Uploaded July 2024 | Updated September 2026, 3 weeks ago

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How can you navigate difficult relationships at work? This video explores how to approach these conversations, tensions, boundaries and how to reset them.

Every week I spend my days coaching design leaders and in these videos, I reflect upon that the common themes and questions that came up in the week.

== TIMESTAMPS ==
00:00 Intro
00:37 Caveats
01:45 Types of acting out behaviours
02:16 Your physical response
02:48 Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn
03:02 Fight
03:19 Flight
03:44 Freeze
04:12 Fawn
04:36 Questions to consider
05:38 Fear and anxiety
06:22 Resetting the conversation
08:03 What do you really want to say?
08:25 Vulnerability
09:09 You can always quit

==LINKS==
- Servant Leadership vs Burnout Martyrdom - youtu.be/Wsj7RwSByNc
- Managing Upwards, Fear & Anxiety and Skydiving – youtu.be/cyuKiGhc0go
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