Uploaded January 2025 | Updated September 2026, 3 weeks ago
What should you look for in a relationship? Here are three simple qualifiers:
1. They think you’re awesome.
2. They’re fundamentally kind.
3. You genuinely enjoy being around them.
From the January 6th, 2025 episode of Being Well podcast titled Navigating Situationships: How to Get What You Really Want
What should you look for in a relationship? Here are three simple qualifiers:
1. They think you’re awesome.
2. They’re fundamentally kind.
3. You genuinely enjoy being around them.
From the January 6th, 2025 episode of Being Well podcast titled Navigating Situationships: How to Get What You Really Want








![Healthy Conflict: The Most Important Skill We Don’t Learn | Being Well
Most of us are pretty bad at conflict, usually because we weren’t taught how to handle it well. But healthy conflict can be one of the best ways to deepen intimacy and trust. In this episode Dr. Rick and I discuss why conflict is so difficult, the models of conflict we inherit from childhood, healthy repair, what emotional flooding does to the brain and body during a fight, and the research on what actually predicts relationship success. We close with a handful of things that get mistaken for repair but arent, including submission, thin apologies, and just solving the surface problem.
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0:00 Intro
2:51 Repair as the biggest predictor of relationship success
5:03 Models of conflict and where they originate from
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24:32 What to do about emotional flooding
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40:07 What repair is and what its not
48:37 The power of authentic apologies
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