Simons Book Club | How to Speak with Nonviolent Communication @SimonsBookClub | Uploaded November 2022 | Updated October 2024, 1 hour ago.
Nonviolent Communication flows in four steps: Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests. Just following those steps doesn’t guarantee nonviolence, though, as these steps can still be done with the intent to control people, and to make them do what we want, which isn’t what Nonviolence is about. So, I’m going to expand on these steps, and to explain the compassionate intent behind each.
In my first video, I talked about how violence gets in the way of empathy, and how the violence in our language blocks compassionate connection, and so this guide here to Nonviolent Communication expands on that video, and outlines the NVC process, with the intent to stay compassionate and connected, and without falling back into old patterns of violence. If you haven’t seen the first video over @eatyourkimchi and you’re unsure what I mean when I talk about “violence,” check it out here.
☞ youtu.be/J8yLEC6uhN8
I mentioned in my video on “All About Love,” how I want to dedicate my life to love. With these videos, I want to put my time into spreading messages of love, compassion, empathy, mindfulness, presence, connection, and peace, and I plan to do so through sharing the ideas of very impactful books. This is a project that I find great meaning in, and I hope it’s something that resonates with you as well. If it does, I ask that you please support me and this project on Patreon:
☞ patreon.com/simonsbookclub
If Nonviolent Communication interests you, check out the book. There’s so much more in there than I could talk about in these videos, and I’ll get back to these ideas in future videos.
☞ cnvc.org/bookstore/books/NVC-A-Language-of-Life-3rd-Edition
☞ amzn.to/3A7EGR1
Here’s that video on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs I mentioned
☞ youtu.be/oJGqhcE3r7A
And along with that, here’s NVC’s List of Feelings..
☞ cnvc.org/training/resource/feelings-inventory
…and their List of Needs
☞ cnvc.org/training/resource/needs-inventory
Both lists are from
(c) 2005 by Center for Nonviolent Communication☞ Website: cnvc.org Email: cnvc@cnvc.org☞ Phone: +1.505-244-4041
If you’re interested in Nonviolent Communication, the Center for Nonviolent Communication is starting a ten month program this weekend, as of November 12th. I’ll be participating in it as well. Check it out!
☞ community.nvcrising.org/registration
0:00 Introduction
44:05 Nonviolent Communication used Violently
1:54 The spirit of Nonviolent Communication
2:40 The Four Steps of the Nonviolent Communication Process
4:21 Step 1: Observations
5:53 Separating Judgments from Observations
6:40 Double Standards
8:09 Violence preventing growth
9:32 Step 2: Feelings
10:28 Lack of Emotional Education
11:34 Hiding Judgments in our Feelings
12:51 Feeling vs Non-Feeling words
14:31 Emotional Responsibility
16:37 Emotional Slavery
19:02 Step 3: Needs
21:50 Connecting with Our Needs
23:22 Listening with Empathy to People’s Needs
24:42 Shame in Expressing Needs
25:52 Santa Claus Attitude
27:45 The Joy in Fulfilling the Needs of Others
29:24 Closing this already long video
31:12 How Emotions Are Made
#nonviolentcommuncation #compassion #communication
Nonviolent Communication flows in four steps: Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests. Just following those steps doesn’t guarantee nonviolence, though, as these steps can still be done with the intent to control people, and to make them do what we want, which isn’t what Nonviolence is about. So, I’m going to expand on these steps, and to explain the compassionate intent behind each.
In my first video, I talked about how violence gets in the way of empathy, and how the violence in our language blocks compassionate connection, and so this guide here to Nonviolent Communication expands on that video, and outlines the NVC process, with the intent to stay compassionate and connected, and without falling back into old patterns of violence. If you haven’t seen the first video over @eatyourkimchi and you’re unsure what I mean when I talk about “violence,” check it out here.
☞ youtu.be/J8yLEC6uhN8
I mentioned in my video on “All About Love,” how I want to dedicate my life to love. With these videos, I want to put my time into spreading messages of love, compassion, empathy, mindfulness, presence, connection, and peace, and I plan to do so through sharing the ideas of very impactful books. This is a project that I find great meaning in, and I hope it’s something that resonates with you as well. If it does, I ask that you please support me and this project on Patreon:
☞ patreon.com/simonsbookclub
If Nonviolent Communication interests you, check out the book. There’s so much more in there than I could talk about in these videos, and I’ll get back to these ideas in future videos.
☞ cnvc.org/bookstore/books/NVC-A-Language-of-Life-3rd-Edition
☞ amzn.to/3A7EGR1
Here’s that video on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs I mentioned
☞ youtu.be/oJGqhcE3r7A
And along with that, here’s NVC’s List of Feelings..
☞ cnvc.org/training/resource/feelings-inventory
…and their List of Needs
☞ cnvc.org/training/resource/needs-inventory
Both lists are from
(c) 2005 by Center for Nonviolent Communication☞ Website: cnvc.org Email: cnvc@cnvc.org☞ Phone: +1.505-244-4041
If you’re interested in Nonviolent Communication, the Center for Nonviolent Communication is starting a ten month program this weekend, as of November 12th. I’ll be participating in it as well. Check it out!
☞ community.nvcrising.org/registration
0:00 Introduction
44:05 Nonviolent Communication used Violently
1:54 The spirit of Nonviolent Communication
2:40 The Four Steps of the Nonviolent Communication Process
4:21 Step 1: Observations
5:53 Separating Judgments from Observations
6:40 Double Standards
8:09 Violence preventing growth
9:32 Step 2: Feelings
10:28 Lack of Emotional Education
11:34 Hiding Judgments in our Feelings
12:51 Feeling vs Non-Feeling words
14:31 Emotional Responsibility
16:37 Emotional Slavery
19:02 Step 3: Needs
21:50 Connecting with Our Needs
23:22 Listening with Empathy to People’s Needs
24:42 Shame in Expressing Needs
25:52 Santa Claus Attitude
27:45 The Joy in Fulfilling the Needs of Others
29:24 Closing this already long video
31:12 How Emotions Are Made
#nonviolentcommuncation #compassion #communication
