Uploaded May 2022 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
#loneliness #lonely #philosophy #commentary #selfcare #selflove #dating #relationship #love
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0:00 Hellos | Answering generic questions/settling into the stream
12:07 "Do you vote Tory?"
13:13 Let's start talking "loneliness"
14:19 UCLA Loneliness Scale (and my personal score) | What is the UCLA Loneliness Scale? | How did my score make me feel?
17:50 Getting used to feeling lonely | Do we have to live with loneliness or is there a way to overcome loneliness in the modern age?
19:16 Loneliness vs. "being alone" | Is loneliness a choice or do we distract ourselves with activities which make us feel like we are the agents behind our loneliness?
21:05 Dissociation and escapism as a temporal and temporary solution to loneliness
22:56 Loneliness experienced by men vs. women | Female YouTubers making videos on "choosing" to be alone | Male YouTubers having no friends and experiencing loneliness
25:18 Rejection | Do we choose to isolate due to fear of rejection/hurt?
27:55 The Sims re. escapism and "playing God"
33:02 Los Angeles as a "KINKY epidemic city" (or, a "lonely epidemic city")
33:42 Is society as a collective capable of doing anything about the loneliness epidemic? | Investment into mental health and dementia | Young people and loneliness re. age 18-29
36:13 QUESTION TO CHAT: Do you agree that we are lonelier because we are pickier, meaner and harder to please?
39:05 Is loneliness getting worse because of "the attention economy" and "the internet"?
41:46 Are we lonelier because we are "less tolerant"? | A lack of tolerance being at odds with itself | Globalisation/multiculturalism/inclusivity vs. Identity/collectivism/tribalism/integration
44:07 Self-isolation and being stressed in relationships post-pandemic | Social anxiety (also 2:25:24 and 2:28:58)
45:00 Are "only internet people" lonely?
45:55 Being picky and how it makes us lonely | Settling | Every interaction with human beings has become a "market transaction" | The marketisation of intimate relationships | Being "consumers" before everything else
49:20 Higher expectations | QUESTION TO CHAT: Do you have "relationship goals" and what is your most "unrealistic" expectation/goal? (also 1:27:46)
51:37 My problem with online dating
55:05 The "anonymous nature of the internet" | Empathy and the internet | Globalisation and our ability to extend care/empathy | The facade of empathy online
1:00:50 Being alone not from choice but "default" | "It isn't enough to be human in the dating world..." | Kendrick Lamar's "Auntie Diaries" and how it isn't enough to be human | The "DO BETTER!" rhetoric and dehumanisation re. Kendrick
1:07:21 Class and loneliness | A lack of representative research re. loneliness (also 2:57:37) | Profiting from loneliness | Why discover the issues at the route of loneliness when anti-depressants and medicating people is profitable and provides a short-term solution?
1:10:28 Elon Musk and loneliness | Rich people and loneliness | Does money make us less lonely? (also 1:54:32 and 2:37:30)
1:15:03 "Are we the consumers or are we the product?" | Dating apps need us to be single | Men as disposable in relationships
1:18:25 "Do you hate America/Americans?"
1:20:33 "We don't know how to communicate...We don't know how to talk to each other."
1:3702 Relationships as "creating order out of chaos" - Is it possible in an age of alternative/poly/non-monogamous relationships?
1:41:13 "Requirements" (also 2:22:42 on "dating expectations" vs. reality)
1:48:40 Religion and rituals re. loneliness (and 2:36:26) | Friday Night Dinner in the Jewish Community | Blood matters re. loneliness/not belonging
1:58:00 Outsourcing those things which make us less lonely (e.g., socialisation; life lessons; craftsmanship) | Extended family vs. nuclear family re. loneliness
1:59:53 Adult toys on Etsy... (continues at 2:44:30)
2:01:50 "Do you think escapism is a problem in the modern world...Do you think women suffer more from loneliness because of the uprootedness of modern life?" | How escapism has evolved
2:10:14 How I rely on my sexuality to reduce loneliness | Update on the sequel to "Dating Apps: The New Class Struggle" (youtube.com/watch?v=bhALIgyS4Ic&t=1210s)
2:15:00 Do dating apps really want us to find love? | Is Hinge the saving grace? | Regulating dating apps (and 2:21:12 on responsibility)
2:18:20 Why we shut down/retreat inwards due to overstimulation online and re. globalisation
2:25:24 Can we find love/relationships in "everyday life" activities these days?
2:30:41 "I want a kid but not a wife" | Finding women who want kids | Are we having less children due to growing distrust?
2:33:35 Hatred between men and women
2:40:18 Podcasting
2:47:56 What is loneliness?
2:56:10 First ban! | Answering random questions
3:01:00 Algorithms, animation, creativity, & Wreck It Ralph (also 3:13:00)
3:03:48 Sloths and bureaucracy
3:13:00 Catching up on chat
3:16:47 "Can you live a meaningful life and still feel lonely?"
#loneliness #lonely #philosophy #commentary #selfcare #selflove #dating #relationship #love
⦿⦿⦿TIMESTAMPS⦿⦿⦿
0:00 Hellos | Answering generic questions/settling into the stream
12:07 "Do you vote Tory?"
13:13 Let's start talking "loneliness"
14:19 UCLA Loneliness Scale (and my personal score) | What is the UCLA Loneliness Scale? | How did my score make me feel?
17:50 Getting used to feeling lonely | Do we have to live with loneliness or is there a way to overcome loneliness in the modern age?
19:16 Loneliness vs. "being alone" | Is loneliness a choice or do we distract ourselves with activities which make us feel like we are the agents behind our loneliness?
21:05 Dissociation and escapism as a temporal and temporary solution to loneliness
22:56 Loneliness experienced by men vs. women | Female YouTubers making videos on "choosing" to be alone | Male YouTubers having no friends and experiencing loneliness
25:18 Rejection | Do we choose to isolate due to fear of rejection/hurt?
27:55 The Sims re. escapism and "playing God"
33:02 Los Angeles as a "KINKY epidemic city" (or, a "lonely epidemic city")
33:42 Is society as a collective capable of doing anything about the loneliness epidemic? | Investment into mental health and dementia | Young people and loneliness re. age 18-29
36:13 QUESTION TO CHAT: Do you agree that we are lonelier because we are pickier, meaner and harder to please?
39:05 Is loneliness getting worse because of "the attention economy" and "the internet"?
41:46 Are we lonelier because we are "less tolerant"? | A lack of tolerance being at odds with itself | Globalisation/multiculturalism/inclusivity vs. Identity/collectivism/tribalism/integration
44:07 Self-isolation and being stressed in relationships post-pandemic | Social anxiety (also 2:25:24 and 2:28:58)
45:00 Are "only internet people" lonely?
45:55 Being picky and how it makes us lonely | Settling | Every interaction with human beings has become a "market transaction" | The marketisation of intimate relationships | Being "consumers" before everything else
49:20 Higher expectations | QUESTION TO CHAT: Do you have "relationship goals" and what is your most "unrealistic" expectation/goal? (also 1:27:46)
51:37 My problem with online dating
55:05 The "anonymous nature of the internet" | Empathy and the internet | Globalisation and our ability to extend care/empathy | The facade of empathy online
1:00:50 Being alone not from choice but "default" | "It isn't enough to be human in the dating world..." | Kendrick Lamar's "Auntie Diaries" and how it isn't enough to be human | The "DO BETTER!" rhetoric and dehumanisation re. Kendrick
1:07:21 Class and loneliness | A lack of representative research re. loneliness (also 2:57:37) | Profiting from loneliness | Why discover the issues at the route of loneliness when anti-depressants and medicating people is profitable and provides a short-term solution?
1:10:28 Elon Musk and loneliness | Rich people and loneliness | Does money make us less lonely? (also 1:54:32 and 2:37:30)
1:15:03 "Are we the consumers or are we the product?" | Dating apps need us to be single | Men as disposable in relationships
1:18:25 "Do you hate America/Americans?"
1:20:33 "We don't know how to communicate...We don't know how to talk to each other."
1:3702 Relationships as "creating order out of chaos" - Is it possible in an age of alternative/poly/non-monogamous relationships?
1:41:13 "Requirements" (also 2:22:42 on "dating expectations" vs. reality)
1:48:40 Religion and rituals re. loneliness (and 2:36:26) | Friday Night Dinner in the Jewish Community | Blood matters re. loneliness/not belonging
1:58:00 Outsourcing those things which make us less lonely (e.g., socialisation; life lessons; craftsmanship) | Extended family vs. nuclear family re. loneliness
1:59:53 Adult toys on Etsy... (continues at 2:44:30)
2:01:50 "Do you think escapism is a problem in the modern world...Do you think women suffer more from loneliness because of the uprootedness of modern life?" | How escapism has evolved
2:10:14 How I rely on my sexuality to reduce loneliness | Update on the sequel to "Dating Apps: The New Class Struggle" (youtube.com/watch?v=bhALIgyS4Ic&t=1210s)
2:15:00 Do dating apps really want us to find love? | Is Hinge the saving grace? | Regulating dating apps (and 2:21:12 on responsibility)
2:18:20 Why we shut down/retreat inwards due to overstimulation online and re. globalisation
2:25:24 Can we find love/relationships in "everyday life" activities these days?
2:30:41 "I want a kid but not a wife" | Finding women who want kids | Are we having less children due to growing distrust?
2:33:35 Hatred between men and women
2:40:18 Podcasting
2:47:56 What is loneliness?
2:56:10 First ban! | Answering random questions
3:01:00 Algorithms, animation, creativity, & Wreck It Ralph (also 3:13:00)
3:03:48 Sloths and bureaucracy
3:13:00 Catching up on chat
3:16:47 "Can you live a meaningful life and still feel lonely?"
