Uploaded June 2026 | Updated September 2026, 1 week ago
Yup… we’re doing it. 🩷
In 2021, I sat across the table from Lewis Howes and his beautiful now-wife, Martha, listening to them gush over their then-new relationship… and how from Day One, therapy was a non-negotiable.
Both individually and as a couple, they committed to working on themselves to give such a special union the best chance possible.
I’ve never forgotten that.
Fast forward to one year ago when I met Ryan, I immediately knew he was special. Our connection was special. And more than anything… it is a thing worth protecting and growing.
Patterns are a real thing. And to be honest, I have more than a bag of destructive patterns… individually and relationally.
I’m aware enough these days to know that if I don’t continue to peel back the layers of healing, I will continue to repeat patterns that have destroyed precious things historically.
And over the last year, I started to see some of those patterns reemerge.
People-pleasing.
Not speaking up.
Holding things in.
Building resentment without even realizing it.
And I knew I didn’t want to keep repeating old stories in a new relationship.
So we’re in couples therapy. 🫶🏼
Not because things are broken or because we’re in crisis.
But because this relationship matters to us.
🎧 NEWEST EPISODE 🎧 Ep. 91 We’re In Couples Therapy! Healing Old Patterns and Building a Healthier Relationship | Me + Ryan
👉🏻 Comment “LINK” and I’ll send the episode straight to your inbox. 💌
Yup… we’re doing it. 🩷
In 2021, I sat across the table from Lewis Howes and his beautiful now-wife, Martha, listening to them gush over their then-new relationship… and how from Day One, therapy was a non-negotiable.
Both individually and as a couple, they committed to working on themselves to give such a special union the best chance possible.
I’ve never forgotten that.
Fast forward to one year ago when I met Ryan, I immediately knew he was special. Our connection was special. And more than anything… it is a thing worth protecting and growing.
Patterns are a real thing. And to be honest, I have more than a bag of destructive patterns… individually and relationally.
I’m aware enough these days to know that if I don’t continue to peel back the layers of healing, I will continue to repeat patterns that have destroyed precious things historically.
And over the last year, I started to see some of those patterns reemerge.
People-pleasing.
Not speaking up.
Holding things in.
Building resentment without even realizing it.
And I knew I didn’t want to keep repeating old stories in a new relationship.
So we’re in couples therapy. 🫶🏼
Not because things are broken or because we’re in crisis.
But because this relationship matters to us.
🎧 NEWEST EPISODE 🎧 Ep. 91 We’re In Couples Therapy! Healing Old Patterns and Building a Healthier Relationship | Me + Ryan
👉🏻 Comment “LINK” and I’ll send the episode straight to your inbox. 💌
