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Alex Payne was born in Uzbekistan and raised in a post Soviet environment before living briefly in Moscow. He moved to the U.S. at 16 and talks about learning to rebuild from scratch, then stacking real life work experience before ever putting on a uniform. He didn’t start policing at 21. He entered the job later, after corporate work and customer service, and he’s direct about why that mattered. In his view, the street doesn’t care how motivated you are, it cares whether you can manage people, stay calm, and make decisions when somebody’s worst day becomes your problem.
Alex walks through a law enforcement career that gave him purpose and also tested his trust in the organization behind the badge. He describes calls that never leave you, including scenes involving children, and he doesn’t pretend the job is clean or predictable. He also recounts being ambushed and how that reinforced a mindset he repeats throughout the conversation: tomorrow isn’t guaranteed, so don’t live on autopilot.
The turning point in his story is an in-custody death that he says triggered a long stretch of internal pressure. He explains how an internal affairs finding he labels “administrator disapproval” became fuel for a civil lawsuit. He talks about the depositions, the case dragging on into 2020, and being on his way out while he still had an open lawsuit and multiple internal investigations. He describes feeling more worried about his department than working nights in South Central, and he ties that to why he lateraled and rebuilt his career in Santa Monica. He says those years became the best stretch of his time on the job, and it’s also where his personal life changed, meeting his wife and starting a family.
Now retired, he lays out what he does today, business first. He runs a turnkey commercial asset operation that designs, furnishes, and clears out offices and buildings, including full liquidations. He also mentions a logistics company, a media company, and his own podcast. If you’re a veteran or first responder thinking about transition, this episode stays in the real world: identity, loyalty, pressure, and what it looks like to walk away while you’re still carrying unfinished business.
The best podcast for military veterans, police officers, firefighters, and first responders preparing for veteran transition and life after service. Helping you plan and implement strategies to prepare for your transition into civilian life.
Follow the show and share it with another veteran or first responder who would enjoy this.
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EPISODE BLOG AND CONNECT WITH ALEX:
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CHAPTERS
00:00:00 — Intro, Perspective, and Loving the Job
00:06:52 — Who Should Be a Cop and Why Standards Matter
00:11:30 — Fear of the Department vs Fear of the Street
00:15:30 — Physical Fitness, Ego, and Real Policing
00:24:56 — Growing Up Under Communism and Survival
00:31:48 — Immigration, Sacrifice, and Becoming American
00:38:12 — From Medicine to Gangs and Criminology
00:46:30 — Hiring Standards, Backgrounds, and Reality
01:01:00 — In-Custody Death and Internal Affairs Fallout
01:21:27 — The Cost of the Job and Moral Reckoning
01:43:19 — Business Stress, Identity, and Purpose
02:09:47 — Brotherhood, Accountability, and Final Advice
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Alex Payne was born in Uzbekistan and raised in a post Soviet environment before living briefly in Moscow. He moved to the U.S. at 16 and talks about learning to rebuild from scratch, then stacking real life work experience before ever putting on a uniform. He didn’t start policing at 21. He entered the job later, after corporate work and customer service, and he’s direct about why that mattered. In his view, the street doesn’t care how motivated you are, it cares whether you can manage people, stay calm, and make decisions when somebody’s worst day becomes your problem.
Alex walks through a law enforcement career that gave him purpose and also tested his trust in the organization behind the badge. He describes calls that never leave you, including scenes involving children, and he doesn’t pretend the job is clean or predictable. He also recounts being ambushed and how that reinforced a mindset he repeats throughout the conversation: tomorrow isn’t guaranteed, so don’t live on autopilot.
The turning point in his story is an in-custody death that he says triggered a long stretch of internal pressure. He explains how an internal affairs finding he labels “administrator disapproval” became fuel for a civil lawsuit. He talks about the depositions, the case dragging on into 2020, and being on his way out while he still had an open lawsuit and multiple internal investigations. He describes feeling more worried about his department than working nights in South Central, and he ties that to why he lateraled and rebuilt his career in Santa Monica. He says those years became the best stretch of his time on the job, and it’s also where his personal life changed, meeting his wife and starting a family.
Now retired, he lays out what he does today, business first. He runs a turnkey commercial asset operation that designs, furnishes, and clears out offices and buildings, including full liquidations. He also mentions a logistics company, a media company, and his own podcast. If you’re a veteran or first responder thinking about transition, this episode stays in the real world: identity, loyalty, pressure, and what it looks like to walk away while you’re still carrying unfinished business.
The best podcast for military veterans, police officers, firefighters, and first responders preparing for veteran transition and life after service. Helping you plan and implement strategies to prepare for your transition into civilian life.
Follow the show and share it with another veteran or first responder who would enjoy this.
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QUESTIONS OR COMMENTS:
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EPISODE BLOG AND CONNECT WITH ALEX:
transitiondrillpodcast.com/post/alex-payne-from-uzbekistan-to-american-law-enforcement-lapd-ias-transition-and-early-retirement
CHAPTERS
00:00:00 — Intro, Perspective, and Loving the Job
00:06:52 — Who Should Be a Cop and Why Standards Matter
00:11:30 — Fear of the Department vs Fear of the Street
00:15:30 — Physical Fitness, Ego, and Real Policing
00:24:56 — Growing Up Under Communism and Survival
00:31:48 — Immigration, Sacrifice, and Becoming American
00:38:12 — From Medicine to Gangs and Criminology
00:46:30 — Hiring Standards, Backgrounds, and Reality
01:01:00 — In-Custody Death and Internal Affairs Fallout
01:21:27 — The Cost of the Job and Moral Reckoning
01:43:19 — Business Stress, Identity, and Purpose
02:09:47 — Brotherhood, Accountability, and Final Advice
SPONSORS:
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![Marine Corps Combat Engineer: War, Brotherhood, and Wearing Toughness as a Mask. Antonio Bonfiglio
Antonio Bonfiglio, GWOT Iraq combat veteran, in Episode 231 of the Transition Drill Podcast explores transition and identity for veterans and first responders navigating the messy middle between “who I was” and “who I’m becoming.” You’ll hear Antonio on combat deployments, what it takes to rebuild your life, and working for the Wounded Warrior Project.
He was born in New Jersey, raised in South Florida, then got pulled back to New Jersey at 13 and hated it. Hockey was his identity in Florida, and when that fell away, he started chasing status in the wrong places. He talks about a going-away party, getting caught with weed when the cops showed up, and how fast one “stupid decision” can change how your parents see you and what doors stay open.
In 2003, he enlists in the Marine Corps on an open contract and ships off to Parris Island. He goes from boot camp to Marine Combat Training to combat engineer school, then hits his first unit in November 2003: 2nd Combat Engineer Battalion, 2nd Marine Division. His first deployment is January 2005, was to Fallujah right after Operation Phantom Fury. To the question “where did you grow up,” Antonio often says, “Iraq.” He shares the kind of stories that sound funny until you feel what’s underneath them.
After the Marines, Antonio runs into the next kind of fight: school, work, relationships, and trying to fit into normal life while still acting like everything’s a mission. He talks about using education benefits, clashing with a professor, trying to get hired by the NYPD, and watching his life drift into dead end jobs, partying, gaining weight, and a layoff in the 2009 economic collapse. The throughline isn’t perfection. It’s the honest look at how a “tough guy” identity can protect you early, then trap you later, until you finally decide to change how you’re living.
Today he’s turned his life around, he’s now married and has a couple children. He’s been working for the Wounded Warrior Project for the past 6 years, and though he’s helping other’s who, “raised their right hand” as a physical fitness instructor, he’s found his own treatment helping others through their journey. His new passions are sailing and jiu-jitsu, both he found through veteran non-profits.
The best podcast for military veterans, police officers, firefighters, and first responders preparing for veteran transition and life after service. Helping you plan and implement strategies to prepare for your transition into civilian life. Follow the show and share it with another veteran or first responder who would enjoy this.
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QUESTIONS OR COMMENTS:
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EPISODE BLOG PAGE AND CONNECT WITH ANTONIO:
https://www.transitiondrillpodcast.com/post/transition-drill-podcast-marine-corps-combat-engineer-to-wounded-warrior-project-antonio-bonfiglio
CHAPTERS
[0:00:00] - Intro: The “Tough Guy” Lie
[0:03:10] - Seven Siblings, Always Feeling “Small”
[0:06:18] - Asthma, Allergies, Always “The Sick One”
[0:09:19] - Bullied Young: Needing to Stand Up
[0:15:00] - Dad’s Wild Age Gap + Bus Driver Story
[0:17:16] - Half-Siblings, Same Holidays, Same Love
[0:22:11] - Sports, Hockey, Mischief, and Status
[0:27:12] - Trying to Belong to His Brother’s Crowd
[0:33:48] - The Phone Call That Sold the House
[0:35:26] - Betrayed: Dragged Back to New Jersey
[0:38:40] - Hockey Was His Identity—Then It Died
[0:41:11] - Pot + Cops at the Going Away Party
[0:44:51] - No More Hockey Camp: Consequences
[0:47:18] - More Time = More Trouble
[0:50:00] - High School: “I Barely Made It”
[0:53:32] - Blue Collar Home: College Wasn’t Real
[0:54:30] - Community College: Show Up, Walk Out
[0:57:41] - Marine Recruiter
[1:01:44] - MEPS: “Just Sign Here”
[1:04:26] - Open Contract: Taking What You Get
[1:07:12] - Boot Camp: The Shock to the System
[1:47:34] - First Deployment: Fallujah (Jan 2005)
[1:47:57] - “I Grew Up in Iraq”
[1:48:46] - Driving Through Fallujah After Phantom Fury
[2:09:48] - Explosives Work: Mistakes Get You Killed
[2:49:16] - San Diego Dream + Holiday Announcements
[2:50:59] Would’ve Taken Any Contract to Get Back In
[2:58:32] Leaving the Corps: Losing the Only “Tribe”
[3:00:00] San Diego Landing: “My Feet Belong Here”
[3:00:11] New Roommates, New Life, and Family
[3:27:33] Wounded Warrior Project: New Mission
[3:37:10] WWP Saved My Life
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