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In the movie Yes Man, Jim Carrey makes a covenant with himself to say yes to every opportunity that comes his way. But I think that the problem many of us have is not that we don't say no enough…
Saying yes comes at a price. When you say yes to one thing, you’re also saying no to something else. And when you say yes to everything, you really aren’t saying yes to anything.
But if you learn the power of saying no, you create the space to say yes to things that align with your values and truly commit to them.
So today I want to discuss the art of saying no. When you say no more often, you’re actually saying yes to living the life you want to live. And at the end, I’ll give you a few actionable tips on how to say no effectively.
Resources mentioned in video:
• Yes Man (2008): imdb.com/title/tt1068680
• The Ultimate Productivity Hack is Saying No: jamesclear.com/saying-no
• The Art of Saying No: forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2013/03/11/the-art-of-saying-no/?sh=5a13574ca892
• A Very Honest Conversation with Yes Theory: youtu.be/3vbZvRHpM8w
• The Power of a Positive No - William Ury: https://a.co/d/2pHfTRV
• Four Thousand Weeks - Oliver Burkeman: https://a.co/d/4pNNjFp
• How to Live a Rich Life: iwillteachyoutoberich.com/how-to-live-a-rich-life
• The Art Of War Paperback - Sun Tzu: https://a.co/d/cwsKvI1
00:00 Intro
00:57 Why do we say yes so often?
02:47 The power of saying no
05:57 How to say no
05:59 1. Figure out your underlying yes
07:33 2. Have a plan B
09:06 3. Build a golden bridge
– WHAT TO WATCH NEXT –
Why Stillness Is The Key To Happiness: youtu.be/JFp-YiO9BRw
– LINKS –
📚 Interesting books to read:
• Stoicism For Beginners: https://a.co/d/hPU8GTX
• Minimalism 101: https://a.co/d/bJkA6Lt
• Declutter Your Life: https://a.co/d/carqttB
DISCLAIMER: Some of the links are affiliate links. If you click and make a purchase, I may earn a commission, at no cost to you.
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In the movie Yes Man, Jim Carrey makes a covenant with himself to say yes to every opportunity that comes his way. But I think that the problem many of us have is not that we don't say no enough…
Saying yes comes at a price. When you say yes to one thing, you’re also saying no to something else. And when you say yes to everything, you really aren’t saying yes to anything.
But if you learn the power of saying no, you create the space to say yes to things that align with your values and truly commit to them.
So today I want to discuss the art of saying no. When you say no more often, you’re actually saying yes to living the life you want to live. And at the end, I’ll give you a few actionable tips on how to say no effectively.
Resources mentioned in video:
• Yes Man (2008): imdb.com/title/tt1068680
• The Ultimate Productivity Hack is Saying No: jamesclear.com/saying-no
• The Art of Saying No: forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2013/03/11/the-art-of-saying-no/?sh=5a13574ca892
• A Very Honest Conversation with Yes Theory: youtu.be/3vbZvRHpM8w
• The Power of a Positive No - William Ury: https://a.co/d/2pHfTRV
• Four Thousand Weeks - Oliver Burkeman: https://a.co/d/4pNNjFp
• How to Live a Rich Life: iwillteachyoutoberich.com/how-to-live-a-rich-life
• The Art Of War Paperback - Sun Tzu: https://a.co/d/cwsKvI1
00:00 Intro
00:57 Why do we say yes so often?
02:47 The power of saying no
05:57 How to say no
05:59 1. Figure out your underlying yes
07:33 2. Have a plan B
09:06 3. Build a golden bridge
– WHAT TO WATCH NEXT –
Why Stillness Is The Key To Happiness: youtu.be/JFp-YiO9BRw
– LINKS –
📚 Interesting books to read:
• Stoicism For Beginners: https://a.co/d/hPU8GTX
• Minimalism 101: https://a.co/d/bJkA6Lt
• Declutter Your Life: https://a.co/d/carqttB
DISCLAIMER: Some of the links are affiliate links. If you click and make a purchase, I may earn a commission, at no cost to you.
