Uploaded February 2026 | Updated September 2026, 12 hours ago

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0:00 Fault vs responsibility…
1:19 (1) The etymology
3:04 (2) You can’t stop people making demands on your time/energy, but…
5:14 (3) Your assertiveness role model isn’t arrogant, that’s why they’re your role model
7:08 (4) Being assertive is the most loving thing you can do
12:19 (5) You’re going to 🪦, so stop choking
13:30 (6) Assertiveness is like a new language - it takes years of practice
13:54 The low stakes tool you can use right now to be more assertive
15:55 Books to read