Uploaded May 2026 | Updated September 2026, 3 weeks ago
Diana named a question so many women carry after divorce: Who am I now?
When you’ve spent years—sometimes decades—being a wife, a mom, a volunteer, the strong one, the peacemaker… those roles can start to feel like your identity.
And when everything shifts, it’s not just the relationship that changes.
It’s your sense of self. Your community. Your place in the world.
The life you knew gets turned upside down, and suddenly you’re standing in the middle of it asking, What’s left?
There’s real loss there. Loss of roles. Loss of relationships. Loss of the way life used to look. And it’s okay to grieve that.
But that question, "Who am I now?" isn’t the end of your story. It’s the beginning of discovering who you’ve always been underneath all those roles.
Want to watch the rest of this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast? Head over to youtu.be/7lSe9PFrE7I
Diana named a question so many women carry after divorce: Who am I now?
When you’ve spent years—sometimes decades—being a wife, a mom, a volunteer, the strong one, the peacemaker… those roles can start to feel like your identity.
And when everything shifts, it’s not just the relationship that changes.
It’s your sense of self. Your community. Your place in the world.
The life you knew gets turned upside down, and suddenly you’re standing in the middle of it asking, What’s left?
There’s real loss there. Loss of roles. Loss of relationships. Loss of the way life used to look. And it’s okay to grieve that.
But that question, "Who am I now?" isn’t the end of your story. It’s the beginning of discovering who you’ve always been underneath all those roles.
Want to watch the rest of this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast? Head over to youtu.be/7lSe9PFrE7I
![Nine Tricky Ways Emotional Abusers Pull Us Back Into the Cycle (and six ways to respond!) [347]](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/HYL6iANSLGY/mqdefault.jpg "Nine Tricky Ways Emotional Abusers Pull Us Back Into the Cycle (and six ways to respond!) [347]
If youve ever set a boundary only to get emotionally drop-kicked right back into the dysfunction, this ones for you.
In this episode, I break down 9 manipulative tactics that emotionally abusive people use to keep you stuck in their never-ending circus... and 6 powerful strategies you can start using TODAY to get your life and sanity back.
We’re talking:
🧠 Guilt trips that make you question your worth
🙄 Passive-aggressive digs disguised as “jokes”
🔥 Emotional meltdowns that hijack your peace
💣 Love bombing that makes you second-guess yourself
💪 And boundaries that don’t feel mean—they feel healthy
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🎙️ Check out related Flying Free Podcast episodes: “Your Marriage Abuse Cycle Exercise” (https://www.flyingfreenow.com/341-2/) and “How to Respond to Emotional Abuse Tactics” (https://www.flyingfreenow.com/64-2/).
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