Uploaded June 2026 | Updated September 2026, 3 weeks ago
Today we get honest about the grief that shows up even when you know you made the right decision. In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, we’ll answer a real question from a Flying Higher member who's been circling back to her grief and wondering why she can't just move on.
What we uncover might surprise you. It's not just about missing him. And it's definitely not something you can solve by scattering unity sand in a river.
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- What you're actually grieving might not be what you think: Is it really him you miss, or is it something else entirely that you haven't let yourself name yet?
- There's a hidden layer of grief that most divorced women never even look for, and it might be the most important one.
- Dissonance is real: Can you grieve something you didn't even want? We have something important to say about this.
- Is there a timeline for grieving a marriage? My answer might feel controversial, but also like the biggest exhale you've had in a long time.
- Crying in the bathtub, journaling at midnight, lying face-down on the floor: what do these things actually do for your grief, and why do they work?
Related Resources:
Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is our live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence in their relationships, emotional management, decision making, and self-development. Join us for live classes, coaching, Bible study, and book studies every month. Plus access to a huge library of education and coaching resources. Only $59/month.
Be sure to check out Diana’s podcast, Renew Your Mind! (dianaswillinger.com/renew-your-mind-podcast/)
Do you have a question for the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast? Send me an email! natalie@flyingfreenow.com
Today we get honest about the grief that shows up even when you know you made the right decision. In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, we’ll answer a real question from a Flying Higher member who's been circling back to her grief and wondering why she can't just move on.
What we uncover might surprise you. It's not just about missing him. And it's definitely not something you can solve by scattering unity sand in a river.
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- What you're actually grieving might not be what you think: Is it really him you miss, or is it something else entirely that you haven't let yourself name yet?
- There's a hidden layer of grief that most divorced women never even look for, and it might be the most important one.
- Dissonance is real: Can you grieve something you didn't even want? We have something important to say about this.
- Is there a timeline for grieving a marriage? My answer might feel controversial, but also like the biggest exhale you've had in a long time.
- Crying in the bathtub, journaling at midnight, lying face-down on the floor: what do these things actually do for your grief, and why do they work?
Related Resources:
Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is our live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence in their relationships, emotional management, decision making, and self-development. Join us for live classes, coaching, Bible study, and book studies every month. Plus access to a huge library of education and coaching resources. Only $59/month.
Be sure to check out Diana’s podcast, Renew Your Mind! (dianaswillinger.com/renew-your-mind-podcast/)
Do you have a question for the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast? Send me an email! natalie@flyingfreenow.com
![Finding Your Freedom, Autonomy, and Independence - High Functioning Women Series Part Four [377]](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/Klz-1tlf-Ts/mqdefault.jpg "Finding Your Freedom, Autonomy, and Independence - High Functioning Women Series Part Four [377]
This is part four of the High Functioning Christian Women in Destructive Marriages series, and today we talk about a concept that ties the whole series together: sovereignty.
Synonyms for sovereignty include: freedom, autonomy, and independence.
If youve spent years managing everyones needs, shrinking your own, and building an identity around your capacity to give without limit, this episode will challenge a misunderstood theology that was never meant for women who are already pouring out from an empty cup.
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- Theres a critical difference between two things that look almost identical from the outside, and which one youre living in changes everything about how you understand your marriage.
- The die to self command youve been handed your whole life? It may have been written for the exact opposite kind of person from you.
- Why does even asking yourself what do I need? feel like a threat to your survival, not just a little uncomfortable?
- What Jesus actually modeled about rest, limits, and saying no might completely reframe what you think faithful living looks like.
- The one question you could ask yourself in the mirror every single morning that could quietly begin to change everything.
Get Today’s Free Resource:
🧐 Are you wondering what is happening inside your own painful and confusing marriage? I wrote a book just for you called Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Get a free chapter by going to isitmebook.com
I will also send you my weekly Hope Letters for Christian women in emotionally and spiritually abusive marriages.")
