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GET TO KNOW ME
//Age: 48
//I swear a little
//Enneagram 7(6w)
//3 kiddos: 19, 15 & 9 yrs. old
//Heritage: Black American + Italian
//Twice Divorced. Now happily in love myself + boo’ed up! 🤎
//Sexual, Verbal, Rape, Narcissistic Domestic Violence SURVIVOR.
//Body positive + Sex Positive
//Black Lives Matter Activist
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//Diagnosed ADHD, PMDD & CPTSD
//Healing from Complex PTSD using EMDR therapy
//Liberal, Jesus-following, justice oriented, feminist, inclusive, divesting + decolonizing from Evangelical Christianity
//Mental Health Advocate, Writer, Speaker, podcaster, TikTok'er & YouTuber
…& yes I believe in prayer AND manifesting! ✨✨✨✨
SUMMARY:
Why are women suddenly embarrassed to have boyfriends? From soft launches to blurred faces, we’ve entered a new era of quiet love — where privacy is power, and public romance feels almost taboo. In this episode, I unpack the British Vogue article “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing?” and reflects on what this cultural shift means for women, relationships, and identity in 2025.
In this episode, Grace explores the viral Vogue article asking: “Is having a boyfriend embarrassing?”
Once upon a time, women were rewarded for sharing their relationships online — for being visibly coupled, chosen, and partnered. But today, that dynamic has flipped. From “soft launches” to blurred wedding photos, women are rethinking what love looks like in public.
Grace reflects on how this new cultural moment intersects with generational shifts, feminism, social media performance, and her own experience loving privately after divorce.
💭 Topics Covered:
The “Boyfriend Land” phenomenon
Why Gen Z & Millennials are rejecting public romance
Privacy as sovereignty for Gen X women
The performance of femininity and the politics of being single
Why hiding your partner isn’t about shame — it’s about self-preservation
#ohtspodcast
#GraceSandra
#OutHereTrynaSurvive
#PodcastEssay
#CulturalCommentary
#VogueArticle
#Relationships2025
#BoyfriendEmbarrassmentEra
#SoftLaunchCulture
#ModernLove
#FeminismToday
#GenZCulture
#MillennialWomen
#Heterofatalism
#PrivacyIsPower
#SocialMediaCulture
💻My Digital Products - https://stan.store/GraceSandra/
📚MY BOOK
Grace, Actually: Faith, Love, Loss & Black Womanhood
🔗 amzn.to/2I2uqBE
💌SIGN UP FOR MY NEWSLETTER!
substack.com/@outheretrynasurvive
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🎗SUPPORT
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📲INSTAGRAM -instagram.com/grace_sandra_
📲TIK-TOK - tiktok.com/@OutHereTrynaSurvive
📲FACEBOOK -facebook.com/gracesandrawrites
🖇AFFILIATE INFO
Affiliate Links included. I only recommend products & services I use myself & love. Using affiliate links helps me & is no extra cost to you.
🎥EQUIPMENT
📸Camera, Canon Powershot G7X Mark III Kit: amzn.to/3hrLfpe
📸Tripod: amzn.to/2RUfg6a
📸Vlog Tripod: amzn.to/3eS7tix
🎤Mic: amzn.to/33KzQZu
🎤Mic Boot: amzn.to/3vYtPo6
💡Ring light: amzn.to/3eN1BH5
✍🏽Editor: iMovie, Garageband & VLLO
🎶MUSIC🎶
All music & permissions provided by: Epidemic Sound.
🔗 epidemicsound.com/referral/vm2l9
🙏🏾Thank you for watching + liking + commenting + sharing!
🤎Love you, OHTS Fam! 🤎
GET TO KNOW ME
//Age: 48
//I swear a little
//Enneagram 7(6w)
//3 kiddos: 19, 15 & 9 yrs. old
//Heritage: Black American + Italian
//Twice Divorced. Now happily in love myself + boo’ed up! 🤎
//Sexual, Verbal, Rape, Narcissistic Domestic Violence SURVIVOR.
//Body positive + Sex Positive
//Black Lives Matter Activist
//Mental Health Advocate
//Diagnosed ADHD, PMDD & CPTSD
//Healing from Complex PTSD using EMDR therapy
//Liberal, Jesus-following, justice oriented, feminist, inclusive, divesting + decolonizing from Evangelical Christianity
//Mental Health Advocate, Writer, Speaker, podcaster, TikTok'er & YouTuber
…& yes I believe in prayer AND manifesting! ✨✨✨✨
SUMMARY:
Why are women suddenly embarrassed to have boyfriends? From soft launches to blurred faces, we’ve entered a new era of quiet love — where privacy is power, and public romance feels almost taboo. In this episode, I unpack the British Vogue article “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing?” and reflects on what this cultural shift means for women, relationships, and identity in 2025.
In this episode, Grace explores the viral Vogue article asking: “Is having a boyfriend embarrassing?”
Once upon a time, women were rewarded for sharing their relationships online — for being visibly coupled, chosen, and partnered. But today, that dynamic has flipped. From “soft launches” to blurred wedding photos, women are rethinking what love looks like in public.
Grace reflects on how this new cultural moment intersects with generational shifts, feminism, social media performance, and her own experience loving privately after divorce.
💭 Topics Covered:
The “Boyfriend Land” phenomenon
Why Gen Z & Millennials are rejecting public romance
Privacy as sovereignty for Gen X women
The performance of femininity and the politics of being single
Why hiding your partner isn’t about shame — it’s about self-preservation
#ohtspodcast
#GraceSandra
#OutHereTrynaSurvive
#PodcastEssay
#CulturalCommentary
#VogueArticle
#Relationships2025
#BoyfriendEmbarrassmentEra
#SoftLaunchCulture
#ModernLove
#FeminismToday
#GenZCulture
#MillennialWomen
#Heterofatalism
#PrivacyIsPower
#SocialMediaCulture
