com (https://bit.ly/3Mi2081), join my community on Substack(https://bit.ly/4rurUEz) for Bonus Content or follow @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.$

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$Can I Be The Center of Attention In My Family for Once? | Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel On this weeks episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel: With her wedding just weeks away, a young woman calls Esther with a question she’s been carrying for most of her life: how do you allow yourself joy when you’ve learned to make yourself small? Growing up alongside a non-speaking autistic brother taught her to be vigilant, self-effacing, and attuned to everyone else’s needs. Joy and celebration have always come with guilt. As the wedding approaches, those old patterns threaten to keep her on emotional eggshells during one of the most meaningful days of her life. Together, they explore what it means to grow up as the “easy” child, and how claiming space does not betray the people we love, and how she can ask her parents to be present for and with her. Chapters 00:00 Can She Let Herself Feel Happy? 00:28 Is Her Wedding Leaving Her Brother Behind? 02:54 Is This Her Story to Tell Too? 05:12 What Does Growing Up With Disability Teach You? 06:34 Why Does Attention Feel Like Guilt? 09:11 Is Sadness the Same as Guilt? 11:36 When Did She Learn to Make Herself Small? 14:33 Why Wasn’t She Allowed to Be Angry? 17:11 Why Is Everyone Walking on Eggshells? 19:21 What Happens When You Ignore Your Feelings for Years? 22:42 How Do You Stop Freezing? 24:15 How Can the Wedding Actually Be About Her? 26:33 Can a Family Get Stuck Managing One Person’s Emotions? 27:53 Who Supports the Siblings? 29:37 What Happens When Your Needs Never Take Up Space? 34:03 Why Is the Wedding Bringing Everything to the Surface? 38:43 How Do You Finally Talk to Your Parents? 43:12 Can She Let This Day Belong to Her? 45:30 What Is She Finally Allowed to Want? 49:46 Through Catharsis, A New Voice Emerges About Where Should We Begin?: Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. About Esther Perel: Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or subscribe to her Substack Entre Nous for Bonus Content.$

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$Why Do I Lose Myself in Relationships? Where Should We Begin? With Esther Perel What if Dating Isnt For Me? | Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel On this weeks episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel: Shes 26 and has never been in a relationship that made her feel happier or more fulfilled than when shes single. Shes questioning whether being in a relationship is right for her. Esther helps her explore the issues stemming from her childhood, her need for perfection, and how these impact her romantic life. Chapters 00:00 Is Being in a Relationship Right for me? 01:17 What Makes a Relationship Feel Truly Fulfilling? 03:56 Can You Stay Yourself While Loving Someone Else? 06:07 How Does Fear of Rejection Shape Self Worth? 15:23 Where Does the Inner Critic Really Come From? 22:52 Is It Possible to Turn Self Criticism Into Motivation? 26:43 How Is Self Criticism Quietly Shaping Daily Life? 27:45 What Happens When Self Compassion Enters a Relationship? 34:30 Why Does Doing What You Love Feel So Transformative? 35:59 What Makes Starting a New Relationship Feel So Uncertain? 38:32 How Do You Ground Yourself When Anxiety Takes Over? 41:32 Why Is Asking for What You Need So Hard? 43:37 What Does It Really Take to Trust and Risk Love? 47:24 What Does It Mean to Truly Blossom? About Where Should We Begin?: Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. About Esther Perel: Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.$