Uploaded May 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
We offer 4 different levels of resources, courses and programs for Complex Trauma Recovery, from introductory personal recovery to programs for professionals in the mental health space. Visit our website to explore all of our resources: timfletcher.ca
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In this episode, Tim shares a letter from “Annie". Thank you again for bravely sharing your story for others.
"Dear Tim" is a series where Tim responds to letters submitted by viewers, offering thoughtful, trauma-informed reflections on their experiences and the patterns shaped by complex trauma. Each episode explores a real story and gently unpacks what may be happening beneath the surface, with a focus on understanding, self-compassion, and meaningful steps toward healing.
All letters are shared with written consent from the submitters. To protect privacy and ensure the content is appropriate for YouTube, identifying details have been changed and some stories have been slightly altered. These responses are not professional or clinical advice, but compassionate interpretations based on limited information, intended to support reflection and awareness rather than provide diagnoses or treatment.
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Join our Community! bit.ly/join-the-community-tf
🎧Watch or listen to the Time With Tim Podcast: youtube.com/@TimeWithTimPodcast
Find us on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook and more here: https://linktr.ee/Tim_Fletcher
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Chapters
00:00 – Introduction to the letter from "Annie"
02:30 – Reading Annie’s story: Adoption, people-pleasing, and lack of boundaries
05:29 – Analysis of the family dynamic: Narcissism and enabling
07:08 – Understanding shame messages from childhood
08:23 – Survival mode: Fawning and abandoning the self
10:19 – The impact of adoption on the nervous system
12:10 – Breaking the "fawning double bind"
14:20 – Retraining the limbic brain for healthy behaviors
15:28 – The critical role of healing shame (and the LIFT program)
18:31 – Learning to listen to your body and gut again
19:38 – How to find and test for safe people in relationships
22:00 – Overcoming the fear of abandonment and sabotage
23:26 – Final thoughts and encouragement for Annie
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Tim Fletcher is not a doctor or licensed therapist; he is a counsellor in Canada and has worked with people with Complex Trauma and Addiction for decades. Tim’s videos are for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment.
#complextrauma #timfletcher #mentalhealth
We offer 4 different levels of resources, courses and programs for Complex Trauma Recovery, from introductory personal recovery to programs for professionals in the mental health space. Visit our website to explore all of our resources: timfletcher.ca
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In this episode, Tim shares a letter from “Annie". Thank you again for bravely sharing your story for others.
"Dear Tim" is a series where Tim responds to letters submitted by viewers, offering thoughtful, trauma-informed reflections on their experiences and the patterns shaped by complex trauma. Each episode explores a real story and gently unpacks what may be happening beneath the surface, with a focus on understanding, self-compassion, and meaningful steps toward healing.
All letters are shared with written consent from the submitters. To protect privacy and ensure the content is appropriate for YouTube, identifying details have been changed and some stories have been slightly altered. These responses are not professional or clinical advice, but compassionate interpretations based on limited information, intended to support reflection and awareness rather than provide diagnoses or treatment.
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Join our Community! bit.ly/join-the-community-tf
🎧Watch or listen to the Time With Tim Podcast: youtube.com/@TimeWithTimPodcast
Find us on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook and more here: https://linktr.ee/Tim_Fletcher
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Chapters
00:00 – Introduction to the letter from "Annie"
02:30 – Reading Annie’s story: Adoption, people-pleasing, and lack of boundaries
05:29 – Analysis of the family dynamic: Narcissism and enabling
07:08 – Understanding shame messages from childhood
08:23 – Survival mode: Fawning and abandoning the self
10:19 – The impact of adoption on the nervous system
12:10 – Breaking the "fawning double bind"
14:20 – Retraining the limbic brain for healthy behaviors
15:28 – The critical role of healing shame (and the LIFT program)
18:31 – Learning to listen to your body and gut again
19:38 – How to find and test for safe people in relationships
22:00 – Overcoming the fear of abandonment and sabotage
23:26 – Final thoughts and encouragement for Annie
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Tim Fletcher is not a doctor or licensed therapist; he is a counsellor in Canada and has worked with people with Complex Trauma and Addiction for decades. Tim’s videos are for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment.
#complextrauma #timfletcher #mentalhealth
