Uploaded July 2025 | Updated September 2026, 1 day ago
Collecting: what happens when joy turns into guilt?
In this Adagio Sessions episode, we explore the fine line between collecting, hoarding, and everything in between. From eyeshadow palettes to emotional baggage, this is a deep but relatable look at how our stuff starts to say more than we realize. If you've ever stared at your stash and wondered why you have so much – or what it all means – this one’s for you.
We'll unpack why we collect, how identity and marketing shape our habits, and what to do when joy turns into guilt.
📌 Videos mentioned:
How the language we use affects us:
youtu.be/B-mcKdr9NPI
📌 Join me on Patreon for a less public forum for these discussions (free):
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📌 If you'd like extra content, join Club Adagio on
Patreon:
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YouTube:
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Both offer the same extra videos – I post on both platforms so you can choose the one that's more convenient for you. Patreon also has a free tier, where I post blogs too!
If you'd like to make a one-time donation to my equipment fund (currently being used to save for a camera, since mine is dying):
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📌 The microphone I use:
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Timestamps:
00:00 When Does Collecting Become Hoarding?
00:28 Is Collecting Harmless… or a Cry for Help?
00:38 How My Makeup Kit Gradually Turned Into a Collection
01:53 The Subtle Shift From Using to Keeping
02:30 The First Signs of Collection Overload
02:58 Hoarding vs. Collecting: How Language Shapes Our Feelings
03:28 Where’s the Line Between Clutter and Curation?
03:50 What Emotional Overwhelm Looks Like in a Collection
04:09 The Psychology of Why We Collect Things
05:05 How Social Media Fuels Collector Culture (and Self-Worth)
05:27 Why I Started Collecting: A Personal Reflection
06:17 Unmet Needs and the Drive to Acquire Stuff
06:53 How Life Changes Shift Our Relationship with Belongings
07:16 How to Reclaim Joy from Overwhelm
08:43 What a Healthy Collection Looks Like (To Me)
10:00 Minimalism, Maximalism, and the Arc of Collecting
10:47 Can We Stop Judging Ourselves (and Others) for What We Own?
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📌 About the channel:
The Adagio Mindset™ is inspired by the musical term adagio, meaning “slowly, with feeling.” It’s about applying that same unhurried intentionality to beauty and shopping – savoring what you already own, choosing joy over urgency, and curiosity over consumption. Around here, we try not to rush to the next trend – we move Adagio.
📌 Links & Discount Codes
If you shop through my affiliate links & use my codes, my channel makes a small commission. It's a great way to support me if there's something that you plan to buy. But keep in mind: makeup is just dirt, and skincare is just soothing goop. The true joy comes from using what we have. 😉 ♡
♡ SALT NY: go.shopmy.us/p-11974406
Use code STUMBLEINSTYLE on Salt NY's website for 10% off
♡ CALECIM: calecimprofessional.com/discount/StumbleInStyle
Use code StumbleInStyle on Calecim's site for 15% off your order
♡ ZEESEA COSMETICS: zeeseacosmetics.com/?ref=TheStyleStumbler
Use code StumbleInStyle at Zeesea for 15% off your order
♡ QUEEN MUSIA: go.shopmy.us/p-4373006
Use code StumbleInStyle on QM's site for 10% off your order
♡ UNIWIGS Top hair pieces: go.shopmy.us/p-9344075
Use code TSS15 on the Uniwigs site for 15% off your order
♡ INH HAIR: fbuy.io/insertnamehere/stephanie245
Using this INH link gives you 25% off orders over USD 100.
♡ ESUM Cosmetics: esumcosmetics.com/?aff=99
♡ NIRA at home laser treatment 25%-off link: nira.refr.cc/ReferralProgam/u/thestylestumbler
♡ SLEEP & GLOW Beauty Pillows: go.shopmy.us/p-18622066
Use code StumbleInStyle for $/€/£15 off pillows & blankets and 10% off the rest of the catalogue
♡ Would you like to make your own affiliate links? Use the following link to join ShopMy: shopmy.us/join/thestylestumbler
📌 Links to my style profiles:
Instagram: instagram.com/thestylestumbler
TikTok: tiktok.com/@thestylestumbler
Collecting: what happens when joy turns into guilt?
In this Adagio Sessions episode, we explore the fine line between collecting, hoarding, and everything in between. From eyeshadow palettes to emotional baggage, this is a deep but relatable look at how our stuff starts to say more than we realize. If you've ever stared at your stash and wondered why you have so much – or what it all means – this one’s for you.
We'll unpack why we collect, how identity and marketing shape our habits, and what to do when joy turns into guilt.
📌 Videos mentioned:
How the language we use affects us:
youtu.be/B-mcKdr9NPI
📌 Join me on Patreon for a less public forum for these discussions (free):
patreon.com/collection/1587696?view=expanded
📌 If you'd like extra content, join Club Adagio on
Patreon:
patreon.com/c/TheStyleStumbler
YouTube:
youtube.com/TheStyleStumbler/join
Both offer the same extra videos – I post on both platforms so you can choose the one that's more convenient for you. Patreon also has a free tier, where I post blogs too!
If you'd like to make a one-time donation to my equipment fund (currently being used to save for a camera, since mine is dying):
paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=R2K69HDKW3FCS
📌 The microphone I use:
amzn.to/3Q2JPkO
Timestamps:
00:00 When Does Collecting Become Hoarding?
00:28 Is Collecting Harmless… or a Cry for Help?
00:38 How My Makeup Kit Gradually Turned Into a Collection
01:53 The Subtle Shift From Using to Keeping
02:30 The First Signs of Collection Overload
02:58 Hoarding vs. Collecting: How Language Shapes Our Feelings
03:28 Where’s the Line Between Clutter and Curation?
03:50 What Emotional Overwhelm Looks Like in a Collection
04:09 The Psychology of Why We Collect Things
05:05 How Social Media Fuels Collector Culture (and Self-Worth)
05:27 Why I Started Collecting: A Personal Reflection
06:17 Unmet Needs and the Drive to Acquire Stuff
06:53 How Life Changes Shift Our Relationship with Belongings
07:16 How to Reclaim Joy from Overwhelm
08:43 What a Healthy Collection Looks Like (To Me)
10:00 Minimalism, Maximalism, and the Arc of Collecting
10:47 Can We Stop Judging Ourselves (and Others) for What We Own?
♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡
📌 About the channel:
The Adagio Mindset™ is inspired by the musical term adagio, meaning “slowly, with feeling.” It’s about applying that same unhurried intentionality to beauty and shopping – savoring what you already own, choosing joy over urgency, and curiosity over consumption. Around here, we try not to rush to the next trend – we move Adagio.
📌 Links & Discount Codes
If you shop through my affiliate links & use my codes, my channel makes a small commission. It's a great way to support me if there's something that you plan to buy. But keep in mind: makeup is just dirt, and skincare is just soothing goop. The true joy comes from using what we have. 😉 ♡
♡ SALT NY: go.shopmy.us/p-11974406
Use code STUMBLEINSTYLE on Salt NY's website for 10% off
♡ CALECIM: calecimprofessional.com/discount/StumbleInStyle
Use code StumbleInStyle on Calecim's site for 15% off your order
♡ ZEESEA COSMETICS: zeeseacosmetics.com/?ref=TheStyleStumbler
Use code StumbleInStyle at Zeesea for 15% off your order
♡ QUEEN MUSIA: go.shopmy.us/p-4373006
Use code StumbleInStyle on QM's site for 10% off your order
♡ UNIWIGS Top hair pieces: go.shopmy.us/p-9344075
Use code TSS15 on the Uniwigs site for 15% off your order
♡ INH HAIR: fbuy.io/insertnamehere/stephanie245
Using this INH link gives you 25% off orders over USD 100.
♡ ESUM Cosmetics: esumcosmetics.com/?aff=99
♡ NIRA at home laser treatment 25%-off link: nira.refr.cc/ReferralProgam/u/thestylestumbler
♡ SLEEP & GLOW Beauty Pillows: go.shopmy.us/p-18622066
Use code StumbleInStyle for $/€/£15 off pillows & blankets and 10% off the rest of the catalogue
♡ Would you like to make your own affiliate links? Use the following link to join ShopMy: shopmy.us/join/thestylestumbler
📌 Links to my style profiles:
Instagram: instagram.com/thestylestumbler
TikTok: tiktok.com/@thestylestumbler
