Uploaded August 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
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Tommy Mello explains the who, why, how framework from his book Built to Serve, describing his core belief that humans are simply built to serve others. He points to functional MRI research showing that serving people activates the same part of the brain as food and physical intimacy, which is why a lack of service so often leads to anxiety, depression, and even worse outcomes. Everyone finds their own scale of service, from his wife who focuses on the fifty closest people in their combined family, to entrepreneurs with much bigger public missions.
He shares that his purpose came directly from his pain, and that watching someone struggle with the exact thing he once struggled with, then helping them through it, is more rewarding than any record breaking day in business. Making a show or writing a book is never about boosting your own ego, it is about who is on the other side ready to learn and change their life because of it. Tommy notes that his first book took years to finish because he wanted it to be a masterpiece, while his second book flew by once he let go of that pressure.
The two discuss the power of storytelling over statistics, since human beings remember stories far longer than facts or figures. Tommy shares his advice for anyone hesitant to write a book: write it to your younger self, since that person already has something worth saying to somebody exactly where they used to be. He describes a park bench exercise where you imagine sitting with your younger self for five minutes and saying the one thing they most needed to hear, whether that is about drinking and driving or any other painful lesson learned the hard way.
Tommy admits that his family and closest team hear ten times more honest feedback from him than anyone else, because they are the ones close enough to absorb it. He also shares a personal shift toward giving more compliments, describing a manager who carries ten pennies in one pocket and moves them to the other pocket only after giving ten genuine compliments in a day. Small gestures like a handwritten note left on a colleague's desk cost nothing but make a lasting emotional impact.
Evan points out that the real value is not just the mindset behind ideas like eliminate, automate, and delegate, but the specific daily habits that bring those ideas to life, whether that is the penny system or the handwritten notes. Tommy agrees that translating a belief system into small repeatable actions is what actually changes a company's culture over time.
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To join the YouTube Mastermind, DM Evan on Instagram at instagram.com/evancarmichael
Tommy Mello explains the who, why, how framework from his book Built to Serve, describing his core belief that humans are simply built to serve others. He points to functional MRI research showing that serving people activates the same part of the brain as food and physical intimacy, which is why a lack of service so often leads to anxiety, depression, and even worse outcomes. Everyone finds their own scale of service, from his wife who focuses on the fifty closest people in their combined family, to entrepreneurs with much bigger public missions.
He shares that his purpose came directly from his pain, and that watching someone struggle with the exact thing he once struggled with, then helping them through it, is more rewarding than any record breaking day in business. Making a show or writing a book is never about boosting your own ego, it is about who is on the other side ready to learn and change their life because of it. Tommy notes that his first book took years to finish because he wanted it to be a masterpiece, while his second book flew by once he let go of that pressure.
The two discuss the power of storytelling over statistics, since human beings remember stories far longer than facts or figures. Tommy shares his advice for anyone hesitant to write a book: write it to your younger self, since that person already has something worth saying to somebody exactly where they used to be. He describes a park bench exercise where you imagine sitting with your younger self for five minutes and saying the one thing they most needed to hear, whether that is about drinking and driving or any other painful lesson learned the hard way.
Tommy admits that his family and closest team hear ten times more honest feedback from him than anyone else, because they are the ones close enough to absorb it. He also shares a personal shift toward giving more compliments, describing a manager who carries ten pennies in one pocket and moves them to the other pocket only after giving ten genuine compliments in a day. Small gestures like a handwritten note left on a colleague's desk cost nothing but make a lasting emotional impact.
Evan points out that the real value is not just the mindset behind ideas like eliminate, automate, and delegate, but the specific daily habits that bring those ideas to life, whether that is the penny system or the handwritten notes. Tommy agrees that translating a belief system into small repeatable actions is what actually changes a company's culture over time.
#Motivation #Shorts #EvanCarmichael
