Letters to an Asexual #46 ("You're too pretty to be asexual!") @swankivy

Uploaded May 2017 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago

This is #46 of a series in which I read correspondence between me and people who have questions, comments, or--more often--misconceptions about asexuality.

In this video, I cover why our physical appearance should not be understood as either a signal for sex or an excuse for why we can't get sex. Our orientation isn't dependent on how other people feel about sex with us.

Letters to an Asexual #46 (Youre too pretty to be asexual!)

Letters to an Asexual #137 (How do I tell if I want romance or sex?)

Letters to an Asexual #134 (Youre ace, so surely you dont respect gay people!)

Letters to an Asexual #68 (I dont HATE aces; I pity them!)

Letters to an Asexual #126 (Why argue publicly?)

Letters to an Asexual #89 (You need to have sex first before you identify as asexual!)

Letters to an Asexual #10 (There is no love without sex!)

Letters to an Asexual #31 (LOL get laid! Wait, why cant you take a joke?)

Letters to an Asexual #109 (I dont want to come out.)

Letters to an Asexual #44 (consider this: its a disorder that needs a cure!)