Uploaded October 2021 | Updated September 2026, 6 hours ago
Personal size anxiety in men affects performance, body image and relationships. Practical strategies for overcoming size anxiety and how to respond to negative comments or shaming about your size with Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist Michelle from https://www.pelvic exercises.com.au
Timestamps
0:30 How anxiety affects performance
1:24 Practical strategies
2:19 Real facts on average male size
3:50 How size ideals have changed
4:45 Women's attitudes to male size
5:45 How to deal with negative comments about size
There’s currently great pressure on men in relation to personal size, masculinity and perceived performance. This video provides practical strategies for:
1. Overcoming personal size anxiety
2. Responding to negative comments and aprtner shaming about your personal size.
Performance and Size Anxiety
Worry about size causes decreased performance. Anxiety increases the Sympathetic nervous system fight or flight response which decreases your ability to relax and perform.
Size anxiety can cause:
*Low mood
*Relationship avoidance
*Worry
*Anxiety
*Decreased performance
Practical strategies for overcoming size worry and anxiety:
1. Communicate and Talk it Out
-Online support groups
-Talk to your partner about size concerns and fears
-Seek professional counselling strategies to improve your body image and self confidence
2. Know the Facts about Average Size - The Size Myth
Most men believe the normal excited size is 6 inches or larger and this is ‘The Size Myth’. This myth has resulted from inaccurate scientific research and media portrayals that idealise large size, associating it with masculinity, physical appeal and better performance.
Scientific clinical research in the clinic where actual size is measured by clinicians has revealed that average male size is 5.1-5.5 inches long (King et al 2021)
3. Historical Portrayals of Masculinity
Ancient Greek and Roman representations of ideal size differ vastly from society’s current size myth. Small size was previously idealised and portrayed as such in Ancient Greek and Roman sculptures e.g. Zeus and Hercules. Large male size was ridiculed and viewed a sign of stupidity in ancient Greek plays.
4. Most Women DON'T Worry About Male Size
The majority of heterosexual women do not worry about size. Large scientific studies have consistently reported this is the case for example one large study of 26,437 heterosexual women ages of 18 to 65 found that 84% were satisfied with partner size and 2% wished their partner was smaller (Lever et al., 2006).
5. How to Respond to Shaming and Negativity About Your Personal Size
Unfortunately some people can be insensitive about partner size. They might openly and directly criticise your size or performance or they may unconsciously give signals that they’re not impressed or critical and this can really hurt and make you feel down or bad about yourself.
Personal criticism is a form of emotional abuse and is unacceptable.
There are 3 alternatives for dealing with negative comments or attitudes from a partner.
1. Do nothing and possibly risk losing your self respect and self esteem making performance issues even more challenging.
2. Discuss how your partner’s reaction or comment makes YOU feel. Try to focus on the effect of their behaviour on your feelings rather than being critical.
3. You can leave someone who lacks respect for your feelings, knowing that there are other potential partners who are sensitive, respectful and for whom size does not matter.
#sizeanxiety #averagesize #personalsize
References
Bruce M. King 2021 pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32666897
Body Dysmorphia Guide https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Body-Dysmorphia
Video and editing Jonah B
Music That Kid Goran Licensed User
Disclaimer
The information provided in this video is intended as general information and not a substitute for individual medical advice regarding your medical condition. To the extent permitted by law, neither Healthy Fit Solutions Pty Ltd, as trustee for the P & M Kenway Family Trust (“we”), nor any of our officers, employees, agents or related bodies corporate will be liable in any way (including for negligence) for any loss, damage, costs or expenses suffered by you or claims made against you through your use of, or in connection with, this video or information supplied or offered to be supplied on this video. Although we use our best efforts to provide accurate information and other materials on this video, the video is provided “as-is”. To the extent permitted by law, all warranties, conditions and representations provided about or by this video are excluded.
Personal size anxiety in men affects performance, body image and relationships. Practical strategies for overcoming size anxiety and how to respond to negative comments or shaming about your size with Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist Michelle from https://www.pelvic exercises.com.au
Timestamps
0:30 How anxiety affects performance
1:24 Practical strategies
2:19 Real facts on average male size
3:50 How size ideals have changed
4:45 Women's attitudes to male size
5:45 How to deal with negative comments about size
There’s currently great pressure on men in relation to personal size, masculinity and perceived performance. This video provides practical strategies for:
1. Overcoming personal size anxiety
2. Responding to negative comments and aprtner shaming about your personal size.
Performance and Size Anxiety
Worry about size causes decreased performance. Anxiety increases the Sympathetic nervous system fight or flight response which decreases your ability to relax and perform.
Size anxiety can cause:
*Low mood
*Relationship avoidance
*Worry
*Anxiety
*Decreased performance
Practical strategies for overcoming size worry and anxiety:
1. Communicate and Talk it Out
-Online support groups
-Talk to your partner about size concerns and fears
-Seek professional counselling strategies to improve your body image and self confidence
2. Know the Facts about Average Size - The Size Myth
Most men believe the normal excited size is 6 inches or larger and this is ‘The Size Myth’. This myth has resulted from inaccurate scientific research and media portrayals that idealise large size, associating it with masculinity, physical appeal and better performance.
Scientific clinical research in the clinic where actual size is measured by clinicians has revealed that average male size is 5.1-5.5 inches long (King et al 2021)
3. Historical Portrayals of Masculinity
Ancient Greek and Roman representations of ideal size differ vastly from society’s current size myth. Small size was previously idealised and portrayed as such in Ancient Greek and Roman sculptures e.g. Zeus and Hercules. Large male size was ridiculed and viewed a sign of stupidity in ancient Greek plays.
4. Most Women DON'T Worry About Male Size
The majority of heterosexual women do not worry about size. Large scientific studies have consistently reported this is the case for example one large study of 26,437 heterosexual women ages of 18 to 65 found that 84% were satisfied with partner size and 2% wished their partner was smaller (Lever et al., 2006).
5. How to Respond to Shaming and Negativity About Your Personal Size
Unfortunately some people can be insensitive about partner size. They might openly and directly criticise your size or performance or they may unconsciously give signals that they’re not impressed or critical and this can really hurt and make you feel down or bad about yourself.
Personal criticism is a form of emotional abuse and is unacceptable.
There are 3 alternatives for dealing with negative comments or attitudes from a partner.
1. Do nothing and possibly risk losing your self respect and self esteem making performance issues even more challenging.
2. Discuss how your partner’s reaction or comment makes YOU feel. Try to focus on the effect of their behaviour on your feelings rather than being critical.
3. You can leave someone who lacks respect for your feelings, knowing that there are other potential partners who are sensitive, respectful and for whom size does not matter.
#sizeanxiety #averagesize #personalsize
References
Bruce M. King 2021 pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32666897
Body Dysmorphia Guide https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Body-Dysmorphia
Video and editing Jonah B
Music That Kid Goran Licensed User
Disclaimer
The information provided in this video is intended as general information and not a substitute for individual medical advice regarding your medical condition. To the extent permitted by law, neither Healthy Fit Solutions Pty Ltd, as trustee for the P & M Kenway Family Trust (“we”), nor any of our officers, employees, agents or related bodies corporate will be liable in any way (including for negligence) for any loss, damage, costs or expenses suffered by you or claims made against you through your use of, or in connection with, this video or information supplied or offered to be supplied on this video. Although we use our best efforts to provide accurate information and other materials on this video, the video is provided “as-is”. To the extent permitted by law, all warranties, conditions and representations provided about or by this video are excluded.
