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Are you a high-functioning woman feeling exhausted by the "emotional labor" of your relationship? Whether you are navigating a high-conflict divorce or trying to save your marriage from burnout, this episode is a must-watch.
In this deep dive, Terri Cole sits down with award-winning family lawyer and co-parenting expert Gabriella Pomari, author of The Collaborative Co-Parent. They explore why so many successful women fall into the trap of over-functioning and how to reclaim your power through "clean" boundaries.
In this video, you’ll learn:
🔹 The 4 Pillars of Communication: Listen, Pause, Reflect, and Respond.
🔹 High-Conflict Strategies: How to handle "emotional bait" and why you don't need permission to set boundaries.
🔹The "Great Divorce" Phenomenon: Why women are hitting a breaking point later in life and how to pivot earlier.
🔹 Business Partner Mentality: Shifting your co-parenting relationship from emotional chaos to a functional partnership.
Practical Guardrails: Using co-parenting apps and "email-only" rules to protect your nervous system.
Stop trying to maintain a "perfect" image at the cost of your mental health. It’s time to stop over-functioning and start living on your own terms.
Find Gabriella at:
https://thecollaborativeco-parent.com.au
instagram.com/thegabriellapomare
📚 Get my books:
Boundary Boss Book: amzn.to/44DZID9
The Boundary Boss Workbook: amzn.to/3Ra7CRU
Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency: hfcbook.com
🪔 Meditate with me:
Insight Timer: https://insig.ht/cpKnbJB4KDb (I have a bunch of free meditations on here and love this app!)
Connect With Me
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Time Stamps
0:00 - Introduction
1:24 - Gabriella Introduction and Origin Story
4:10 - Over-functioning and Emotional Labor in Relationships
5:46 - The Juggling Metaphor and Social Media Perfectionism
10:53 - Boundaries in Co-parenting Relationships
15:23 - Emotional Regulation and Healing
18:36 - Permission to Set Boundaries
22:07 - Over-responsibility vs. Responsiveness
24:57 - Preserving Relationships Through Early Intervention
29:00 - Personal Boundary Struggles and Book Information
31:00 - Conclusion
If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos
youtu.be/P0P7Zxppu9U?si=mh9Q2sfm83-stJ3f - How to Navigate Co-Parenting With Boundaries (Try This!)
youtu.be/D7ThcElDuEk?si=n-FcESFhVOiK1Kw2 - The One Thing Blocking Your Parenting Boundaries with Dafna Lender
youtu.be/msr0MnQWCRM?si=yEa4HyLHxpWa1dCq - Confused About Your Relationship? How to Tell If You Should Stay or Leave
youtu.be/pjEuiIiqOIk?si=YHfImMWaXvJvJM8f - Are you overly attached? 11 ways to heal from codependency
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
🔑 Ready to build healthier relationships? Join: terricole.com/tcm
🌸 Up-level your impact and achieve your goals: terricole.com/flourish
📚 Boundary Boss Book: boundarybossbook.com
📚 Too Much Book: hfcbook.com
Are you a high-functioning woman feeling exhausted by the "emotional labor" of your relationship? Whether you are navigating a high-conflict divorce or trying to save your marriage from burnout, this episode is a must-watch.
In this deep dive, Terri Cole sits down with award-winning family lawyer and co-parenting expert Gabriella Pomari, author of The Collaborative Co-Parent. They explore why so many successful women fall into the trap of over-functioning and how to reclaim your power through "clean" boundaries.
In this video, you’ll learn:
🔹 The 4 Pillars of Communication: Listen, Pause, Reflect, and Respond.
🔹 High-Conflict Strategies: How to handle "emotional bait" and why you don't need permission to set boundaries.
🔹The "Great Divorce" Phenomenon: Why women are hitting a breaking point later in life and how to pivot earlier.
🔹 Business Partner Mentality: Shifting your co-parenting relationship from emotional chaos to a functional partnership.
Practical Guardrails: Using co-parenting apps and "email-only" rules to protect your nervous system.
Stop trying to maintain a "perfect" image at the cost of your mental health. It’s time to stop over-functioning and start living on your own terms.
Find Gabriella at:
https://thecollaborativeco-parent.com.au
instagram.com/thegabriellapomare
📚 Get my books:
Boundary Boss Book: amzn.to/44DZID9
The Boundary Boss Workbook: amzn.to/3Ra7CRU
Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency: hfcbook.com
🪔 Meditate with me:
Insight Timer: https://insig.ht/cpKnbJB4KDb (I have a bunch of free meditations on here and love this app!)
Connect With Me
📸 Instagram: terricole.com/ig
📩 Newsletter: terricole.com/newsletter
Time Stamps
0:00 - Introduction
1:24 - Gabriella Introduction and Origin Story
4:10 - Over-functioning and Emotional Labor in Relationships
5:46 - The Juggling Metaphor and Social Media Perfectionism
10:53 - Boundaries in Co-parenting Relationships
15:23 - Emotional Regulation and Healing
18:36 - Permission to Set Boundaries
22:07 - Over-responsibility vs. Responsiveness
24:57 - Preserving Relationships Through Early Intervention
29:00 - Personal Boundary Struggles and Book Information
31:00 - Conclusion
If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos
youtu.be/P0P7Zxppu9U?si=mh9Q2sfm83-stJ3f - How to Navigate Co-Parenting With Boundaries (Try This!)
youtu.be/D7ThcElDuEk?si=n-FcESFhVOiK1Kw2 - The One Thing Blocking Your Parenting Boundaries with Dafna Lender
youtu.be/msr0MnQWCRM?si=yEa4HyLHxpWa1dCq - Confused About Your Relationship? How to Tell If You Should Stay or Leave
youtu.be/pjEuiIiqOIk?si=YHfImMWaXvJvJM8f - Are you overly attached? 11 ways to heal from codependency
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
