Uploaded August 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
What if your self-worth isn’t actually tied to what you accomplish, how others see you, or how much you do for them? If you struggle with feeling unworthy, people pleasing, codependency, or needing external validation, this video is for you.
I’m breaking down why we can develop low self-worth, how childhood experiences and emotional neglect can shape the way we see ourselves, and how negative self-talk and self-abandonment can keep us feeling “not good enough.” I’ll also share practical ways to build self-worth, including reparenting yourself, changing your inner dialogue, and learning to feel worthy without having to earn it.
You were born worthy. You don’t have to prove it.
Get your guide at: terricole.com/how-to-build-self-worth-guide
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Time Stamps
00:00 Why you don't feel worthy
00:54 What self-worth really means
02:00 Why do we feel unworthy?
03:05 How emotionally immature parents affect self-worth
04:18 Signs of low self-worth
05:16 The connection between self-worth and validation
06:18 How negative self-talk affects self-worth
07:10 When your self-worth depends on others
08:10 Why external validation is so dangerous
09:05 Self-worth, boundaries, and self-abandonment
10:00 How to stop fighting your limitations
11:29 How to build real self-worth
12:03 Practical exercises to improve self-worth
12:51 Reparenting yourself
13:48 The baby photo exercise
14:42 You were worthy all along
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🪔 Meditate with me: insighttimer.com/terricole
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About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
#selfworth #selfworthjourney #selfconfidence
What if your self-worth isn’t actually tied to what you accomplish, how others see you, or how much you do for them? If you struggle with feeling unworthy, people pleasing, codependency, or needing external validation, this video is for you.
I’m breaking down why we can develop low self-worth, how childhood experiences and emotional neglect can shape the way we see ourselves, and how negative self-talk and self-abandonment can keep us feeling “not good enough.” I’ll also share practical ways to build self-worth, including reparenting yourself, changing your inner dialogue, and learning to feel worthy without having to earn it.
You were born worthy. You don’t have to prove it.
Get your guide at: terricole.com/how-to-build-self-worth-guide
📚 Too Much Book: hfcbook.com
📩 Newsletter: terricole.com/newsletter
🔑 Ready to build healthier relationships? Join: terricole.com/tcm
Time Stamps
00:00 Why you don't feel worthy
00:54 What self-worth really means
02:00 Why do we feel unworthy?
03:05 How emotionally immature parents affect self-worth
04:18 Signs of low self-worth
05:16 The connection between self-worth and validation
06:18 How negative self-talk affects self-worth
07:10 When your self-worth depends on others
08:10 Why external validation is so dangerous
09:05 Self-worth, boundaries, and self-abandonment
10:00 How to stop fighting your limitations
11:29 How to build real self-worth
12:03 Practical exercises to improve self-worth
12:51 Reparenting yourself
13:48 The baby photo exercise
14:42 You were worthy all along
If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos
youtu.be/aMDkK9oUUOY - Raise Your Self-Esteem with Better Boundaries
youtu.be/orr8P3HQC3c - 5 Powerful Self Love Practices For When You Feel Unworthy
youtu.be/D8M-q8CalSs - Less Self Abandonment More Self Love NOW
youtu.be/03QO51Z1tsE - 5 Steps to Curate More Self-Love In Your Life
🪔 Meditate with me: insighttimer.com/terricole
📸 Instagram: terricole.com/ig
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
#selfworth #selfworthjourney #selfconfidence
