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Sergio Alfaro, Army Medic veteran, in Episode 234 of the Transition Drill Podcast, his experience highlights the importance of preparing for the mental and emotional side of transition, not just the next job or degree, and building support systems early instead of relying on a single post-service plan. Ultimately, his path reinforces that successful transition preparation requires adaptability, self-awareness, and permission to redefine success when the original mission no longer fits.
Sergio talks about Iraq, PTSD, and the long road from wanting to become a doctor to rebuilding a life that actually works. If you’re a veteran or first responder trying to figure out who you are after the job, this one’s for you.
Sergio was born in Los Angeles and grew up in Maywood and Burbank, seeing two very different worlds early on. He joined the Army with a long-term plans of becoming a doctor. In the Army, he became a medic, trained and deployed to Iraq in 2003–2004, based in Hamadi, west of Fallujah. He describes the reality of frequent mortar attacks, watching for IED threats, and the kind of moments that never really leave you. He also shares the loss of his commanding officer overseas, and how survivor’s guilt and “why him, not me” thinking followed him home.
After one enlistment, that turned into four and a half years because of stop-loss, Sergio struggled with trauma, but was hopeful of getting the option for the Army to send him to college to be a doctor. He wanted to keep serving and also go to school, but he ran into the “ask command” reality of the system, and it changed his outlook on staying in. He got out, determined to chase the goal on his own terms.
That drive carries him all the way to acceptance at Harvard Medical School, with the GI Bill and Yellow Ribbon support helping make it possible. But also dealing with PTSD, a medical culture not built for that, and a training path that puts him in a VA inpatient psych ward rotation at the worst possible time. Things spiral, and he shares what it’s like when your identity is tied to one mission and you feel it slipping away.
The second half of this conversation is about what actually helped: support systems, weekly check-ins, and eventually getting connected with Wounded Warrior Project’s Warriors to Work, job fairs, resume feedback, and a shift toward a new career path built around what he always loved most, training and teaching others.
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Sergio Alfaro, Army Medic veteran, in Episode 234 of the Transition Drill Podcast, his experience highlights the importance of preparing for the mental and emotional side of transition, not just the next job or degree, and building support systems early instead of relying on a single post-service plan. Ultimately, his path reinforces that successful transition preparation requires adaptability, self-awareness, and permission to redefine success when the original mission no longer fits.
Sergio talks about Iraq, PTSD, and the long road from wanting to become a doctor to rebuilding a life that actually works. If you’re a veteran or first responder trying to figure out who you are after the job, this one’s for you.
Sergio was born in Los Angeles and grew up in Maywood and Burbank, seeing two very different worlds early on. He joined the Army with a long-term plans of becoming a doctor. In the Army, he became a medic, trained and deployed to Iraq in 2003–2004, based in Hamadi, west of Fallujah. He describes the reality of frequent mortar attacks, watching for IED threats, and the kind of moments that never really leave you. He also shares the loss of his commanding officer overseas, and how survivor’s guilt and “why him, not me” thinking followed him home.
After one enlistment, that turned into four and a half years because of stop-loss, Sergio struggled with trauma, but was hopeful of getting the option for the Army to send him to college to be a doctor. He wanted to keep serving and also go to school, but he ran into the “ask command” reality of the system, and it changed his outlook on staying in. He got out, determined to chase the goal on his own terms.
That drive carries him all the way to acceptance at Harvard Medical School, with the GI Bill and Yellow Ribbon support helping make it possible. But also dealing with PTSD, a medical culture not built for that, and a training path that puts him in a VA inpatient psych ward rotation at the worst possible time. Things spiral, and he shares what it’s like when your identity is tied to one mission and you feel it slipping away.
The second half of this conversation is about what actually helped: support systems, weekly check-ins, and eventually getting connected with Wounded Warrior Project’s Warriors to Work, job fairs, resume feedback, and a shift toward a new career path built around what he always loved most, training and teaching others.
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![Marine Corps Combat Engineer: War, Brotherhood, and Wearing Toughness as a Mask. Antonio Bonfiglio
Antonio Bonfiglio, GWOT Iraq combat veteran, in Episode 231 of the Transition Drill Podcast explores transition and identity for veterans and first responders navigating the messy middle between “who I was” and “who I’m becoming.” You’ll hear Antonio on combat deployments, what it takes to rebuild your life, and working for the Wounded Warrior Project.
He was born in New Jersey, raised in South Florida, then got pulled back to New Jersey at 13 and hated it. Hockey was his identity in Florida, and when that fell away, he started chasing status in the wrong places. He talks about a going-away party, getting caught with weed when the cops showed up, and how fast one “stupid decision” can change how your parents see you and what doors stay open.
In 2003, he enlists in the Marine Corps on an open contract and ships off to Parris Island. He goes from boot camp to Marine Combat Training to combat engineer school, then hits his first unit in November 2003: 2nd Combat Engineer Battalion, 2nd Marine Division. His first deployment is January 2005, was to Fallujah right after Operation Phantom Fury. To the question “where did you grow up,” Antonio often says, “Iraq.” He shares the kind of stories that sound funny until you feel what’s underneath them.
After the Marines, Antonio runs into the next kind of fight: school, work, relationships, and trying to fit into normal life while still acting like everything’s a mission. He talks about using education benefits, clashing with a professor, trying to get hired by the NYPD, and watching his life drift into dead end jobs, partying, gaining weight, and a layoff in the 2009 economic collapse. The throughline isn’t perfection. It’s the honest look at how a “tough guy” identity can protect you early, then trap you later, until you finally decide to change how you’re living.
Today he’s turned his life around, he’s now married and has a couple children. He’s been working for the Wounded Warrior Project for the past 6 years, and though he’s helping other’s who, “raised their right hand” as a physical fitness instructor, he’s found his own treatment helping others through their journey. His new passions are sailing and jiu-jitsu, both he found through veteran non-profits.
The best podcast for military veterans, police officers, firefighters, and first responders preparing for veteran transition and life after service. Helping you plan and implement strategies to prepare for your transition into civilian life. Follow the show and share it with another veteran or first responder who would enjoy this.
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CHAPTERS
[0:00:00] - Intro: The “Tough Guy” Lie
[0:03:10] - Seven Siblings, Always Feeling “Small”
[0:06:18] - Asthma, Allergies, Always “The Sick One”
[0:09:19] - Bullied Young: Needing to Stand Up
[0:15:00] - Dad’s Wild Age Gap + Bus Driver Story
[0:17:16] - Half-Siblings, Same Holidays, Same Love
[0:22:11] - Sports, Hockey, Mischief, and Status
[0:27:12] - Trying to Belong to His Brother’s Crowd
[0:33:48] - The Phone Call That Sold the House
[0:35:26] - Betrayed: Dragged Back to New Jersey
[0:38:40] - Hockey Was His Identity—Then It Died
[0:41:11] - Pot + Cops at the Going Away Party
[0:44:51] - No More Hockey Camp: Consequences
[0:47:18] - More Time = More Trouble
[0:50:00] - High School: “I Barely Made It”
[0:53:32] - Blue Collar Home: College Wasn’t Real
[0:54:30] - Community College: Show Up, Walk Out
[0:57:41] - Marine Recruiter
[1:01:44] - MEPS: “Just Sign Here”
[1:04:26] - Open Contract: Taking What You Get
[1:07:12] - Boot Camp: The Shock to the System
[1:47:34] - First Deployment: Fallujah (Jan 2005)
[1:47:57] - “I Grew Up in Iraq”
[1:48:46] - Driving Through Fallujah After Phantom Fury
[2:09:48] - Explosives Work: Mistakes Get You Killed
[2:49:16] - San Diego Dream + Holiday Announcements
[2:50:59] Would’ve Taken Any Contract to Get Back In
[2:58:32] Leaving the Corps: Losing the Only “Tribe”
[3:00:00] San Diego Landing: “My Feet Belong Here”
[3:00:11] New Roommates, New Life, and Family
[3:27:33] Wounded Warrior Project: New Mission
[3:37:10] WWP Saved My Life
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