Uploaded June 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
Ever have your mind go totally blank in the middle of a tough conversation? 🥶 It’s incredibly frustrating to feel stuck when you're just trying to express what you need.
When the pressure is high, our brains can go into freeze mode. That’s where journaling becomes a secret weapon for effective communication.
Writing things out gives your thoughts structure and takes the pressure off in the moment. Next time, try using this exact script:
📝 "I've written down what I want to share with you because asking for what I need is challenging for me. Would you be willing to let me finish before responding? Your patience and compassion really help."
Does it feel a little weird to sit there and read directly from a notebook or your phone? Maybe at first! But it is so much better to read your authentic truth than to stay silent, frozen, and misunderstood. 🗣️✨
Do whatever you have to do to honor your feelings and protect your peace.
💬 Would you try this journaling hack next time you have a difficult conversation? Let’s talk in the comments!
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About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
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I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
Ever have your mind go totally blank in the middle of a tough conversation? 🥶 It’s incredibly frustrating to feel stuck when you're just trying to express what you need.
When the pressure is high, our brains can go into freeze mode. That’s where journaling becomes a secret weapon for effective communication.
Writing things out gives your thoughts structure and takes the pressure off in the moment. Next time, try using this exact script:
📝 "I've written down what I want to share with you because asking for what I need is challenging for me. Would you be willing to let me finish before responding? Your patience and compassion really help."
Does it feel a little weird to sit there and read directly from a notebook or your phone? Maybe at first! But it is so much better to read your authentic truth than to stay silent, frozen, and misunderstood. 🗣️✨
Do whatever you have to do to honor your feelings and protect your peace.
💬 Would you try this journaling hack next time you have a difficult conversation? Let’s talk in the comments!
📚 Too Much Book: hfcbook.com
📩 Newsletter: terricole.com/newsletter
🔑 Ready to build healthier relationships? Join: terricole.com/tcm
🪔 Meditate with me: insighttimer.com/terricole
📸 Instagram: terricole.com/ig
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
