Societal Template for Men According to Dene Logan, BTS at Sessions Live @estherperel

Uploaded August 2025 | Updated September 2026, 6 hours ago

Yesterday, I talked about The New York Times' article on "Mankeeping" and today I want to share additional perspective from my friend and colleague Dené Logan.

Dené Logan is a Marriage and Family Therapist, a group facilitator, and an author based in Los Angeles.

Given that we're exploring friendship this month, I’m doing a “Friends of Esther series”! For those of you who missed Sessions Live this past April; I’m sharing select reels which we captured backstage and some full talks on the podcast.

Let me know what you think and stay tuned on social media for more exclusive behind-the-scenes reels!

Societal Template for Men According to Dene Logan, BTS at Sessions Live

$On Again/Off Again | Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel On this weeks episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel: This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? Theyve been on and off for almost 20 years. While she takes care of his and their child, she wants to know that hes also there for her. Hes been battling depression for years. And the shame that comes with it. Chapters 01:22 What Brings Them Back Together? 03:30 What Makes Him Shut Down? 05:54 What Happened During His Darkest Years? 11:57 Can She Trust Him Again? 15:16 How Do You Become a Father Without a Model? 18:24 What If He’s Afraid of Failing? 23:37 What Happens When Silence Takes Over? 27:03 Where Did This Fear Begin? 32:46 What Does He Really Want From Them? 38:26 Can He Learn to Receive Love? 43:00 What Does Marriage Say About Our Worth? 45:49 Can Touch Become a Safe Harbor? 48:02 What Changes When You Feel Loved? About Where Should We Begin?: Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. About Esther Perel: Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or subscribe to her Substack Entre Nous for bonus content.$

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$In This Relationship What Is I and What is We? | Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? Two gay men grew up with traumatic backgrounds, met in college, and immigrated to the US together. Theyve built stability and security, and now one of them longs to go out and have fun, while the other stays home. Chapters 00:00 What Happens When a Couple Reaches a Crossroads? 01:30 Who Are They Beyond the Conflict? 03:36 Where Does the Trauma Begin? 05:35 How Does Childhood Violence Echo Into Adult Love? 07:32 What Happens When Coming Out Isnt Safe? 10:08 What Story Did He Grow Up With? 14:47 Can Closeness and Independence Coexist? 18:03 When Does Freedom Feel Like Rejection? 23:22 Are They Fighting Each Other or Their Parents? 30:09 Why Cant They Escape This Control Cycle? 34:56 Why Does Friendship Feel So Threatening? 40:18 What If Spending Time Apart Strengthened the Relationship? About Where Should We Begin?: Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. About Esther Perel: Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.$ $Am I Being Gaslit? | Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel In this classic Esther Calling, Esther talks to a woman looking for clarity on whether shes being overly sensitive to her partners critiques or if he is, in fact, gaslighting her. She has struggled with boundary setting before and she wonders if she is repeating the pattern here. Chapters 00:00 What Does Loneliness Really Feel Like? 01:05 What Question Brings Him Here? 03:16 Why Did Dating Get Harder After Moving? 06:15 Are Apps Making Him Feel More Alone? 08:47 What Did He Lose When He Left Home? 11:21 What Is He Really Looking For? 18:26 Is Anonymous Sex Filling the Wrong Need? 19:07 What Role Did His Family Teach Him to Play? 25:18 How Do You Learn to Ask for Care? 33:58 Why Did He Leave Cape Town? 35:36 What Happens When Your Church Rejects You? 42:10 Where Does Healing Begin? About Where Should We Begin?: Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. About Esther Perel: Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by subscribing to her Substack, Entre Nous, for bonus content.$