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I share ideas, tools and things I’m building to help you act with more confidence, clarity and self-trust for free here:
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0:00 The bottom line of this video
1:38 What we’re going to cover…
2:14 Opening quote from Socrates
2:48 (1) What actually is self care?
7:30 (2) What is self-compassion?
14:12 (3) Why self-criticism doesn’t work
25:33 The self compassion gym
27:08 (1) Analyse your current beliefs of self compassion
28:09 (2) What is your self talk like?
29:38 (3) Write a letter to yourself from the perspective of a loving, caring friend
31:11 (4) Find your values
36:45 (5) Realise those who argue against self compassion still practice it
38:55 (6) Natural vs unnatural desires
41:07 (7) Cook for yourself
43:11 (8) Be in the right place (Topofilia)
46:40 (9) Befriend your inner critic
48:06 (10) Replace judgemental thoughts with factual ones
50:15 (11) You are not a computer
59:15 (12) Set “do” rather than “don’t do” goals
59:59 (13) Unfollow people who make you feel insecure
1:01:03 (14) Admit what you want
1:02:35 (15) Your presence has purpose
1:07:29 Outro rizz
References:
Mark Manson Values video:
youtu.be/uvXdMPNhp9M?si=4ZTVEXS9RceDXE0T
My values video:
youtu.be/iYPvgeYGDhg?si=Yp1fx9K4gBi3Swq_
All articles read for this video:
(Topofilia):
psyche.co/ideas/place-authenticity-is-an-important-overlooked-part-of-life
You’re not a computer:
psyche.co/ideas/youre-not-a-computer-youre-a-tiny-stone-in-a-beautiful-mosaic
Christina Chywl:
psyche.co/ideas/self-compassion-is-not-self-indulgence-heres-how-to-try-it
Cooking:
psyche.co/guides/how-to-use-kitchen-therapy-to-nourish-your-sense-of-self
I share ideas, tools and things I’m building to help you act with more confidence, clarity and self-trust for free here:
newelofknowledge.com
your support (a coffee a month) helps keep what I do alive 🥹, ily either way:
youtube.com/channel/UC5fy9izAhlANCISUdU8quDg/join
Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb
X: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow
Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/1FRO4KMCcP09uojMjo4Xi2?si=e1d9ac403b214520
0:00 The bottom line of this video
1:38 What we’re going to cover…
2:14 Opening quote from Socrates
2:48 (1) What actually is self care?
7:30 (2) What is self-compassion?
14:12 (3) Why self-criticism doesn’t work
25:33 The self compassion gym
27:08 (1) Analyse your current beliefs of self compassion
28:09 (2) What is your self talk like?
29:38 (3) Write a letter to yourself from the perspective of a loving, caring friend
31:11 (4) Find your values
36:45 (5) Realise those who argue against self compassion still practice it
38:55 (6) Natural vs unnatural desires
41:07 (7) Cook for yourself
43:11 (8) Be in the right place (Topofilia)
46:40 (9) Befriend your inner critic
48:06 (10) Replace judgemental thoughts with factual ones
50:15 (11) You are not a computer
59:15 (12) Set “do” rather than “don’t do” goals
59:59 (13) Unfollow people who make you feel insecure
1:01:03 (14) Admit what you want
1:02:35 (15) Your presence has purpose
1:07:29 Outro rizz
References:
Mark Manson Values video:
youtu.be/uvXdMPNhp9M?si=4ZTVEXS9RceDXE0T
My values video:
youtu.be/iYPvgeYGDhg?si=Yp1fx9K4gBi3Swq_
All articles read for this video:
(Topofilia):
psyche.co/ideas/place-authenticity-is-an-important-overlooked-part-of-life
You’re not a computer:
psyche.co/ideas/youre-not-a-computer-youre-a-tiny-stone-in-a-beautiful-mosaic
Christina Chywl:
psyche.co/ideas/self-compassion-is-not-self-indulgence-heres-how-to-try-it
Cooking:
psyche.co/guides/how-to-use-kitchen-therapy-to-nourish-your-sense-of-self
