Uploaded October 2025 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
When the system breaks, it’s women — especially Black women — who end up carrying more.
In this powerful and personal episode, I open up about how the government shutdown, paused SNAP benefits, and mass job losses among Black women in 2025 have affected my life and my community. I’m talmbout the invisible load so many of us are carrying — emotionally, financially, spiritually — and how to protect your peace when the world feels heavy.
Because strength doesn’t have to mean suffering. Softness is not weakness. It’s survival.
If you’ve been feeling stretched thin, unseen, or like you’re the only one holding it all together — this conversation is for you.
🕊️ I’m talmbout:
• How 300,000 Black women lost jobs in 2025 — and what that really means
• How the government shutdown & SNAP pause are impacting families right now
• Why “being strong” isn’t sustainable anymore
• How to redefine strength through softness, rest, and self-preservation
• Real tools to ground yourself and stay at peace when life feels uncertain
💗 Mentioned in this episode:
→ Check out the Soft Girl Survival System (my signature toolkit for healing & rest)
🌸 Available in my Stan Store → https://stan.store/GraceSandra
💬 If this episode resonated with you, share it with another woman who’s been carrying too much lately.
Tag me on social media — I’d love to hear your story.
#softgirlera #blackwomenhealing #selfcarepodcast #nevillegoddard #restisrevolution
📚MY BOOK
Grace, Actually: Faith, Love, Loss & Black Womanhood
🔗 amzn.to/2I2uqBE
💌SIGN UP FOR MY NEWSLETTER!
substack.com/@outheretrynasurvive
📧 BUSINESS INQUIRIES
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💲TIP JAR
💐Cash app -$gracesandra
🎗SUPPORT
💐Support here: patreon.com/GraceSandra
⚡️CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL
📲INSTAGRAM -instagram.com/grace_sandra_
📲TIK-TOK - tiktok.com/@OutHereTrynaSurvive
📲FACEBOOK -facebook.com/gracesandrawrites
🖇AFFILIATE INFO
Affiliate Links included. I only recommend products & services I use myself & love. Using affiliate links helps me & is no extra cost to you.
🎥EQUIPMENT
📸Camera, Canon Powershot G7X Mark III Kit: amzn.to/3hrLfpe
📸Tripod: amzn.to/2RUfg6a
📸Vlog Tripod: amzn.to/3eS7tix
🎤Mic: amzn.to/33KzQZu
🎤Mic Boot: amzn.to/3vYtPo6
💡Ring light: amzn.to/3eN1BH5
✍🏽Editor: iMovie, Garageband & VLLO
🎶MUSIC
All music & permissions provided by: Epidemic Sound.
🔗 epidemicsound.com/referral/vm2l9
🙏🏾Thank you for watching + liking + commenting + sharing!
🤎Love you, OHTS Fam!
❤️🩹,
Grace
GET TO KNOW ME
//Age: 48
//I swear a little
//Enneagram 7(6w)
//3 kiddos: 19, 15 & 9 yrs. old
//Heritage: Black American + Italian
//Twice Divorced. Now happily in love myself + boo’ed up! 🤎
//Sexual, Verbal, Rape, Narcissistic Domestic Violence SURVIVOR.
//Body positive + Sex Positive
//Black Lives Matter Activist
//Mental Health Advocate
//Diagnosed ADHD, PMDD & CPTSD
//Healing from Complex PTSD using EMDR therapy
//Liberal, Jesus-following, justice oriented, feminist, inclusive, divesting + decolonizing from Evangelical Christianity
//Mental Health Advocate, Writer, Speaker, podcaster, TikTok'er & YouTuber
…& yes I believe in prayer AND manifesting! ✨
When the system breaks, it’s women — especially Black women — who end up carrying more.
In this powerful and personal episode, I open up about how the government shutdown, paused SNAP benefits, and mass job losses among Black women in 2025 have affected my life and my community. I’m talmbout the invisible load so many of us are carrying — emotionally, financially, spiritually — and how to protect your peace when the world feels heavy.
Because strength doesn’t have to mean suffering. Softness is not weakness. It’s survival.
If you’ve been feeling stretched thin, unseen, or like you’re the only one holding it all together — this conversation is for you.
🕊️ I’m talmbout:
• How 300,000 Black women lost jobs in 2025 — and what that really means
• How the government shutdown & SNAP pause are impacting families right now
• Why “being strong” isn’t sustainable anymore
• How to redefine strength through softness, rest, and self-preservation
• Real tools to ground yourself and stay at peace when life feels uncertain
💗 Mentioned in this episode:
→ Check out the Soft Girl Survival System (my signature toolkit for healing & rest)
🌸 Available in my Stan Store → https://stan.store/GraceSandra
💬 If this episode resonated with you, share it with another woman who’s been carrying too much lately.
Tag me on social media — I’d love to hear your story.
#softgirlera #blackwomenhealing #selfcarepodcast #nevillegoddard #restisrevolution
📚MY BOOK
Grace, Actually: Faith, Love, Loss & Black Womanhood
🔗 amzn.to/2I2uqBE
💌SIGN UP FOR MY NEWSLETTER!
substack.com/@outheretrynasurvive
📧 BUSINESS INQUIRIES
outheretrynasurvive@gmail.com
💲TIP JAR
💐Cash app -$gracesandra
🎗SUPPORT
💐Support here: patreon.com/GraceSandra
⚡️CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL
📲INSTAGRAM -instagram.com/grace_sandra_
📲TIK-TOK - tiktok.com/@OutHereTrynaSurvive
📲FACEBOOK -facebook.com/gracesandrawrites
🖇AFFILIATE INFO
Affiliate Links included. I only recommend products & services I use myself & love. Using affiliate links helps me & is no extra cost to you.
🎥EQUIPMENT
📸Camera, Canon Powershot G7X Mark III Kit: amzn.to/3hrLfpe
📸Tripod: amzn.to/2RUfg6a
📸Vlog Tripod: amzn.to/3eS7tix
🎤Mic: amzn.to/33KzQZu
🎤Mic Boot: amzn.to/3vYtPo6
💡Ring light: amzn.to/3eN1BH5
✍🏽Editor: iMovie, Garageband & VLLO
🎶MUSIC
All music & permissions provided by: Epidemic Sound.
🔗 epidemicsound.com/referral/vm2l9
🙏🏾Thank you for watching + liking + commenting + sharing!
🤎Love you, OHTS Fam!
❤️🩹,
Grace
GET TO KNOW ME
//Age: 48
//I swear a little
//Enneagram 7(6w)
//3 kiddos: 19, 15 & 9 yrs. old
//Heritage: Black American + Italian
//Twice Divorced. Now happily in love myself + boo’ed up! 🤎
//Sexual, Verbal, Rape, Narcissistic Domestic Violence SURVIVOR.
//Body positive + Sex Positive
//Black Lives Matter Activist
//Mental Health Advocate
//Diagnosed ADHD, PMDD & CPTSD
//Healing from Complex PTSD using EMDR therapy
//Liberal, Jesus-following, justice oriented, feminist, inclusive, divesting + decolonizing from Evangelical Christianity
//Mental Health Advocate, Writer, Speaker, podcaster, TikTok'er & YouTuber
…& yes I believe in prayer AND manifesting! ✨
