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In Part 2, Shirley Fessel, author of the women’s workbook “Redemption from Biblical Battering,” talks about the importance of anger, and harnessing that energy to move away from danger. She discusses the 7 Levels of Confusion that abuse victims go through before they can finally leave. And she tells us her secret of rejecting the voices in your head that say you’re a second-class Christian and disqualified from serving God after a divorce. She also talks about having one child (the youngest who was a 1.5 years old) who sided with her ex-husband.
In Part 1, she tells her story of being an idealistic generous young woman who wanted to serve the Lord. She fell in love with a Christian man who confiscated her paychecks for 10 years and didn't give her money for clothes. Find out about the financial abuse and violence in the marriage. youtu.be/dB20TR3nXUA
Shirley's Story
PART 1: youtu.be/dB20TR3nXUA
PART 2: youtu.be/ioY3QWQNNXw
PART 3: youtu.be/ZPpDvGLZyl0
Her website and contact form: ShirleyFessel.com
HOST
Gretchen Baskerville is a Christian divorce recovery leader and researcher. For more than 20 years, she has worked with Christian women and men going through difficult, life-saving divorces, listening with compassion to those who have suffered from domestic violence, betrayal, infidelity, and emotional abuse. She helps heartbroken people find strength and courage and healing.
Her book, "The Life-Saving Divorce" is about the 40% of divorces that are for very serious reasons. She will give you optimism about your children's future (nearly 8 in 10 children turn out fine after divorce, according to top researchers); and will help you understand emotional abuse, "gaslighting," the abuse cycle, and tips for surviving high-conflict divorces.
What's a Life-Saving Divorce? A Life-Saving Divorce is a divorce for the serious reasons: a pattern of chronic emotional abuse, infidelity, domestic violence, sexual immorality, felony behavior, neglect, substance abuse, etc.
How to Get the Book, "The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships"
Paperback Book/Kindle via Amazon: amzn.to/3CCBsnr As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Follow Gretchen Baskerville:
Subscribe to Gretchen's You Tube channel: youtube.com/channel/UCRgtUNfTlYIRDt8iOK6XPKQ
Facebook: facebook.com/gretchen.baskerville
Twitter: twitter.com/GGBaskerville
Instagram: instagram.com/gretchenbaskerville
Other helpful links
Website and Blog: LifeSavingDivorce.com
Divorce Story Interviews: LifeSavingDivorce.com/interviews
Life-Saving Divorce Email Signup: LifeSavingDivorce.com/courage
In Part 2, Shirley Fessel, author of the women’s workbook “Redemption from Biblical Battering,” talks about the importance of anger, and harnessing that energy to move away from danger. She discusses the 7 Levels of Confusion that abuse victims go through before they can finally leave. And she tells us her secret of rejecting the voices in your head that say you’re a second-class Christian and disqualified from serving God after a divorce. She also talks about having one child (the youngest who was a 1.5 years old) who sided with her ex-husband.
In Part 1, she tells her story of being an idealistic generous young woman who wanted to serve the Lord. She fell in love with a Christian man who confiscated her paychecks for 10 years and didn't give her money for clothes. Find out about the financial abuse and violence in the marriage. youtu.be/dB20TR3nXUA
Shirley's Story
PART 1: youtu.be/dB20TR3nXUA
PART 2: youtu.be/ioY3QWQNNXw
PART 3: youtu.be/ZPpDvGLZyl0
Her website and contact form: ShirleyFessel.com
HOST
Gretchen Baskerville is a Christian divorce recovery leader and researcher. For more than 20 years, she has worked with Christian women and men going through difficult, life-saving divorces, listening with compassion to those who have suffered from domestic violence, betrayal, infidelity, and emotional abuse. She helps heartbroken people find strength and courage and healing.
Her book, "The Life-Saving Divorce" is about the 40% of divorces that are for very serious reasons. She will give you optimism about your children's future (nearly 8 in 10 children turn out fine after divorce, according to top researchers); and will help you understand emotional abuse, "gaslighting," the abuse cycle, and tips for surviving high-conflict divorces.
What's a Life-Saving Divorce? A Life-Saving Divorce is a divorce for the serious reasons: a pattern of chronic emotional abuse, infidelity, domestic violence, sexual immorality, felony behavior, neglect, substance abuse, etc.
How to Get the Book, "The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships"
Paperback Book/Kindle via Amazon: amzn.to/3CCBsnr As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Follow Gretchen Baskerville:
Subscribe to Gretchen's You Tube channel: youtube.com/channel/UCRgtUNfTlYIRDt8iOK6XPKQ
Facebook: facebook.com/gretchen.baskerville
Twitter: twitter.com/GGBaskerville
Instagram: instagram.com/gretchenbaskerville
Other helpful links
Website and Blog: LifeSavingDivorce.com
Divorce Story Interviews: LifeSavingDivorce.com/interviews
Life-Saving Divorce Email Signup: LifeSavingDivorce.com/courage
