Derek Van Schaik | Why you need to be silent @DerekVanSchaik | Uploaded June 2023 | Updated October 2024, 7 hours ago.
Why you need to learn to feel comfortable in silence #psychology #truecrime
You want to learn to feel comfortable in silence. People often feel uncomfortable in silence and feel the urge to break the awkward silence by speaking. If you’re trying to get someone to talk – you need to stop talking, so learn to be comfortable in silence. When you are silent you put the pressure of silence on them, which results in more information for you. This is also a good time to mention that most people go into a conversation with little to no strategy in mind, they’re just going with the flow, but the person with the strategy, such as the psychologist or interrogator, is leading the conversation, and are poised to get what they want out of the conversation. For example, a suspect may say, “After I went into the house and saw what I saw, I didn’t know what to do.” However, most people would immediately ask the question, “Well what did you see?” What do you think happens if you do that? Right, you would squander the pressure that the suspect would feel if you were to just keep silent. Use the pressure of silence to your advantage for them to reveal details based on feeling the pressure of guilt. When we are guilty, we fear we will get caught and may preemptively reveal additional insights when there’s silence. One of the biggest mistakes I constantly see from interrogators is talking too much, once you get the suspect to start talking: shut up and let them feel the pressure to keep talking without your feedback. We are socially conditioned to receive feedback from the person we are speaking with, but when that doesn’t happen, we often fear something is wrong and we thereby speak and reveal more in fear because we will begin to feel that we are not being believed.
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Why you need to learn to feel comfortable in silence #psychology #truecrime
You want to learn to feel comfortable in silence. People often feel uncomfortable in silence and feel the urge to break the awkward silence by speaking. If you’re trying to get someone to talk – you need to stop talking, so learn to be comfortable in silence. When you are silent you put the pressure of silence on them, which results in more information for you. This is also a good time to mention that most people go into a conversation with little to no strategy in mind, they’re just going with the flow, but the person with the strategy, such as the psychologist or interrogator, is leading the conversation, and are poised to get what they want out of the conversation. For example, a suspect may say, “After I went into the house and saw what I saw, I didn’t know what to do.” However, most people would immediately ask the question, “Well what did you see?” What do you think happens if you do that? Right, you would squander the pressure that the suspect would feel if you were to just keep silent. Use the pressure of silence to your advantage for them to reveal details based on feeling the pressure of guilt. When we are guilty, we fear we will get caught and may preemptively reveal additional insights when there’s silence. One of the biggest mistakes I constantly see from interrogators is talking too much, once you get the suspect to start talking: shut up and let them feel the pressure to keep talking without your feedback. We are socially conditioned to receive feedback from the person we are speaking with, but when that doesn’t happen, we often fear something is wrong and we thereby speak and reveal more in fear because we will begin to feel that we are not being believed.
Follow for more.
Podcast Channel:
youtube.com/@shaked
Merch:
shop.derekvanschaik.com
All the equipment I use:
derekvanschaik.com/equipment
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